Author: Sorting Last Post on Top Message:
ZIMZUMPOGOTWIG SparkPoints: (10,012)
Fitness Minutes: (6,947)
Posts: 150
5/6/12 10:03 A

I'm a vegitarian so I buy most food with meat for my children and fiance and I don't even think twice about touching it.

MIGHTYN11 SparkPoints: (12,561)
Fitness Minutes: (14,089)
Posts: 137
5/6/12 9:35 A

this week I'm on a spark streak & not buying processed foods. For myself & family emoticon

CATMAGNET SparkPoints: (38,973)
Fitness Minutes: (51,134)
Posts: 1,183
5/6/12 9:27 A

Since I'm the only human in my household (I'm just not a fan of Nutro Natural Choice Indoor Formula for Seniors!), it's pretty easy. Although I love baked goods, I don't trust myself around them yet. I may occasionally get a half gallon of ice cream, but I never get a flavor that I absolutely love, simply because otherwise, I would eat that half gallon in 2 days. However, since I'm in the process of teaching myself that I can eat ALL kinds of foods in their right portions and keeping things balanced, it's a work in process.

ANNE007 Posts: 153
5/6/12 9:05 A

Cameal and MeddyPeddy, I agree with you two as well. I am glad to hear opinions on both sides so I have an idea of what I might run into. I appreciate all the input!

EGRAMMY Posts: 12,931
5/6/12 5:24 A

DH is very supportive and we buy other foods.

CAMAEL100 SparkPoints: (27,996)
Fitness Minutes: (6,287)
Posts: 2,445
5/6/12 3:51 A

I agree with the last comment. I am very surprised with people who think it is just a matter of exercising self-control. If that was the case would we be over weight in the first place? Does that mean we are all just choosing to eat the wrong foods?

I went to a hypnotist once in an effort to lose weight. He told me that an addiction to food was the hardest to cure. Why? Because if it was smoking, alcohol or drugs, he could just tell my brain never to have them again. However with food it would obviously be dangerous never to have any again! Imagine giving up smoking but allowing yourself one every day? It just wouldn't work,

Another reason I think your BF needs to think more healthily is that you may/may not decide to have children in the future. If you do, there are many studies to show how an unhealthy diet by either parent can effect the child's health in the long term. A healthy diet by both parents is the best for the child. Also if you have children, do you want to bring them up on junk food as children do not have the self control and if junk is there, they will eat it. They need positive health messages form both parents.

I am surprised that on a healthy site there are so many comments just saying he should be allowed do as he wishes. Living together is a compromise and learning to respect each others wishes. I am sure you will have to compromise on issues as well. I just think this is a very important one for both of you. Too important just to leave to chance.

Studies actually show that most people gain weight when in a comfortable relationship, where couples get used to sitting in front of the TV every night eating junk! Find something more enjoyable than just watching TV every night.




emoticon

MEDDYPEDDY Posts: 7,813
5/6/12 12:37 A

When I stopped smoking I avoided situations and places where I would be very tempted for a while - thinking about it today that would not be hard at all since smoking is not allowed most places but 20 years ago it was different.

When I stopped drinking seven years ago I avoided situations with alcohol, I chose other times of the day and other activities with my friends. And I did not kkep any in the house. If I met a man today that loved alcohol I would think more than once about planning a future together - itīs not that he would have to be sober like me, but I think that if alcohol was part of his lifestyle, we would not function together...

Trigger foods... trickier because (as some of the posts in this thread shows) people tend to think that it is easy to stay away - itīs "just" to decide and then tonīt eat it. For somebdy who has tried almost every action there is to avoid overeating it is not that simple. As long as I am still very vulnerable I cannot keep it in the house. I have a daughter that eats candy on saturdays and she gets her bag of it, is told to keep it out of my sight and to hise it if she does not finish it. She can eat popcorn when we watch teve, the hard thing is that we buy them in three-packs and when she leaves for her father I canīt handle myself all the time not eating the bags left.

