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3/30/13 4:52 A

You know what my Psychologist prescribed to me once? (It wasn't because I didn't like being seen out, but rather I was becoming very reclusive because of depression) She prescribed for me to go to a Cafe once a week - preferably the same cafe and around the same time of day. The reason there was so that I would soon be able to interact more fluently with others, and 'AVOID AVOIDANCE!' but for you it would be good because it would give you a chance to watch the comings and goings of others. I am more than sure that you would see MANY people of a myriad of shapes and sizes - people who are happy with themselves and perhaps tons bigger than you. If you see this often enough you might just realize that you are no different from everyone else, and because of this, learn to relax more around others. It would give you a MUCH better quality of life!!!

HUGS and MORE hugs
Kris xxx

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3/29/13 9:03 A

Thank you thank you from the bottom of my heart....overcoming something like this is the. Ost difficult journey of my life. It is the reason I am on disability because it all consumes me. I lay awake worrying about my weight , my belly, my breasts. I hide in my house for days because I feel that I am ugly to bee seen(( I am too afraid to go to the distance) the last time I was there I threw up and fainted and since I haven't gone I have this tooth ache so serve ....I am a mess buti will use your links ...thank you thank you for your kind words...

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3/28/13 10:26 P

My Sweet - there is no such thing as a perfect body, other than what nature gave us is perfect!!

Has your husband every been with you to a Psychiatrist or Therapist appointment? If not, then you may BOTH benefit from it, because then he will be informed by someone qualified in the subject that Depression or any other related disorder is NOT able to be 'snapped' out of. It often takes time, and intensive therapy and/or medication for that to happen.

You must remember that your fitness and weight is NOT what makes you as a person - it is how you interact with others, your thoughts/feelings that is what makes you. As far as money issues are concerned, below are some links that you may find helpful re free/cheap medical/psychological help:

www.endfatigue.com/articles/Article_cannot
_afford_medications.html


www.needymeds.org/free_clinics.taf

www.mentalhealthamerica.net/index.cfm?obje
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www.needymeds.org/

findahealthcenter.hrsa.gov/Search_HCC.aspx


www.genome.gov/11008842

Kris

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3/28/13 8:56 P

Hi ....I think you nailed t. I have been asked whether I hae body dysmorphic disorder and IAEA been told by m phystrist that I do. This way of thinking is so hard to change. It s why I wash crying today. Because I don't see why others see. I don't know where. Get from. I wasn't always this way and certanuly don't always want to be this way. It is sad but I feel like no matter how fit I become that I am unloveabe and undesirable as a friend , lover and even mother. I know. Need help but it is so hard with money issues and a husband that thinks I should just snap out of it and ignores me. Sometimes I think if I had the perfect body then maybe he would stop turning me down

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3/28/13 8:38 P

I am wondering if you think that a belly should be tight without being able grab any 'fat'??? If so, then there is a flaw in your thinking. It is perfectly normal to be able to 'grab' a bit of it, and for it to feel a bit softer; after all, there are no bones in there to stop you going deeper. Perhaps rather than it being 'too fat/big/baggy' or whatever, it might be worth considering that there is possibly a form of body dysmorphia going on whereby we see parts of ourselves in a way that isn't quite reality? Why not go to a gym and get a qualified person to do a 9 point caliper skin fold test to accurately measure your body fat?

I know that good habits, including healthy thinking/rationalizations can take time :-(
Take care,
Kris xx

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3/28/13 6:09 P

Hi thank you for the great response. I feel like I am still a work in process when it comes to healthy habits....granted I have the excerise thing down but to much clearly isn't good for you either. This has been so very hard. I never thought about the munching been a sight of boredom ...you are probably right. I am thinking maybe I should try to pick up a new no. Workout hobby .....after today and crying most of it....I am determined to try to stop stressing over losing more weight...like everyone says here, it will come off, it's just going to take some time. I am in the high end of healthy weight for my night, it's just my belly I hold. Oat of my weight there and I feel very uncomfortable with it...

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3/27/13 11:34 P

I think that you are STILL being too hard on yourself. This reduction in exercise hasn't been very long, and it doesn't start working virtually overnight!

If you are finding that you are mindlessly munching, do you think that part of it could be boredom? If so, then perhaps finding something else to do would be a great distraction. If you still find that you are needing something in your mouth, how about trying some sugar-free gum???

Apart from that, you are already at a good weight, and the closer to goal the longer the weight takes to come off. Why is it that you "NEED" to lose more? I am thinking it is more your mind-set than it is for health reasons? You might find that if you allow your mind/body to relax more, you will have more success, and at the very least, you won't be beating yourself up for what you perceive you 'have' to do!

Kris

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3/27/13 9:59 P

I feel like I have given up. I have taken my workouts out down . Instead of all out 60 mintues. I have been doing 30 mintues. This makes me anxious because even though I am not as hungry i am finding the mindless munching to be a huge culprit. I still do trust the numbers as well. If,I go,for a 4.5 mile run three days a week. The. I feel like if I am 1600 calories that is to much. But I know that If I ate less my weight would not budge though its not buding with higher intake. I have switched up my eating as well really have been eating lots of healthy foods, not many packaged foods. Help please. I am becoming very depressed I have been on a plataue now for months and getting so discouraged.

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