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1,337 3/22/13 8:37 P
Goodness it's not even the end of March. For sure you've learned some things from your last attempt and will continue to learn more, so it may even be easier this time in some ways. It can still be your year!
The one thing that really stood out to me when I first saw your post was how much weight you had lost and then regained in that period of time. I've only lost 25 pounds since mid-December and I feel like that's doing amazingly well -- you must have been losing at least twice as fast. Is there any possibility you over-restricted yourself? Maybe trying to take it a little slower/easier next time will help reduce the temptation to quit.
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43 3/21/13 11:49 A
You say that you have to eat less and make healthier choices... to start moving more, drinking more water.
So pick just one of these for this week. How about walking the dog for 20 minutes every day? (or 10-15 minutes every day, if the 20 minutes is too hard on your joints, for example.) It will be good for both you and your furry friend. Try to get in the habit.
Then next week, try to work on your water intake. Put a 1/2 gallon pitcher next to your desk every morning. Or make sure that you have a full glass of water before every meal and every snack. Then the following week, eat a salad at dinner every day, or make sure you have a piece of fruit at breakfast. The next week, start tracking your food on the nutrition tracker, or just measure your portions. In one month, you will have 4 healthy new habits.
There are 8 months left in the year. You can develop 32 small, healthy habits. It will make a huge difference in your life, without making a big difference in any given day. (And if you decide in a couple of months that you can walk the dog for 30 minutes instead of 20, it still counts.)
The year is not over and this can be your year. Start small, celebrate your achievements, don't just focus on the big picture, and make changes that are livable. You CAN do this.
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96 3/18/13 8:04 P
I'm so glad I came to this post! I can completely identify with what you wrote, Linda. I've been really struggling--I know what I need to do and that it works, but somehow can't (won't) seem to get it going. I've gained back about 15 pounds that I've lost, and I keep telling myself I'll get back on it, but haven't had much success in the past few months. Thanks to everyone's responses. I really appreciate this community and maybe I should get more involved too!
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33 3/18/13 1:47 P
Please don't give up !!! it's not December 31, 2013 and even if it was as long as it was before 11:59 you'd still have time ...so keep going!...it can still be YOUR YEAR!!!
As was said earlier, this year isn't even halfway over yet!
"I know I need to just quit making excuses, get off my butt and do something."
Okay, so do it. There is absolutely nothing stopping you. Nothing.
As you said, this isn't going to get any easier later. So, do you want to do this this when it's even HARDER? Of course you don't. We ALL had to make this choice. Everyone who is here had to decide to fight the difficult battles. Every. Single. One. Of. Us.
You are strong enough to do this. Get up and do something right now. Not two hours from now. Not ten minutes from now. Move away from the computer and go change your life.
Edited by: LILLIPUTIANNA at: 3/18/2013 (11:27)
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526 3/17/13 7:21 P
come on girl, u can do this, look at all the support u have here. Just one step a a time, one day at a time, one pound at a time. Please read my spark page in its entire text for some motivational help
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2,105 3/17/13 6:36 P
I am going to turn this around on you.
First off, Woo-Hoo for getting out there and taking the dog for a walk! You know, you could have posted just that in the Woo-Hoo section, if only you had the right frame of mind. Next time you do something positive for your health - I don't care what it is - you need to post it there. Start putting yourself in a positive place to help set yourself up for success.
I agree w/ Archi - we need you here more often, and I bet you would feel better being here more often. And don't just hang around w/ your head down in the Panic room. You need - repeat, NEED - to get over in the other sections, especially that Woo-Hoo side. Why, because when you encourage others it starts to seep into your brain that yep, this can be done; look at all these people doing it! And sure enough, you can be one of those people, too. You can bless others and yourself as well.
Also, a motivation board is far, far from lame. It's a wonderful idea!! When I first began, I cut out pics of really nice clothes I wanted to be able to wear. If you're like a lot of us, you probably have clothes in several sizes. So, hang up one item in the next size down from where you're at now. Put a sign on it that says "Goal #1" and hang it in a highly visible place. Every week or two, try it on to gauge your progress. Hey - your scale isn't cutting it for you now anyway, so consider tucking it away for a bit (or forever). Having something highly visible helps to "keep at the forefront" what you're trying to do. Heck, I've taken to inking a big red star w/ a Sharpie on the calendar for days where I've done well. Whatever works, no?
And why can't this be your year? It absolutely can be, without a doubt, 100% for certain can be. All of what you've been going through is part and parcel of the journey. You are learning about yourself and what works & doesn't work. Learning what doesn't work is one thing. Dwelling on it is another, and usually not productive. I know there are positive things you've been doing (like the dog walk). Focus on those as you increase the positive and decrease the negative.