This is a queation about care and respect. If you and your boyfriend care and respect for eachoter this could be a great subject to show it. I would start by imagening how I would act if I was to start living together with a man who told me he had great problems with something I did not have problems with. Letīs take oranges as an example. I donīt have any problems with oranges. Out of respect for him I would keep them out of sight, I would not eat them in his precence and would probably eat a lot less oranges ... thinking of it exactly this happened when I lived together with the father of my child. He was allergic to mushrooms. Naturally I did not cook any food with mushrooms in it except for when he was away. I ate mushrooms eating out but I rarely bought any as it was not that interesting to have them in the house when I was restricted using it. Had I loved mushrooms very much I would probably have used the times he was away to enjoyr meals with them but as I can live without them I almost stopped eating mushrooms altogether during our years together. After he left, I started to eat the again.

The key to me is your needs. If he wants to eat your trigger foods that is his right and his health is his responsibility. But if you suffer from having them in the house or seeing him eating them he would want to help you to stay away by not tempting you. One thing that is hard for me is to tell it right, I have a tendancy not to take my own problems seriously and if you donīt pronounce it as something that you really need help with, how can he know!

MICIASHAKIRA SparkPoints: (39,505)
Fitness Minutes: (18,626)
Posts: 844
5/5/12 10:53 P

I have to avoid junk food altogether. If I have it in the house, see it or smell it, then I want to eat it. The strange thing is, I don't have this problem when I'm at work or out and about. I just can't have tempting junk food in my house. If my kids bring junk home, they have to eat it immediately or hide it!

JESSBEHEALTHYY SparkPoints: (1,932)
Fitness Minutes: (961)
Posts: 42
5/5/12 9:27 P

I had the same problem. What i did was i was honest, saying i wanted to diet but also added in how buying junkfood adds up and can be very expensive. Then we comprimised and i buy healthier snacks (like veggie sticks, not TOO healthy but not completely bad) once in awhile. Very rarely. And some weeks if i'm in a really good mood i buy him oreos (his favorite!) before he goes to work and i give it to him on his way out. I didnt quite win the battle of no junk food but the comprimise has worked well for months

BOXERBRIEF35 SparkPoints: (13,872)
Fitness Minutes: (27,400)
Posts: 29
5/5/12 8:49 P

Just dont buy them.I dont even go down the chips lane any more at the grocery store.Also dont go down the soda lane.If they arent at home you wont eat them or drink them.Buy fresh fruit and vegs.

JAM223 SparkPoints: (75,060)
Fitness Minutes: (100,811)
Posts: 2,870
5/5/12 7:20 P

I avoid buying foods that I cant control the portions.

STARSUB99 SparkPoints: (10,840)
Fitness Minutes: (6,778)
Posts: 331
5/5/12 6:07 P

I do the shopping so I just don't buy the junk or the sweets.
If company is coming I buy just enough and don't go overboard anymore. My kitchen is my sanctuary - if I don't buy it = I don't eat it.
I portion out meats and freeze in portions. Frozen meals - same thing - freeze in portions that way there are no left overs calling my name from inside the fridge.
Once a week we plan to eat out or have guests over and then anything that comes in is enough for the evening - any left overs go home with the guests.
My husband is getting used to not having junk in the house. As long as there is something to snack on - veggies and hummus or dip - fruit he's okay with it. I am very lucky that he is supporting me on this and eating what I eat.
Tonight there are a few bags of potato chips and taco chips and salsa out in the garage as we are hosting a bonfire. I saved some calories to have a few handfuls of chips and a couple of beers.
It has been tough getting to the point of just not buying the junk. It is too tempting for me to have it in the house. So we just say no......

REDHATSHAPELY1 Posts: 2,646
5/5/12 3:16 P

I do not keep junk food in the house on a regular basis. I am not good at portion control. Thank goodness my husband never requests that I buy it. And if he wants it, we live very close to lots of fast food, grocery stores, and mini marts. He can buy his own supply.

