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SLIMMERKIWI Posts: 25,932
5/20/13 6:35 A

There is a reason for these expressions:

"Patience is a virtue"

"Rome wasn't built in a day"

I hope that you find a way to change your mindset :-)


BROCKJUL SparkPoints: (4,375)
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5/20/13 1:53 A

Thank you everyone for the kind words of support, advice and motivation! I really appreciate it. I went out and bought the new Spark Solution book and have started reading it. I do seem to take an all or nothing approach to weight loss instead of taking baby steps. I am an impatient person by nature so I want to see results right now and I believe I'm just going to have to learn to take it slowly instead of crashing and burning.
Thank you again! emoticon

DIANNEMT Posts: 11,906
5/19/13 5:58 P

3 kids, 3rd shift AND college!! My hat is off to you!! So--you are super busy--be kind to yourself. Take one thing--water, for example, and get a 2 week streak of enough water. Then add one more goal--10 minute walk or 3 fruit/veggies a day or 7 hours sleep--whatever you think you need most and get a 2 week streak of that one. And set a goal of 25 spark points each day--that will get you on here for some knowledge and motivation. The 30 pounds will come off--but not in 30 days or even 90 days. But it WILL come off and you'll be healthier, with good habits in place.

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (189,797)
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5/18/13 5:46 A

Hi, Julie !

I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. that's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body. NO ONE ever became a healthy eater overnight. It's impossible.

That's why everyone is encouraging you to start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not used to regular exercise, don't try to workout for an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

And that's how good health starts. It's not "all or nothing". One small change can change your life.

ZENRYAKU SparkPoints: (77,893)
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5/18/13 4:28 A

I agree with YOGACHRISTA and SLIMMERKIWI - baby steps, and one at a time. I am guilty of attempting too much, and now know to only implement one new thing/month or when I think I have 'got it'.

I read somewhere, that when you have a smaller amount of weight to lose, it is more difficult to lose, particularly when you get close to goal weight. So steady steady. Start where you are now, with one new habit or challenge, master that, then go onto the next one. emoticon

SLIMMERKIWI Posts: 25,932
5/18/13 2:54 A

Hi Julie - I wonder if perhaps each time you try a healthy lifestyle, you change loads of things all at one time. It would certainly account for what happens to you - it is a very common consequence.

Try starting off with baby steps, changing only one or two things to start with and allowing your mind/body to get used to the changes. If you drink soda, reduce it and replace it with some water. If you don't get any exercise, start off with a 10-15 minute walk. Because you work 3rd shift, it would be best if the walk is outside in the fresh air.

You may not have a lot of time, but I am sure that you do get SOME down time. Take advantage of that and bulk cook some meals. Containerize them in single serves and freeze them for when you are busy or very tired. This has the added benefit of saving time and money - you can take good advantage of the specials, and only use one lot of gas/power with the cooking/cleaning. I do this all the time, and it really DOES work.

You CAN do this, but you need to have faith in your ability to do it. By starting off with baby steps you will find that the first couple weeks become a month, and then a second month, and then a third, etc. etc. You CAN celebrate reaching your goals along with many others of us who have reached it AND maintained. In my case I have been maintaining for over 2 years after having been overweight for about 30 years. I STILL weigh all of my food and enter it into the tracker, because that is what gives us the power to make informed changes, and also to stay on track!


5/18/13 2:41 A

Maybe you'd best make it your priority to introduce (small) healthy habits and thus change your lifestyle from the inside out. I'm thinking about things like having a green smoothie in the morning before breakfast, thus adding nutrients to your diet. Or doing just ten minutes of walking per day. You can make that a 'streak' through your 'other goals'. Seeing that you CAN stick to such small goals will give you hope and confidence and will contribute to your overall feeling of wellbeing. And maybe then in the longer run you can take on more 'ambituous' plans. Best of luck!

Also, I think it's important to see it as a journey and not as a race... So it's important to keep picking yourself up and get back on track.

Edited by: YOGACHRISTA at: 5/18/2013 (02:41)
BROCKJUL SparkPoints: (4,375)
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5/18/13 1:38 A

Each time I commit to a healthy lifestyle, I stick with it for a couple of weeks and then something happens. I get tired, or I feel overwhelmed so I don't concentrate on my health. I am married with 3 kids at home, I work full-time 3 rd shift and I attend college part-time. So needless to say I come up with a lot of excuses as to why it's o.k for me to not stay on track. It's like I'm searching for the magic thing that will make this process worth it enough for me to stick with it. I get so frustrated with myself. I just want to stop struggling. How do I find that motivation within myself to stick with a healthy lifestyle?? I am beginning to become so depressed and disappointed in myself. I waiver back and forth between telling myself that since I only have about 30 lbs to lose that it's not that big of deal but then I feel uncomfortable in my own skin to the point that I feel embarrassed at my weight.
Sorry for the rant, but it sure felt good to vent.

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