I'm in maintenance and I'm still learning and probably always will be but that's okay! Because at least now I have the tools that I know will work and that's a huge, huge burden that has been lifted. You are so right to get rid of the all-or-nothing thinking. I have already ate over my calories today but you know what? It's one day. I'm still eating my 9 servings of fruit & veggies. I ran this morning. So, so what if I ate over today!!!! It's the afternoon and I can still make an excellent choice for dinner. No more "well, I've blown it so I might as well eat everything in my path." It's so freeing to not beat yourself up anymore!
Linda, what I'm saying is it's all a choice. Yes, sometimes we ALL mess up. So what. Just keep at it. CHOOSE to keep at it. Trust the process. And it is a process. Sometimes two steps forward, one step back. As long as you are heading in the right direction. Some days you'll need more encouragement and you are at the right place to get it.
I completely understand your frustration. I too have been struggling these last couple of months. I've actually reset my page about 4 or 5 times in the last 2 months because I'm so sick of the inconsistencies I've been seeing. Maybe that is something you might want to look into doing? It just gives you a clean slate to work with. You're ready when you're ready. The fact that you're on this site and upset about it tells me you want something to change. The next step is making a plan. You can do this! You have complete control over your actions.
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21,513 3/17/13 2:42 P
the year is far from over !! It is never too late to make a change. Remember, what we've all told you, just start with some simple changes so that you don't feel overwhelmed.
And well, when you do start feeling overwhelmed, then you need to come to the Spark Forums for more support. One thing I've noticed from your posts is that you tend to have long periods of time when you don't leave any posts. Here's what I'm going to recommend that you try. I want you to start posting more often. At least once or twice a week.
If you feel overwhelmed and want to run for the kitchen... STOP... get on the computer and hit the panic button. Turn to the SP community before you turn to food. I really do feel if you start posting on the forums on a regular basis, you'll be more motivated to make healthier choices.
Also, have you been talking to your doctor about your depression ? You've got to talk to a doctor. Getting help for your depression will in turn help you become a healthier person inside and out.
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7 3/17/13 2:17 P
It's okay! I say, RECLAIM YOUR YEAR. We are only in March, and if you start right now, you have 8.5 months to work on being healthier, so that on December 31st, when you look back over the year, YOUR YEAR, and note the progress you've made, I highly doubt you'll even be concerned with these first couple months.
Start slow if you have to. Just track what you eat for a couple days, even if you do not make any other changes. When you see where your pitfalls are, start making whatever changes you can. You've already made a great choice to get out and walk; keep it up!
I have to trick myself most of the time. Like when I want to cave and take the whole bag of chips to the couch, I ask myself..."A year, month, week from now, will I really miss these chips?" Nope. "A year, month, week from now, will I feel great and look great if I Just. Put. Them. Back?!" YES.
I have also started a motivation board for myself. I'm collecting quotes, my own thoughts, pictures, whatever I can to remind myself of the big picture. Whatever makes me want to succeed goes on that board. It's lame, but it works for me. Have you tried collecting these thoughts and using them to your advantage? You have a lot of useful information in your post to use, such as wanting to choose from a broader selection of clothing.
Well, this was going to be my year .... the year I change my life for the better. I started the year off right, lost 17 lbs. then for whatever reason or many excuses I can think of, I gained all back that I lost and some. Not quite sure what I weigh right now because my scale won't weigh me, I have exceeded the weight limit. I have also broken the leg on a couch from me sitting on it recently, I broke the seat on my flush this morning, guess it has a weight limit too. I just got back from taking my dog for a walk which was only about 20 minutes and you would have thought I did a marathon. Wow, talk about being out of shape. The largest size I can find at clothing stores around me are getting tight, I can't shop at most stores for clothes anymore as they aren't big enough. It would be so nice to be able to wear something that wasn't stretchy material or have elastic. Normal clothes in a normal size. You would think that all this along with the other problems of being over weight, aches, pains, low self esteem etc... would be enough to make me say enough is enough.... Well, not so far. Not sure how much more I am going to put up with before I decide that enough finally is enough. I am so full of I wish, I want, I'd like to .... I know I need to just quit making excuses, get off my butt and do something. I have all the knowledge, I know what I need to do, I know I have to eat less and make healthier choices, I need to start moving more, drinking more water, work harder on my all or nothing attitude. I know I can do this, I have done it before. It just seems to get harder each time. I am going back to my weight loss group after not having been there for a couple of weeks, hopefully getting on that scale this week will make me decide that I have had enough !
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