BROADBRUSH Posts: 1,803
5/5/12 3:02 P

i absolutely do not keep ice cream, or any version thereof in my home - especially in the hot weather -
when i buy something for a dinner dessert i no longer buy 'more than enough just in case' or 'to give away to them to take home' - everyone is health conscious and do not want it.
cookies, cakes - all baked goods -
the one staple i have to have on hand is bread - i keep frozen and take out exactly what i will need. but with today's conveniences - broiler oven, microwave - i am not always safe from that temptation and i have to say - that is where i go wrong if i am close to binge eating.
i rarely make potatoes - and when i do - bake a yam - just one - as i would nosh until they were gone - i love them. too much of a good thing is not a good thing.
rice and pasta - practically non existent in my house - altho i keep it in the pantry - but as long as it is not cooked - it is not 'binge' worthy.
i found that the excuses of old - there are children and other people in the house for instance, are really not valid - most of the time they don't need it either and certainly not in the quantity we think has to be available.
when i do buy snacks - i try to stick with good - like bran digestive cookies to have with my tea or coffee - and buy the small pack - not the large - so then i don't over do it.
anyway - i have a lot of little tricks i have to play on myself - cause i know that as long as i am alive - i am an emotional eater -
when things go well - and i am strong minded - no problem - but that is not all the time .BB

BLUEANNIEDOG Posts: 321
5/5/12 2:58 P

Tell him your goals and ask him for suggestions to help you not be tempted by his food. Let him be involved in the planning and problem solving.

At our house we have foods that other family members eat, but I avoid. As long as the food is not something I have no control over eating (homemade cookies, baked sweets) then I do OK. Maybe ask that he not keep your most irresistible food around. You can probably deal with the other stuff by self talk.

CAMAEL100 SparkPoints: (27,996)
Fitness Minutes: (6,287)
Posts: 2,445
5/5/12 2:31 P

I have a husband and two young kids. I do all the grocery shopping! and no junk. I just couldn't resist if I had lots of chocolate and crisps in the house plus it adds an awful lot to the grocery bill. I can never understand those who say it is expensive to eat healthily!

I do buy things like an occasional pizza and some yogurts. I make my own chicken goujons and chips. And I bake about twice a week, one fairly healthy and one day would be cookies or something similar. So they are not deprived. My six year old who loves sweets, now asks for a bowl of chopped apple when watching TV and bananas are great for keeping hunger at bay until dinner. Her brother loves a bowl of mixed fruit. We have treats when we are out, but that is easily restricted to one. It is the bulk buying for the house that I have a problem with!

My husband is skinny - never had weight issues, but that in my mind does not mean he should eat junk. If I had junk in the house, he eats it for breakfast!! If there is nothing, he has porridge with fruit and honey! Which sets him up best for the day??? This is about a healthy lifestyle not dieting. If I give my kids junk, they have less room for nutritious food that gives them the vitamins and minerals they need.

My MIL brings very processed cakes so I have them 'in case some one calls over'. I usually bin them! (Took me a long time to do that as I hate waste). But better in the bin than in my family! Last time my friend called, I apologised for having no cake or biscuits to have with her tea. She was delighted as she has already been to her sisters and had felt obliged to have some. She thought it was a great idea. Gave me even more determination to keep it up.

Maybe you need to introduce him to Spark!! My friend who is under weight was actually advised to start exercising and eating more healthily! So maybe gently try to win him over to the bright side!!!

Edited by: CAMAEL100 at: 5/5/2012 (14:32)
ANNE007 Posts: 153
5/5/12 1:52 P

Some interesting perspectives. Thank you to everyone who shared your ideas about how you make this work!



ANARIE Posts: 12,409
5/5/12 12:47 P

"Having junk food in the house is also bad for my health."

Only if YOU eat it. There's a huge difference between smoking and junk food. Junk food can only harm you if YOU make the decision to put it in your mouth. There's no second-hand trans fat, and he's not going to get drunk on Doritos and crash the car. I've never even heard of anyone robbing a gas station to fund their Ben & Jerry's habit. Food isn't like any of the other vices; it only affects the eater.

If he doesn't have health problems from his eating habits, then you really don't have any right at all to expect him to change them. Junk food isn't like smoking; it's more like wearing ugly socks. If you hate the way he dresses, would you make him change that when he moved in with you? Or would you just have him keep his ugly stuff on his own side of the closet, and choose not to buy him any more when the old stuff wears out?

If you think that his choice to eat junk is just one example of a huge difference in your basic outlook on life and means he's not the partner for you, then make that decision now and cancel the move-in. It won't help anybody if you wait to see if you change your mind and then have to get untangled from him in six months.

If that's the only problem, on the other hand, then treat it like you'd treat the same situation with a platonic roommate. He has his tortilla chips, you have your hummus and your fresh fruit, and you don't share those things. Whoever does the main grocery shopping is NOT responsible for the other's snack supply, and if one of you should have a weak moment and raid the other's stash, the raider shops the next day and replaces what they took.

