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HMBROWN1 Posts: 6,647
6/12/14 10:13 A

My boss

Find a bit of beauty in the world today. Share it. If you can't find it, create it. Some days this may be hard to do. Persevere. - Lisa Bonchek Adams
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6/12/14 7:14 A

A colleague, ugggg

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6/12/14 7:03 A

Just be happy you aren't as cold, cruel and mean as they are. Don't let them steal your joy. I take comfort in my belief that God see's all. You reap what you sew, and I have seen karma happen, so I strongly believe, people who are mean get it back in one way or another.

Fern, Pa
NISSANGIRL Posts: 21,195
6/12/14 6:46 A

a friend

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6/11/14 7:14 A

a cousin

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WHERESMYDINNER Posts: 2,259
6/11/14 6:18 A

"If they touch your buttons, kiss their feet" says Buddha. Sounds a bit extreme, I know, but the message is: when somebody really annoys you, there's a lesson about yourself to be learned.

There are 10 types of people in the world: those who understand binary, and those who don't.

You can take the girl out of London, but - thank goodness - you can't take London out of the girl.
STEELER71 Posts: 7,817
6/11/14 5:02 A



My neighbor across the street. He runs hot and cold. One day he talks to you and the next day he turns his back and walks away. One Day I'm going to confront him and ask him what his problem is.

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6/10/14 10:44 P

Narcissists


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DETERMINEDLOSER Posts: 4,933
6/10/14 10:10 P

A person who is always judging others


KINISUE Posts: 1,156
6/8/14 9:40 P

A parent that uses their children to hurt their ex spouse.

To keep spiritually fit, consult the Great Physician.
LEWIS314 SparkPoints: (13,889)
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6/8/14 6:40 P

a person that uses their accomplishments as a means of demeaning others.

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6/8/14 2:50 P

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A busy body co-worker. The other day I was eating a small bag of popcorn at my desk. When co-worker was on his way to the copier he commented "Didn't know potato chips were a diet food". I should have told him to mind his own f..'ng business, and stop being a self appointed diet enforcer.

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SGFLAUTIST Posts: 691
6/8/14 2:26 P

My co-worker! I have been repeating the same thing for about 3 months now and I officially can't do it anymore. It's to the point where it is a gender issue because when my coworker told him to stop to stop doing it, (he is guy,) he would do it, but wouldn't do it when I asked him.

KURS10B Posts: 4,837
6/8/14 12:28 P

Hub! He complains when I am working because I'm not home to make dinner/clean but then he complains when I'm not working because we don't have as much money. He needs to make up his mind. If I am working 40 hours a week also, he needs to take up some of the slack at home.

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6/8/14 11:55 A

Mom gets to me more often than any other person. She is old though so I just let her go on and just "yes Mom" her.

Karen
EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
6/8/14 11:45 A

Not angry, but I've let a lot of people have control over my thoughts and moods over time and continually work on not letting that happen. It's up to me. No one can MAKE me angry. It's my responsibility to learn to effectively let toxic (to me) people go and not give them house room in my brain.

As quoted in a previous post on this thread, Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Moving in new directions.
ICEDCAPPGRRLL Posts: 66
6/8/14 10:00 A

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, I totally do! thank goodness mine lives far far FAR away from me. ;) but whenever I talk to him or see his posts on facebook - it just puts me in a horrible mood for days after. I just need a week or five - just to get over what took place. I don't want to even talk to him anymore...but, I find myself getting pulled into his little drama world. :( I wish I could just walk away and never go back to him. so to answer your question - I guess I don't do anything about it... I just keep going back into his warped world. :(

signed - dazed, confused and frustrated! ;)

ODDMENTTWEAK Posts: 2,359
6/3/14 1:37 P

My closest coworker (we're the only people in our workplace at the same job) is this person for me right now. She was hired to fill a maternity leave and is proving to be a poor fit.

"I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do."
- Helen Keller
JLAMING263 Posts: 3,526
6/3/14 10:11 A

That person who is so set on tooting their own horn they seem to work their accomplishment into ever conversation.
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K_SABLE Posts: 175
6/3/14 10:07 A

I can sooo relate to you on this ROXYCARIN! My sister definitely gets under my skin!

"What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it."

"The part can never be well unless the whole is well."


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KRISB1225 SparkPoints: (31,460)
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6/3/14 8:43 A

I am taking over a business from a friend. My friend and I get along great and see eye to eye on all aspects of the business but his wife makes horribly bad decisions that affect the business on a daily basis. I am just about to tell my friend that if he doesn't do something about her bad decisions I am out!!!!

