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JANIEWWJD SparkPoints: (223,778)
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9/28/13 12:00 A

God bless you!!!

ROXYCARIN SparkPoints: (61,224)
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9/27/13 5:42 P

Good luck

LIGHTNINGLAD Posts: 168
9/27/13 5:26 P

I was born and raised in The Bronx, had a brief sojourn for college in Western Maryland- Frostburg State and have lived in Washington DC and Environs since the late 1970's.

I'm moving from 6 Miles West of DC to Central Kentucky to a town of less than 3K population.

It will be radically different to be sure!

AZULVIOLETA6 SparkPoints: (58,243)
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9/27/13 2:23 P

Are you moving overseas? I've done that a few times, and while it is hard to pare down to what you absolutely need, it is liberating.

For things like trophies and other mementos that you can't keep, what about digital photographs? Take a picture for the memories and get rid of the physical object.

If you have until January, that is plenty of time...make a list and tackle one thing a week.

LEKSIPATSY Posts: 380
9/27/13 1:45 P

Moving is one of the most stressful things in life (second to divorce and job loss). We went from a 3BR house to a 1BR apt last Dec, and getting rid of stuff was a pain, but try not to get too emotional. After all - it's just STUFF and it's not as important as your health and happiness. Stuff comes and goes throughout your entire life - and if you ended up retaining everything you've ever bought you would end up on an episode of Hoarders.

Seriously, watch a few episodes of Hoarders and you will be throwing stuff away left and right! LOL.

We are moving AGAIN in December, and it's really gotten me down. It's important to focus on the good things: exploring your new neighborhood, decorating, and checking out new restaurants and nature trails, or whatever you are in to. Really get excited about that and you will get excited about the move - your great adventure? emoticon

LIGHTNINGLAD Posts: 168
9/27/13 7:09 A

It is important to end properly and with dignity in order to begin and launch well in my new location.

I am seeing that giving into panic would be a stain on my character!

MISSRUTH Posts: 3,443
9/27/13 7:05 A

I agree that it's not right to "just leave it" for someone else to deal with. That's childish, and puts a burden on someone else. When we moved the last time, I literally went through every single one of our possessions, including everything that had been packed up and stored in the attic. We had a yard sale, I mailed the (grown & living in other states) kids their sentimental keepsakes, donated books to the library, gave a ton of fabric and craft stuff to the local senior center, and took piles of stuff to Goodwill. I offered up some furniture and large stuff (a freezer etc) to friends and neighbors. There were some things I needed to part with that was hard to do. I took photos of those things before I got rid of them.

I actually found the whole experience, while difficult at the time, rather liberating. It has drastically reduced my desire to accumulate more stuff. Books for example (and I love books)-- well I either check it out of the library, or if the library hasn't got it, I might buy a copy and then donate it when I'm done reading it. And clothes. I now own only what fits. Both, what fits my body, and what fits the space I've got to store it all in.

LIGHTNINGLAD Posts: 168
9/26/13 10:00 P

That is an idea I had not considered.. Thank You.

ANARIE Posts: 12,419
9/26/13 9:19 P

Go through and pick out a few moving boxes' worth of things that matter to you. Then hire an estate liquidation firm to deal with the rest. These are companies that go through belongings of people who have passed away or who just have to downsize. They sort through, set aside anything that they think might have sentimental value (or unusual monetary value) and got overlooked, and then they organize and auction anything worth selling and donate or recycle the rest. They take their fee out of the auction proceeds.

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (101,509)
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9/26/13 6:25 P

While growing up and during my marriage I have moved 32 times in total. What have I learned from all of these moves.....one important thing. Stuff can always be replaced and is not as important as whom, what or where you are moving to in the grand scheme of things. Each time I was faced with leaving stuff behind I kept only a few special items that touched my heart deeply...the rest was for someone else to enjoy.

Hope this helps.

LIGHTNINGLAD Posts: 168
9/26/13 6:10 P

Thank you , Karen, for these thoughtful, kind and empowering words.

KKKAREN SparkPoints: (212,827)
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9/26/13 5:24 P

I have moved many times myself and I know how hard it is. The last move meant leaving all my furniture behind. I met with the landlord first and asked her if she wanted it and she loved it all and rented it next as furnished. That doesn't always happen. Even though you want to make the move it is still hard to leave a place you have been happy in. I will say though, every time I moved I quickly loved the new place better than the old. I would say do not leave your belongings for someone else to deal with. Donate all you can, your books could go to your library, extra clothes to Goodwill. See if any of your friends want something. For your stress keep up your exercising and stretching, be sure you're getting enough sleep and eat healthy. I will be making another move myself soon and am trying to keep down the stress. Good luck to you, I'm sure you'll love the new place.

LIGHTNINGLAD Posts: 168
9/26/13 4:33 P

I'm moving for the best reasons for ---- love, for a better quality of life, better activities and to embrace new possibilities that seem will enable me to live better and more positively, over all, once I adjust to my New World well.

However, I hate the idea of a major reduction in my possessions. I will need to divest myself of clothing, hard fought for trophies, hundreds of books and other reminders of good times that I've enjoyed.

I've been through such times before due to moving locally for various reasons. The last move occurred in April of 2011. It seems that each one is more intensely difficult than the last.

I'm so sorely tempted to just not go through this liquidation process and simply walk away from my apartment as is in January .. I've asked for help, especially emotionally support- an on-hand presence, sitting with me as I do this and that effort so far had not gotten anyone to step forward to perform that task.

If it should come down to a totally or mostly " Me. Myself and I" task, What is the best way for me to get this maternity resolved well, properly and decently? How should I combat deciding to go with The " I'll leave this for someone else to deal with " solution to this situation ?

- Lightning Lad -



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