People have a right to eat what they want. He's not going to ask you to quit filling up the fridge and using the grocery budget on "health food," is he? If you can make or buy foods that he doesn't like and have them in the house, he should be able to buy things you don't want to eat. It's up to you not to eat them.

MEW321 Posts: 40
5/5/12 12:45 P

I don't even go down the chip aisle anymore. It took a while to be successful but now I never keep anything bad in the house and reach for fruit instead of chips!

SCRAPPER1124 Posts: 467
5/5/12 12:41 P

I have the same problem with my DH. Since I do most of the shopping I don't buy it. Most of his goodies are not my favorites any way. If they are, I have him hide them so I can't see them or know where they are. If he's eating something I really like, I go in another room and watch t.v. For me I can't have them in the house at least not now. I have a long way to go and just starting out so I need to stay very focused or get derailed.

MIAMI_LILLY SparkPoints: (96,833)
Fitness Minutes: (35,011)
Posts: 5,807
5/5/12 11:22 A

Keeping your trigger foods out of the home works great. If it's not there, you won't eat it.

For me, I still have to buy certain things I love for others in my house. Like icecream, for example. It's my weakness. But if I buy a flavor that I don't care for, and the kids do, that helps keep me in line. Chips too. I get myself popcorn or ranch wheat thins so I can snack on those while the kids eat Doritos. When they move out, I'm not keeping any of that crap in the house.

SUSANK16 Posts: 490
5/5/12 7:17 A

I buy healthy foods -- that keeps me on track. There are still certain foods that I tend to overeat so I ensure that I limit those to managable amounts. I still allow them I just don't have them all the time.

VLARSON9 Posts: 6
5/5/12 5:33 A

due to the fact I am only allowed 1,100 calories a day, I just have to decide, do I want that 400 calories of reese cups, and eat up most of my calorie allowance? Or, eat sensible, and be not so hungry? When you look at it that way, everything falls into perspective. I do the shopping so, I can control how much temptation comes into this house. Do I still mess up? All the time. You only allow yourself one day to feel sorry for yourself, then you pick yourself up, and start back where you left off and get back on the saddle again!

EX-PRESSO Posts: 478
5/5/12 2:46 A

My dear husband and my lovely daughter do not have any weight problem and they both love food.
So I simply can not bann some food out of the house, I have to find a way to deal with it.
If my diet is well balanced and I m not HUNGRY - I m fine.
It was easier for me, when I realised, that some food is simply not good for me. That I felt I'll and sick after consuming.
So I m fine watching them eating (for me unhealthy) stuff

BONBUG1 Posts: 14
5/5/12 1:28 A

My DH "cheated" on me with all the usual women, Little Debbie, Mrs Fields, Betty Crocker, Marie Callender and Aunt Jemima. Lol I retaliated by going out with Papa John, Little Ceasar, and Mr Pibb. He passed away 2 years ago, and none of those guys or gals are allowed to be in my house for longer than a short visit, and then they are sent home with the kids or any other visitors that come in. I used to keep them in a special cabinet that I couldn't reach without a step stool, but now they just very rarely make it into my shopping cart. For me, chips are a big temptation. i make sure to cut up cucumbers and have baby carrots and apples ready, along with almonds to snack on. emoticon Boiled eggs help too.

AILEBBELIA SparkPoints: (13,410)
Fitness Minutes: (4,362)
Posts: 3,171
5/5/12 1:18 A



"If he smoked, would it be OK for me to ask him not to smoke in the house? (as second-hand smoke is bad for my health). If I was an alcoholic or drug addict, would it be OK for me to ask him not to keep alcohol or drugs in the house? (as those would be bad for my health). "


Great emoticon

Smoking is not the same thing because you can't avoid breathing the smoke, but you can avoid putting his food in your mouth.

emoticon
I have been to AA and it's advised for the person with substance abuse problem to avoid environments with drugs etc. (In other words, it not the responsibility of the family, friends etc. to keep the substance away from the person attempting recovery)


Also, a person who uses drugs can not have any drugs.

You can work on eating with moderation and being flexible.
It's not the same thing.


