My experience with our 14 year old who is indolent in the extreme and has put on weight and lost fitness is very similar to yours. I have decided to challenge him on being healthy (drinking water, eating 5 portions fruit and vegetables, doing some regular exercise) rather than talk too much about his weight. His older brother is very sporty fitness aware and deals better with his emotions so that is another way to encourage him. I think its very difficult to force him and nagging doesn't seem to bring anything but a negative response from him. Still this is all part of parenting so I'm not giving up.
My daughter is the exact same age and although this might sound cruel when I say it, but I "Force" her to play sports in school if not I tell her she has no choice than to workout with me. She still has her lazy days on the weekends sometimes, but knowing that she is at least getting an hour or two each day during the week makes me happy. Growing up my parents were the same way with me and although I didn't like it at the time, I look back and appreciate them doing that because now that I am on my journey to losing weight it made me realize how much I missed being active.
My daughter is 15. She is not overweight, but she has also became a lay teen who surfs the net LOL. She danced for years and now does NO physical activity other than the Wii. I Insist on all children to do 30 minutes of cardio of any type they choose each day. I also introduced her to Spark teen. She LOVES it!! She loves to track every thing she eats and she has learned a lot of good habits. I wish I would have been educated on all of this when I was younger!
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Growing up when I did, exercise was a daily thing. In school, at home, wherever. I still can't figure out why they stopped it in the schools. We hear everyone talk and complain about this generation being the most unfit, overweight generation. I wonder why. Put exercise back in the schools and we won't have to worry about our kids being the fattest and unhealthiest generation yet.
if my mom had mentioned annnnnything about exercise or eating healthy to me when i was 14 i would have flipped. you have to do it in a subtle way, such as leaving a leisure guide sitting on the counter or somewhere she's bound to see it. next time you go to the grocery store, walk instead of take the car. i think limiting time on the computer will definitely help too. such a fine line!
I am having a very hard time with this also. I had my 16 year old son to the doctor the other day & we were shocked when he was weighed, I guess we didn't realize how bad it was because he is about 6 foot tall. The doctor did mention it to him, & suggested weight watchers or something, this was 3 days ago & every time I have mentioned to him about exercising/ watching what he eats, he gets upset with me. Not sure how to handle this.
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Absolutely!! In the world we are in today kids hardly have any time or encouragement to do anything physical. They are also less likely to interact with others with all the video games, computer social sites and bullying issues. Anytime they can be exposed to others and get some much need REAL physical activities the better their future will be.
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finding some fun activities to do together or with other teens might help. Going for a hike in the good weather, and maybe see if she is interested in rock climbing or something at the gym with other teens
i agree with the other posters. absolutely encourage her to exercise - but focus on it being part of a healthy lifestyle versus anything about appearance (helps her have more energy, concentrate better, improve physical well-being, be stronger, avoid health problems later in life, etc). i actually don't think weight gain should be anybody's primary reason to exercise.
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My daughter is almost 13 and I encourage her to work out with me. She is doing the C25K running program with me, but at her timeframe, meaning 1 x a week or so. She's also done 30 Day Shred & Yoga Meltdown with me. She has no need to lose weight but it never hurts to get them active. And I really enjoy having her workout with me!
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Thank you all for your great replies! :) I didn't want to make it about gaining weight, but know that, that could easily happen................. and at this point she is not gaining fat, and she still needs to grow. I just want her growing to continue to be healthy growing.
We did talk about the text addiction ;) this morning and she all on her own will try and cut down. I like to empower her in making her own choices, I just wasn't sure if exercising should have been something that I should bring up.
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Encourage her to be more active for her health; maybe less emphasis on putting on weight. Maybe she can have 1 active night a week - bowling with friends, playing putt putt, etc.
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Whatever you do do not mention weight, especially if she currently is not overweight.
How about limiting the technology. Set no phone times, restrict screen time (amount of time they spend in front of computer and TV and video games). It's your house...your rules. She will then have to find something else to do.
Sometimes you drag these kids away from their toys and they figure out there are other fun things in the world.
What sports/activities did she used to participate in? Encourage her to do that again. Introduce her to teen female empowerment groups... IE: Ride Like A Girl---- When I was a teenager I would have loved mountain biking but no one introduced me to it. I picked it up when I was 30.
In the end you may have to just set some household rules about technology and set a good example, then hope for the best.
Good Luck I am not looking forward to my daughters teen years.
I wouldn't mention weight gain at all. Maybe you could try doing something together that doesn't necessarily seem like exercise. (swimming, biking, hiking, sledding, skating, Wii, xbox kinect) My son is about that age and I am trying these things with him.
I don't mention weight because I think society mentions that enough.
At her age I would think it's better to just attempt to get her active and eating well rather than tell her what could or will happen. (they rarely believe it anyway)
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My daughter is currently 13, almost 14. She is NOT over weight. Has always been a very active young girl. However when she hit her teen years she has become uncontrollably lazy!!!
She lays on her bed all day texting,surfing the net and watching T.V.??
I am trying to encourage her to be more active, but would like to find a good way to tell her that it is very likely that she will quickly gain weight, which in the long run is not good for her health, if she continues on this behavior?
Should I be encouraging my teen to exercise? What types of exercise should she be doing if she is not involved in any type of sports?
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