KRMFREEONE Posts: 1,005
6/3/14 8:40 A

My new Boss,, Love my new job, its different and I am learning, and its not serving, but she makes me feel like I am a moron, and I come home everyday feelilng defeated...

"Why not go out on a limb? Isn't that where the fruit is?"
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6/3/14 6:16 A

My boss ... but I fixed that ... I retired!!!

Cat

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it's about learning how to dance in the rain.
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6/3/14 6:12 A

People that text while walking and don't pay attention to where they are going.

Strangers are friends we haven't met yet
WHERESMYDINNER Posts: 2,259
6/3/14 4:32 A

Nigel Farrage!

There are 10 types of people in the world: those who understand binary, and those who don't.

You can take the girl out of London, but - thank goodness - you can't take London out of the girl.
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6/3/14 1:54 A

My sister, she I knows how to push my buttons

DEEPESTD3ZIRES Posts: 30
6/3/14 1:32 A

My sisters drive me up the wall crazy, we have very different ways of dealing with a problem and I feel like they are both really immature. The also have this annoying habit of always leeching off somebody. Drives me up the wall. Today my sister and I really went at it when she threw away 20 dollars worth of groceries I bought yesterday. Unfortunately I cant eliminate them from my life, but I bought a book lol its called how to deal with annoying people hopefully it'll help emoticon

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6/3/14 1:17 A

There are a couple of people in my family, about two I can think of. I used to just act like I liked them for everyones sake. I'm sorry but I don't do that anymore. I don't go to gatherings where they are anymore. I want to be around people I get along with and like. Even if someone is family or married into my family, I won't be around if they truly bother me anymore. Maybe that is wrong but life is short and I'm aiming to be happy. Some people are just so not right inside and in how they treat others, I didn't choose them, and ain't watching it anymore. How do you deal with people in your familly that are truly bothersome? I wonder how other people deal with this.

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6/3/14 12:35 A

I used to be really good at being nice to people I didn't like. Now, I can't seem to make it not-so obvious that I hate them.

I try smiling and it looks like I'm in pain.
I yes them to death when they talk.
It's horrible.

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JANIEWWJD SparkPoints: (287,887)
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6/2/14 11:53 P

I simply stay away from people who cannot live without drama in their lives.

Janie Garcia Moreno

"WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE"

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NSKYLINE115 SparkPoints: (34,496)
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6/2/14 12:08 P

I see a common theme, cut this person out of life lol
Unfortunetely this is someone my fiance is very close to, his best friend and his fiance. I know I will bump into these people later in life, and its not fair for me to ask him not to bring them around if he is still close with them. I want to keep the peace, but when I get attacked for being a drama queen (which I was told again last week by them btw) I want nothing to do with them. I told them, "leave me alone I dont want to be involved with you anymore" and blocked them so they cant get a hold of me. These people keep coming into my life, and my fiance is so annoyed with all the stupid drama. I told him, I am not creating/ starting drama, I am standing up for myself when I am being attacked. I dont bring up issues, they say these horrible things about me so I defend myself, yet I am being seen as the drama queen.
Anyways, I have officially blocked them so they cant reach me anymore, hopefully this is the end but i'm sure I will have to see them eventually
So annoyed grrrr....

GONNALOSE5 Posts: 975
5/30/14 6:01 P

There is one person I can think of, but I don't know if I can call it anger. At first I tried to get past my issues with her, but I found myself unsettled and unhappy when our time together ended. It has always been like that. I finally realized neither one of us was going to change, I was not going to stop getting annoyed when mean things were said about others and I don't believe my friend understood my live and let live attitude. There was no point in keeping our relationship, I think we both realized it; one of the few times we were in absolute agreement--no words were needed to end what we had, the relationship just died. We can pass information along, etc. but there is no more angst, no more annoyances.

At this point we are not enemies we just don't talk or if we do, we talk a very short time. I would come to her aid if she needed it and I think she would come to mine, the difference I would help and move on as opposed to her helping me and telling anyone who would listen, especially our past co-workers emoticon

Edited by: GONNALOSE5 at: 6/2/2014 (12:36)
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07SOJO Posts: 1,648
5/30/14 5:27 P

For me, it's a couple of family members. I love them dearly but sometimes I just have to stay away. I leave and tell myself, by next week, you won't even remember this.
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NEWBIRTH2014 Posts: 2,488
5/30/14 5:18 P

Unless you secretly like drama…you cut them off completely.

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5/30/14 3:22 P

Eliminated them out of my life. Much more peaceful that way.


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MLAN613 SparkPoints: (194,179)
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5/30/14 7:47 A

Yes indeed. My now ex-husband. Our divorce was final in April. He left me arund Christmas, started drinking again, and got a girlfriend. He thought it was acceptable to allow her to text me using his phone. I blocked his number from text and as of June 1, when all the mutual obligations we had are finally done, I will be blocking his number from phone calls, his emails, and Facebook. I told him if he ever decides to man up and actually apologize, he can contact me via a family member.