"Having junk food in the house is also bad for my health."

Try to change that mindset and take ownership for your decisions (don't blame the food)!
"Having junk food in the house is bad for my health when I choose to overeat it."

Good Luck!



SCTK519 Posts: 2,085
5/5/12 12:05 A

I think that it's a good idea to not keep trigger food in the house, but I also think that a person has to learn to live with it since temptation is everywhere. How do you avoid temptation in the grocery store? Or at work when someone brings in birthday treats? How do you avoid temptation as you drive past McDonald's or when you go out to eat? It's no different than that.

Are you two planning on buying groceries together or separately? If you're putting your money together, I think it's fair to say you don't want to be spending a lot of money on junk food in case people come over. You can point out that it's impractical; no need to buy food for people who aren't just dropping by. If you know people are coming over, you'll buy more food closer to that day. Short of that, I don't think you can tell him not to buy junk food. That's what he eats and he's not forcing you to eat it or not eat it; you can only control you.

Edited by: SCTK519 at: 5/7/2012 (18:07)
PAPRIKADOLL Posts: 10
5/4/12 11:48 P

Lasergal, I like the idea to make filling shakes to avoid the sweets. That sounds pretty yummy really. My DH also loves pies and scones and danishes galore. I used to make them often for him but found that I was eating them more quickly than he was.

I have a few weaknesses that always do me in: peanut butter, graham crackers, and any sweet pastry thing. And pizza. I just can't say no to pizza.
Thus I've told my DH not to buy any more of the first two but since I seem to like them soo much..."Look what I got for you, honey!" He's a sweetheart but he's trying to gain weight. My efforts to lose/maintain aren't well comprehended.
The last jar of pb he bought for me was gone in a week. There's still a box of grahams in the closet and I'm trying so hard not to open it or it won't last very long either. At least, as long as it is there then he won't buy any more.

LASERGAL50 Posts: 27
5/4/12 11:26 P

I have a skinny at home also who loves his pies and muffins. I have started having shakes made with almond milk and frozen fruit and spinach. Looks nasty but taste great and is very filling. I leave room for one shake a day. So far the pies and muffins have not been a problem. I have no craving for that type of sweet but if ice cream comes in it will be a real trial to stay away from it. My downfall I'm afraid. I have learned not to buy it.

ABI2001 Posts: 34
5/4/12 9:59 P

I do 99% of the grocery shopping, so I just don't buy it. My husband needs to lose weight too, but he caves when it comes to soda, donuts, Snickers, etc. What makes it worse it that he is a software engineer, so he's sitting most of the day and there is a kitchen in the Help Desk area, where food is always brewing (due to the 24/7 staff). I used to give in to him when he'd accompany me on shopping trips and beg for something I knew we shouldn't have. I have now put my foot down and presented it to him in two ways: if we don't buy the "junk," not only will we not eat it because the temptation isn't there, but we'll also save a lot of money. I think the latter point is what finally convinced him. Sad that it came down to money...

MOSTOFTODAY SparkPoints: (2,961)
Fitness Minutes: (3,485)
Posts: 18
5/4/12 9:19 P

My naturally skinny loves his chips snacks and sweets. I try to buy him the junk food I hate the most. Cheez its and cheese puffs...yuck.

Edited by: MOSTOFTODAY at: 5/4/2012 (21:21)
AZURE-SKY Posts: 1,509
5/4/12 7:59 P

Remember this - You are the only one who puts food into your mouth - you are in control. While his junk food is a temptation, you can set some rules in your house.

Like - no eating in front of the TV. Hubby & I used to snack while watching TV in the evening. Then we bought new furniture, and we both agreed to not eating in the living room. If we want a snack, we dish it out and eat it in the kitchen. Nothing but water is allowed in the living room these days. After the first week, it wasn't a problem.

You need to have a discussion with him, and enlist his help. Hubby eats junk food, but it's stored in the pantry in closed containers on a shelf I can't reach without a stepstool. Out of sight, out of mind. Fortunately for me, I'm not crazy for most of his snacks.

I also keep my own healthy snacks on hand. And, I write down BEFORE I eat, what I'm going to have. I also use small dishes and weigh out a single portion. That is all I eat - no seconds.

