write them down make them small baby step goals reward yourself
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I think you should tell no one, others are saying "tell everyone"..I think telling everyone just serves to make it harder for you, if and when you do slip up- or not measure up to the NYR in some way..If you tell people and then fail , you fell so bad and like a failure,you feel so stresssed and the first thing you want to do is beat up on your self...But if you tell no one and then you fail, you can just get back up again and get back in the game..I think its a powerful thing to keep it between "you and yourself" only..(But then I guess its what ever works for you..)
I love the New Year because of the magic it brings - new beginnings and whatnot. But I try to keep my resolutions general and most importantly adaptable. If they're too rigid, I'll break them for sure. Stay flexible.
And if you HATE going to the gym because of the crowds, but the gym is your NY resolution, think about waiting a couple more weeks to start. Wait until all the other other folks give up on their resolutions and the gym empties out a bit - it'll be much more comfortable and you won't have to wait in line for a machine or anything. I hate the gym in early January - it makes me want to just stay home and avoid the crowds altogether!
My tip is to be honest with yourself. If you've always been a junk-food addict, don't say you're never eating greasy, fatty foods again. If you've been a couch potato your whole life, don't commit to two hours a day, seven days a week in the gym. Look back at your past attempts, see what you accomplished and what you came up short with, and use those guidelines. Maybe you didn't do so hot with swearing off ALL junk food, but you avoided chips for a whole month! Make your resolution to only eat chips one or two times a month. Build from there, and let yourself slip up form time to time - remember, you're only human, and one or two tiny mistakes won't undo all that you've accomplished.
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New Years day comes and goes and so does the resolutions. So I started at the beginning of December. I quit smoking and started exercising. The year was .....1994
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I think about them more as life changes. Meaningful, realistic goals geared toward where I want to go, what I need to get there, what changes I need to get there. Real, lifestyle changes, that are life enhancing, and life changing, unrelated to just weight loss or eating right. Those are empty. So what if you want to lose 10 lbs. then what? How will you do it, and how will you keep it off.
Resolutions and goals aren't just simple thoughts that may or may not happen. They need to be desirable, personal, meaningful, and something you truly want accomplish no matter what it takes.
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My easiest tip--DON'T MAKE NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS!
You can change your life any day of the year--365 opportunities. Why wait for New Years?
Don't start them on 1 January - start them before, or after, or when you are ready, but remember that 1 January may not be the best day - you might be hung over, or having a party, or just busy.
Choose one or two things that you really want to do and make having a NYR an opportunity to start doing it. One of my most successful was resolving to recycle more. I kept it, and am still keeping it now, several years later; I needed the 'resolution' thing to get around to doing something about it.
If a resolution slips, that's not the end of it. Eg if your goal is to stop smoking or lose weight, a little lapse doesn't matter so long as you get back on the wagon again.
We have a ritual (me and my daughter) that started when she was very small. We call them New Year promises not resolutions firstly (probably as that was a word she understood then - but have loved it since as making a promise to oneself and each other emphasises that I am doing something that is special to me (losing weight to be healthy is a promise to do something good for ourselves). We think about them carefully. We start after Christmas and only make about five each (no set number but conscious that it is hard to keep too many). And we write each one on a piece of paper and fold it up and then read them to each other on New Year's day. One by one taking it in turns. We keep them in a jar and remind ourselves of them through the year (that is something we have slipped up on recently and need to reintroduce a monthly reminder) and then report back as part of making our new promises. So promises can be.... things like going away for four weekends the next year and booking them in advance so we do go, or promising to treat our bodies well and eat properly, or invite friends over to have meals/tea/coffee with us at least once a week, or do yoga at least five times every month etc....
First, make my resolutions wanna-do's instead of should-do's. If it's not something I'm excited about, it probably won't last through the middle of January. Second, keep it simple. The more complicated the planning has to be, the less likely I am to stick with it. Third, allow for times I slip up, and resolve to get right back into the program as soon as I can.
Resolutions: Write one chapter a month on my book. This allows time for research, editing and just plain goofing off. Get out and walk five days a week. Take a dog, if practical. Try a new recipe at least once a month.
I frequently run out of momentum and enthusiasm around March. I 'm going to make them again this year, and try harded to stick to them.
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First of all, I try to make my goals easy. Maybe a little too easy, so that it's not a struggle to succeed, and then I build on them. For example, begin by turning off the TV or computer while I eat, and then after a while, start to slow down and try to eat mindfully.
I also like to share my goals with my support system (my husband) and he's usually pretty good about lending a hand if I need it.
Another thing I've started to do recently is take a moment before getting out of bed in the morning to "forecast" my day, review my goal, and think of some possible workarounds for obstacles.
Finally, I tend to not think about my goals as for "the new year" and more as the steps to building a healthier, more "spark"-ling lifestyle, in general.