STEELER71 Posts: 7,817
5/30/14 4:58 A



My youngest daughter. We butt heads over every subject and frankly sometimes, I can't wait for her to leave.

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5/30/14 4:23 A

Unfortunately it's someone I have to work with every day but she spend most of her day in her office which is a pretty good distance from mine so it's mostly email communication, Thank you Jesus!

*~*Lisa*~*

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5/29/14 10:02 P

...I can't narrow it down to just one.
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ONECALMMOM Posts: 6,258
5/29/14 8:05 P

One of the speakers on our webinar!

If the journey was easy I wouldn't appreciate the benefits I reap.

“If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it.” --William Arthur Ward
CDMYERS1 Posts: 950
5/29/14 4:14 P

Lazy people at work

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5/29/14 11:34 A

I wouldn't say sooooo angry, but sooooo annoyed, and that person would be my XXXX -husband! I see him frequently because of the children and grand children. As soon as he says "Hello" he says something annoying or off-handed.If I've accomplished something, (such as earning two degrees, buying two homes, starting a successful business) he asks why didn't I do that with him, or says that I'm just showing off! If there's something not so good, he says "Oh, you couldn't do better than that?". He even blames me for the formation of my children's teeth, saying "What did you do wrong?" when the dentist even said it was just the way that they grew..Just when I think I'm over with one thing he digs at me with something else, even the program of my mother's memorial which he didn't attend by the way. Of course I attended his mother's memorial! I think you've got the picture !That's why he's an XXXX!.

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5/29/14 11:18 A

I agree with LEC too. No single person should have that kind of control over your day.

Eleanor Roosevelt once said,"“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

If someone is making you angry each time you see them, it implies that the person knows how to push your buttons. I don't know the circumstances of the relationship you have with this person, but if they seem to taunt or bait you each time you see them, then you have to turn the other cheek. Don't take any bait they offer.

If they say something that upsets you, don't get into a confrontation with them because that's what they may want. They may try to get you angry just because it makes you look bad. So, don't allow any of their comments to bother you.

Instead, if this person says something that you don't like, you need to be polite. Let them know that you respectfully disagree with their opinion, but don't allow the conversation to escalate into a fight. It really is best to let any comment slide. Because is it really worth all the extra energy being upset at this person ?

There is a book called Don't Sweat the Small Stuff. In the grand scheme of things, this is small stuff. Don't let it get to you because it really isn't worth your valuable time.


ALICIAWEBE Posts: 1
5/29/14 10:58 A

This is a timely thread! Yesterday at work i ran into that "one person" and for some reason my entire day was filled with work items that involved her. Ruined my whole day. Today I'm trying to talk myself into how I can better deal with this person because I can't always avoid her. I guess just simply keep the conversation as polite and short as possible and avoid as much as possible. Such a pain!

EELPIE Posts: 2,700
5/29/14 10:46 A

What Lec said.

"I've found that if someone consistently makes me mad/ruins my day, I'm probably giving them waaaaay too much control over my mental state."

The best exercise in the world is to bend down and help someone up.
KJFITNESSDUDE Posts: 15,787
5/29/14 10:29 A

That "one person" has been eradicated from my life about 5 months now.....it feels good.

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5/29/14 10:25 A

The better half, of course.

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5/29/14 10:15 A

I've found that if someone consistently makes me mad/ruins my day, I'm probably giving them waaaaay too much control over my mental state. My first strategy is to avoid them. The next strategy is to never *ever* be alone with them. If someone else is there, there's an impartial account of every conversation. Having a third party around really cuts down on the he/she said crap. Finally I always keep the conversation civil and on non-controversial topics and leave when that changes. Claiming the moral high ground and staying there through your actions is the easiest way to de-escalate anything.

Edited by: LEC358 at: 5/29/2014 (10:18)
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5/29/14 10:06 A

Yes, and that person is now out of my life-no room in my life for such negativity and hostility. If I see the person while shopping, I go elsewhere in the store to avoid eye contact, if the person speaks to me, I respond by saying "You have me confused with someone else" and walk away..I totally avoid confrontation.

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5/29/14 9:26 A

Do you have that one perosn in your life that makes you super angry? You dont see or talk to them often, but when they do pop up they ruin your whole day and you find yourself arguing with the people you are close to because of this one person? I have someone like that in my life, and I barely talk to them, but when they do come up its he said/ she said/ drama/ AAHHHHHHHH
How do you deal with that one person?

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