Edited by: AZURE-SKY at: 5/4/2012 (20:05)
DJHARLEYQ SparkPoints: (6,704)
Fitness Minutes: (5,307)
Posts: 193
5/4/12 7:01 P

That's a tough question especially when there are multiple people in the house. I have a husband that stays pretty slim because of his job but he's always bringing home treats and stuff like that. Or he'll want to have candy in the house because it saves money buying in bulk than going down to the local convenient store and buying a candy bar.

It all comes down to compromise and willpower. Speak to your BF about having these things in the house and how they don't help you with your health. Then go from there. I know it's not easy but it really comes down to the question "Is he willing to give up his junk food to help with your health" the answer may be no or it may be yes.

The things that have helped my husband and I are:

Giving him a shelf on the freezer to keep his stuff. I know that these are his things and he would be more than happy to buy something for me if I really, really wanted it.

Giving him a shelf in the cupboard - For me it's out of sight then it's out of mind. Also having to write my foods down every time I put something in my mouth discourages me from putting certain things in my mouth.

For me it comes down to the fact that my husband did not make me fat. He is not forcing me to eat foods that are not good for me. He's not feeding the foods that are not healthy for my body. So when a bowl of chocolate is staring me in the face then I'm going to have to make the decision if I'm going to eat it or not...even if someone is sitting next to me eating them.

YELLOWDAHLIA SparkPoints: (85,483)
Fitness Minutes: (120)
Posts: 12,166
5/4/12 6:56 P

Right on Susan Foster! That's exactly what I say to myself when I start to think of the boyfriend's stash....and for now it's working.

ROCKANDROLL7 Posts: 473
5/4/12 6:31 P

Sure do not have all answers but seems to me who ever does the shopping should buy only

healthy foods so all can get use to them and grown up healthy and eat wise choices.


If we eat one thing say to them were on diet they eat junk they they grow up buy junk and later

have to be on diet too.

So many choices i see no reason bad cookies have to be in a home. Speaking from one who

loved them i have given them up 3 weeks and do not miss them.

I substituted frozen strawberry no sugar added. This way there always in the house and i

and grandbaby both are learning to eat good choices.

If i had a basement which florida most do not i sure not put bad choices there as i sure run

down the stairs and get them.

Our moments we start to fail is when we need to know ok 0 junk in house so we must

chose a good choice.

Frozen strawberry or that apple or such.

Just a thought i maybe wrong

Good luck to all

i am chosing low gi food list and doing better than i have in years. I plan to stay on it too even

if i end up with the weight i use to be i should be.



SUSAN_FOSTER Posts: 1,228
5/4/12 5:55 P

"It's not my food, it's his - therefore I have no right to eat it."

REDPEPPERS Posts: 18,862
5/4/12 5:03 P

Agree with having a conversation with your BF about the trigger foods in light of your efforts to become healthier. It may go better if you make it about wanting to improve your health and less about how unhealthy junk food is, since that may make your BF defensive.

I think you need to decide exactly what you want and how you will respond if you don't receive those things. For example, do you want him not to bring any junk food or snacks into your shared home, or is it acceptable if he keeps it away completely from you? For ice cream/frozen stuff would he (or make it a household cost) agree to buy a small freezer to keep in the garage or other place so you don't have to look at the ice cream? Would designating an area of the freezer for his stuff work if you could place an opaque barrier in front of it so you wouldn't have to look at frozen treats every time you opened the freezer? (Yes, you'd still know it could be there, but you wouldn't be seeing it and you could tell yourself that it's a dead squirrel behind the barrier). Would he agree to place his junk food in an opaque bin somewhere you won't see it? And importantly, would he agree not to eat any of these things in front of you, which might be difficult if he wants to have some of this food while you are watching tv?

If he refuses to accomodate or even consider any of your wishes, what will you do? Ask him to move out? Break up with him? Give up your plans for a healthy life? Be angry or frustrated much of the time? Would you prefer to delay moving in together until you can get this worked out first? I don't expect you to answer these on the board, but to think about what you will do.

It's reasonable to ask for help and support in attaining your goals for a healthy life. Rather than completely banning all his junk food (it will be his place, too), you may get farther by requesting that he keep it completely away from you and enjoying it when you aren't around.


