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JDHAPPY Posts: 74
2/7/12 5:22 P

Thank you Sen. I've overcome almost all of my anxiety in my life doing exactly what you said, retraining the brain to think positive. This is the only thing left that I still fear. I don't think it's actually fear of death that gets to me ...... it's the getting there part that terrifies me. Maybe it was just watching a few loves ones suffer so.

It's a work in progress that's for sure!


SENZ2001 Posts: 123
2/7/12 3:23 P

I have also had this fear. I think it's normal because we are mortal.
The consuming and compulsion to think about it made me realize that I was unprepared. So I set up life insurance, made a will, discussed with my family about my remains, keep a private journal, and write my sons letters every month or two in separate journals.

It didn't take ALL the fear away, but now I'm prepared.

My 81 year old dad told me,"it's the fear that keeps you super aware of what's going on." Of course he was talking about using a chainsaw, but I feel it still applies to many things.

You need to retrain your mind to think happy. It's not the easiest thing. Reconnecting the neurons and changing your behavior takes a lot of mindful practice and energy, but it can be done.

I enjoyed the book THE HAPPINESS PROJECT.

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2/7/12 9:21 A

I also have no fear of death, I've tried to live my life to the fullest.

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2/6/12 8:40 P

I have no fear of faith helps with that.

�We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.�
~ Randy Pausch

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JDHAPPY Posts: 74
2/6/12 7:53 P

Life sure can be challenging sometimes. I've always been an over-reactor, but have managed to control my anxiety and have been so happy the last year. My only issue left is my fear of illness and dying. How stupid is that? Everyone dies, but there are some days, if I let myself think about it (as I have since my boss who was 40 years old died of cancer and left his 3 small children behind) and the other man in the office that worked with us died suddenly of a heart attack at 43, it freezes me with fear. The prospect of dying is the only thing left that I fear. In the past, the fear has caused panic attacks. I have worked through my anxiety in my head and know that my thoughts cause the fear. I've tackled everything but this. Are there any others that suffer from this fear and any suggestions?

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