I've seen quite a few posts about keeping motivated and struggling with what seem like endless "false starts" - where you feel very determined for a day, or maybe even a week or a month, but then give up, and go through the painful cycle of disappointment again.
I have been through this cycle so many times, I can't even tell you!
I can tell you that this time for me is different, but explaining why isn't so easy. I have tried multiple times to lose weight, but never REALLY tried, in my mind I just convinced myself I gave it my best effort, when I never really gave it any effort at all. I never did the steps you need to take (ie join a gym, come up with a solid exercise regimen that you can stick to, learn to cook healthy meals) They were always just vague ideas in my head of what I should do, and when I didn't do them I just eventually (usually very quickly) gave up.
So, quite simply, the reason I know that I will not fail this time is a two-parter. One, my mindset has changed. I had the moment where I realized the life I'm living right now isn't good enough for me. I owe myself MORE. I deserve more than this. I deserve to live a long, healthy life and will no longer accept selling myself short and letting my weight or health hold me back from experiences I am going to have. I will not make excuses for myself. There is no "I will start tomorrow." I have started and I am not stopping.
The second part of this is almost just important. Aside from not having the correct mindset all the other times I have "tried," I always just had vague ideas of what I would do, but no solid plan. Then, when things started to go south I wondered where I went wrong! Imagine, not sticking to extremely vague plans. Sounds a little difficult to do? What I've found has helped tremendously is making solid action steps "Today I will purchase a gym membership," "today I am learning this healthy recipe," "today I am buying new gym clothes," "I will work out on these days doing these exercises for x amount of time."
That is my life now, and it's challenging and wonderful, two things I am now accepting are definitely not mutually exclusive.
Best wishes to all of you, have a happy and healthy Monday!