Edited by: REDPEPPERS at: 5/5/2012 (23:42)
ANNE007 Posts: 153
5/4/12 3:42 P

Mountaingirl, you are very smart :-) I think that's a very key question. (shouldn't I be looking for someone who is also wanting a healthy lifestyle?)

At the very least, I would like someone who would support my own choice for a healthy lifestyle and I am not sure bringing junkfood into the house is supportive, even if it is not intended for me.

SOCDIRECTOR SparkPoints: (76,998)
Fitness Minutes: (79,889)
Posts: 773
5/4/12 3:34 P

I'm in the same boat, too! Lately I've been putting the tempting foods in Tupperware containers in the basement pantry to keep them out of my reach.

MOUNTAINGIRL41 Posts: 139
5/4/12 3:17 P

With three kids and a hungry hubby, there is just no way to get rid of snacks and some other tempting foods. Although we don't usually have candy or chips, etc in the house, Goldfish crackers can do just as much damage!

For day to day snacks, I keep them altogether in one large plastic tote that I place up high. This way, the kids can"t get into it without me portioning out the food. It isn't hidden but it isn't easy to get into -- even for me. If I want it, I really have to think about it....take it down, open it, dig through everything. A lot more time for me to decide "No! I don't need that stuff!" If it were just a semi-open box of goodies that I could easily reach into everytime I was near the pantry it would be harder.

For unusual stuff -- like the kids Easter candy. I found I needed to put it into a large plastic tote and then put it up high in my garage. At one point, so high I would need a ladder. (Those Reese's eggs call my name sometimes!) After dinner, I would get it down and let the kids pick out something and then have my husband deal with putting it away.

But one thing you should think about. If you are striving for a healthy life, shouldn't you look for a partner that is doing the same. Even if he has no weight issue at all, junk food is bad for you and will catch up with your body in some way. But that is just my 2 cents! ;)


OHIOGRL160 SparkPoints: (301)
Fitness Minutes: (0)
Posts: 44
5/4/12 2:20 P

That would be so easy for me if i was Alone! I need to keep sweets and other treats in the pantry for my Husband and family, they would disown me if i didn't , LOL. I keep Their treats/snack foods on the far end of the top shelf in the pantry, out of sight for me. My healthier snacks I placed on the center of a lower shelf. I placed can veggies, soups,, spaghetti sauce and staple foods in the center shelfs in immediate vision range, so that is the first thing I see when in the pantry. I found that reorginizing my pantry worked out much better for everyone.

ANNE007 Posts: 153
5/4/12 2:12 P

Great ideas! It's interesting to hear the statement that, "I can't expect him to change everything" for me. My response would be, can I expect him to change anything? There is nothing else that concerns me enough to ask for changes. This is only one request.

If he smoked, would it be OK for me to ask him not to smoke in the house? (as second-hand smoke is bad for my health). If I was an alcoholic or drug addict, would it be OK for me to ask him not to keep alcohol or drugs in the house? (as those would be bad for my health).

Having junk food in the house is also bad for my health. I wonder why food falls into a different category for many people than smoking, drugs or alcohol.

I want to make it clear that I am not asking to control his diet, any more than not smoking in the house would control someone's smoking habit.

Still pondering the resolution, but leaning toward speaking up for my health.



ZIGGYSTARSHAY Posts: 391
5/4/12 2:01 P

Yikes, tough situation! I live alone and am very single, ha..so I only have me, myself, and I to deal with. I, too, don't keep anything in the house that is trigger food - I do like to have SOMEthing sweet for an occassional dessert, so frozen yogurt I might buy, but always portion out the little half of a cup. But munchie type stuff, no way.

Anywho, you guys are definitely going to have to come to some kind of mutual agreement and respect. He needs to respect that you do not keep that stuff in the house because it's detrimental to you. So keeping such an expanse variety is probably the worst thing he could do to you. But likewise, you can't ban all foods from the house that don't fit into your diet from him (well, you could lol), so trying to find the balance of having one or two snack items for him in the house any given week. Not five different kinds of chips, 3 ice cream flavors, cookies galore, etc..I don't know, I'm just trying to think! Eek! And definitely have them out of your sight, having to look and them and move them to get to your GOOD food definitely won't help. I wish you the best!