I agree with several of the others, telling someone keeps you on your toes and accountable if you know someone is keeping tabs on you. Also, don't forget those small steps and goals to get you to the larger ones and reward yourself along the way. Most of all, be honest with yourself about what you are doing and don't make excuses.
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Just be honest with yourself.
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I copied an idea from another sparker. She wrote a blog every week called a WUB. Weekly Update Blog. She wrote 4-5 behaviors she wanted to do often. She was very specific and I think using SMART goals is probably the best idea: specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and gave a time. By weekly making an assessment it forces me to keep the goals in mind. Even if I start to slip, looking at the list so often keeps me going--maybe even for a whole year! If a goal becomes a habit or is just not working, just change it. Oh--one of the goals must be about writing the WUB! That is the one that won't allow you to neglect the resolution(s).
I tell as many people as possible (husband, family, friends, even my clients!). That way everywhere I turn, there are people holding me accountable. The more people I know will be "checking in" with me and my resolutions, the more motivated I am to keep up with them. It's worked with all my other healthy living goals, so I have high hopes for this year's resolutions!
I always fail miserably at new years resolutions. This year I'm going to pick one big goal (think before I speak), and one small one(read an hour a day). By doing this, I'm not overwhelmed by trying to accomplish too many things.
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Don't make any
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Don't lose your motivation when you have a set back. Get right back up and keep going!!
Set short term goals that you can accomplish on the way to your long term goal resolution. OK to use my username.
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I look at the new year ,thats on the way in and ask myself how I can make myself better in this new year ? Then I think of the thing I need/want the most, and and start working on that thing . I can make myself better , why not since I have a whole year to do it..I don't have to do it overnight , since I have that whole year !
This is a great topic. Thanks for sharing, I don't have any good tips but I needed some and I got them from this. I started sticking with SP on adaily basis in October and have lost a few pounds and a few inches. I just plan to keep plugging away at each "taking one day at a time". ok to use my user name
don't make too many resolutions. focus on one or two small changes that you would like to make.
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I start any time that seems good. If I realize I need to change something that is the time to start. I might have to break down the huge idea into small steps but never wait to start. What day of the week most diets start? Tomorrow. Start today!
I've stuck to resolutions by being flexible with the date! I don't necessarily start the resolution on Jan 1st, and will review my progress every so often, allowing myself to restart rather than just give up if I have a lapse. I quit smoking like this.
I like to work on small easy to achieve behaviors instead of things like "loss 50 pounds" I have learned that I have to "set myself up for success" by choosing things that are doable.
Last years resolution was to read the Bible all the way through during 2012 something I hadn't done in about 40 years. And I am right on track to do it. Not sure what I'm going to do for 2013 but thinking something to do with limiting how much time I spend playing computer games. (and at the same time increasing reading or crocheting time)
don't make unreasonable goals. and goals you can adjust monthly are better than unchanging ones. for example, if you're not working out at all, having a goal to work out five hours a week isn't going to happen [or if it does, you'll crash and burn in a few weeks]. but if you make a goal to work out half an hour a week, you can can hit that. if you find yourself consistently doing that, then you should bump up your goal to an hour a week. and you can keep moving up every month as you meet your goals. same for cooking. if you aren't already cooking everything from scratch then then is probably a reason why and deciding to make that your goal is just going to make you pull your hair out after a week. whereas a goal to make one meal from scratch a week is something everyone can fit in. and once a person gets used to one and finds a few recipes they like and shortcuts, that second meal a week becomes more attainable. and if you slide your goals upward as you achieve the old one, it eases you in to new habits instead of changing everything you know at once. and i don't care either way about the username.
sometime in my thirties i quit making new years resolutions. they just made me feel bad when i didn't make them into habits,which would have helped them work. i decided then to just change things when i figured out what i needed to change and leave it at that. i had done all the normal things to make resolutions work. i wrote them down. i made them SMART. i told other people about them. but by march of each year i wasn't doing whatever i resolved. so i resolved to not make them again, and i have been happy ever since.
What works for me is simple; small steps over time, examples; Resolution 1 = better nutrition so the first 3-4 weeks of the new year I'll build more nutritious foods into my diet and focus on that until it's habit and then move on to 2. Resolution 2 = fitness, I'll add gym time or active time for 3-4 weeks until that is also habit. If resolution 1 slips while I'm focusing on resolution 2 then I focus on 1 some more. My resolutions are year round, with a goal, plan, measurable results (exactly what I've read in previous Spark articles on goal setting.
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Accountability helps! Tell someone about your resolution. Sharing your goals takes them from a "nice idea" to reality. List username.
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New Years Resolution: Many New Year days would come and go and so would my resolutions. Start at the beginning of December. That is how i quit smoking and started exercising. List username
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