it does not give you a right to have bad behavior just because you are a boy. Any more than saying "Oh it's just a girl thing" so it's ok for her to do that. Gender does not give you a pass on bad behavior.
Boys Will Be Boys, is not a excuse for bad behavior. Never hear Girls will be Girls when nowdays many girls indulge in the same type of bad behavior as some Boys! At one time Boys interests differed in types of athletics chosen, toys, games and other types of play but nowdays many girls have the same interests as the guys instead of the traditional "girl" things such as dolls, play house, and pretend play. A bully can be either male or female, only difference, a female can put on a cute little sweet innocent "girl" act that can be believable. Boys don't get away with as much.
I absolutely agree that the phrase "boys will be boys" is too frequently used as a way to excuse bad behavior and the bad behavior is not corrected.
Now, when women are conversing amongst themselves, the word, "men"--used as a sentence all by itself and accompanied with a slight eye roll or perhaps a shoulder shrug and said in a certain tone of voice--is used as a way to acknowledge that there are certain male behaviors or patterns of behavior that we, as women, don't understand/like/appreciate but which we accept that we will never be able to change and so don't bother trying.
FAITH....You bring up an interesting example A lifetime ago I worked in a bar restaurant.. A lawyer was having dinner with his drinking buddy; another lawyer came in to have dinner with his wife. Both where seated at tables next to each other. The drinking lawyer was getting loud and the conversation was getting foul; the lawyer with his wife were getting uncomfortable. The lawyer asked the drinker to tone it down a bit...he was trying to have dinner with his wife. The drinking lawyer got insulted. Words were exchanged. The drinker tried to throw a punch with his beer mug in hand; the other lawyer blocked it, and the drinker ended up hitting himself in the head with the mug. the drinker sued the restaurant for serving him too much beer.
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There are times when I think that is a truism. I'm thinking about a law suit going through in UK. A school had a water fountain installed in the playground. Child 1 on a sunny day used the water fountain to squirt his friend. Child 2 went to hit child 1. Child 1 dodged. Child 2 hit his hand on the fountain and broke a bone in his hand. It has healed up perfectly and no further treatment is needed. Child 2's parents are suing the school for having a dangerous water fountain in the playground.
My comment - boys will be boys. A brick wall is dangerous if you decide to smack it! Are we going to sue for dangerous brick walls?
To me 'boys will be boys' is a comment on boisterous behaviour. It doesn't excuse rudeness or disobedience (or immature behaviour of men), but I think boys are more likely to engage in rough, boisterous play than girls and I don't think that is necessarily inappropriate in the right context.
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I think there's a line between idiosyncratic behavior (like when my BF says up half the night updating his computer with a kickass processor, motherboard, and SSD) that you just roll your eyes at and actual disrespectful/destructive behavior (like when junior members of my team question the work that they have to do). One is funny and harmless, the other is not. I think the former situation boils down to personality differences.
I only use that saying to be sarcastic when talking to other wives about our husbands behaviors. It always humorous and an agreeable summation when we've run out of ridiculous stories to tell about them amongst ourselves. (Yes, we talk about our guys, but we love 'em despite their male flaws!)
I don't ever excuse bad behavior by either boys or girls by standing behind that fašade. All children should be raised to respect others and our environment. Nowadays, though, if a parent hits their kid up-side the head, they'll be charged with child abuse.
Sometimes I wonder how we all made it to adulthood.
So, the understanding of this idiom (a group of words established by usage as having a meaning not deducible from those of the individual words e.g., it's raining cats and dogs, see the light, etc... ) is that boys (men) generally act irresponsible and its expected behavior for them to act this way and be excused.
Question: How does this sit with you?
I'll be honest, to me there seems to be women who accept this idiom as fact and let boys get away with bad or rude behavior and then hide behind the saying. My mom was NOT one of those women, I'd get smacked up-side the head for poor or bad behavior like wrestling in the house and breaking things by accidently knocking them over or always PLOP down on the sofa or recliner rather than simply sit down on them or burp at the table (or make other body noises) or come home from school all muddied up from jumping in the rain puddles, oh yeah, right UP-SIDE the head her hand would go.
She'd say, "Stop acting like an animal."
A co-worker of mine is dealing with her "bad-boy" looking boyfriend who is.....guess what.......acting badly and sometimes she says, "Oh, men are men."
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