YELLOWDAHLIA SparkPoints: (85,483)
Fitness Minutes: (120)
Posts: 12,166
5/4/12 1:47 P

Anne, we're in the same boat! One of the things that helped me the most was keeping the junk food out of the house. Now I'm dating someone and he's stock piling junk food here so he doesn't starve when he comes over. Poor guy is so skinny that I just can't deny him keeping the stuff here....he refuses to eat anything healthy and I refuse to try and change him.

Sorry I don't have anything helpful to tell you, just wanted to let you know someone else is in the same boat.

Good luck!


ELENGIL SparkPoints: (20,146)
Fitness Minutes: (8,060)
Posts: 700
5/4/12 1:29 P

Now that I live alone, I have no issue with bad foods in the house. Oddly, my will power is strongest in the grocery store. Maybe that's because that's where the *prices* are.

My mother (love her dearly as I do) was a huge obstacle to both my sister and I, however. She'd bring home three cakes and put them in the freezer and I'd tell her "do NOT tell [my sister] you bought them! She just doesn't have the will power to not eat them." Then she'd go tell my sister "I bought three cakes, they're in the freezer, but your sister told me not to tell you."

Seriously!? emoticon

When I do buy occasional treats to keep in the house, I'm pretty good, though not 100%, at keeping myself from over-doing it. I'm actually more likely to overdo it on non-treats.

Last night I made baked egg rolls, half for dinner and half to pack for lunch today. I ended up eating them all last night.
emoticon



JEANNEBOYD1 Posts: 482
5/4/12 1:22 P

That's how I gained weight in the first place. It's a very difficult situation. I will never again live with someone who eats junk or keeps it in the house. My health is too important to compromise. It's a deal breaker for me.

AJAMARIE Posts: 92
5/4/12 12:32 P

Ask him to hide them from you......

SLASALLE SparkPoints: (165,645)
Fitness Minutes: (67,827)
Posts: 9,180
5/4/12 11:54 A

Sounds to me like you're going to have to compromise since you can't expect him to change everything for you. An honest discussion is a great start. You might be surprised (let's hope, anyway).

I often tell my partner that if she is going to keep sweets in the house, please put them somewhere where I won't see them. She's A-OK with doing that.

Good luck!! Always remember, communication is key to everything.

HEYBUTT Posts: 769
5/4/12 11:10 A

I'd be honest and tell BF that I'm trying to eat less snacks/junk and can we stop keeping SO much of it around. Make it clear that you're not trying to cut it all out but that you don't really need to have "just in case" snacks. Mention how expensive it is to keep extra "just in case" snacks around.

I'd try to make one day a week grocery day and plan what snacks are wanted for the week and only buy them. Then you can try to plan to buy the things that are less appealing to you (but that BF likes).

And I'd start buying higher quality snacks/junk food. If you want cookies for the week, buy a box of the more natural/organic type versus the super processed kind. Personally I've found the higher quality snacks are more satisfying so I don't have the desire to binge. And with them being a bit more pricey, I force myself to make the package last the whole week.

ANNE007 Posts: 153
5/4/12 8:55 A

It amazes me the number of people who talk about keeping junk food, especially trigger food, in the house while trying to eat healthy. I couldn't possibly have them in the house because the temptation would be too great!

Of course it's easier to make that decision living alone. My BF will be moving in soon and I'm looking for advice about how to have that discussion with him. He is really into junk food and loves nothing better than watching TV at night with chips, salsa and a beer. He also keeps cookies, ice cream and candy on hand "in case someone comes over" (he never has company at his house).

I don't buy this type of food or have it in the house except on a limited basis. I would like to keep it that way. How would you handle that conversation if you were in my situation?



Page: 3 of (3)   « First Page ‹ Previous Page 1 2 3




Other Diet and Nutrition Topics:

Topics: Last Post:
Lactose intollerant 8/27/2013 8:41:19 PM
1200 Calorie Diet Menu Help 7/17/2013 11:09:53 AM
Multivitamins? 9/9/2013 11:10:06 PM
No fridge! No stove! What to eat? 7/2/2013 11:09:49 PM
HOW TO CHOOSE FOOD TO MEET MY NUTRITION NEEDS 7/21/2013 2:53:09 PM

Diet Resources: dangers of high fructose corn syrup | high fructose corn syrup dangers | high fructose corn syrup health