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RACHELLELP
Posts: 361
12/26/10 11:50 P

Ritznikz, like everyone said, you can't make him, you don't want to hurt him, you just want to include him. I lost the most weight between kids #2 and #3 when DH was out to sea. Taking recreational trips together really got us working towards a healthier lifestyle. Maybe the gym doesn't excite him but a hike in the woods or an after dinner stroll or a friendly flag football game would. Good luck!



ENIGMAVALDEZ
Posts: 5
12/25/10 3:23 P

Hi there. From my experience, it's completely useless to expect or hope that family will support you in your new healthy lifestyle. It can be disappointing and frustrating, but really who are we doing this for?

Having support from those closest to you would be ideal, and in a perfect world, everyone would join in, but this is reality. Try to make this fun and as comfortable for yourself, while at the same time having a little challenge ahead. This way you don't get bored, you can remain excited and some of that excitement may rub off on those around you. Everyone wants to feel good, but most of us have too much pain associated with healthy eating and exercise. Happy holidays to you.



ENIGMAVALDEZ
Posts: 5
12/25/10 3:22 P

Hi there. From my experience, it's completely useless to expect or hope that family will support you in your new healthy lifestyle. It can be disappointing and frustrating, but really who are we doing this for?

Having support from those closest to you would be ideal, and in a perfect world, everyone would join in, but this is reality. Try to make this fun and as comfortable for yourself, while at the same time having a little challenge ahead. This way you don't get bored, you can remain excited and some of that excitement may rub off on those around you. Everyone wants to feel good, but most of us have too much pain associated with healthy eating and exercise. Happy holidays to you.



ECLECTIC_CELT
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12/9/10 7:58 P

My husband exercised for a whole 5 days when I started here on spark. Then the treadmill just began gathering dust again (I can't use it due to knee issues).

As far as eating healthier is concerned he is doing that, mainly because he leaves it to me to do all the grocery shopping and the majority of the cooking. I don't buy nearly as much "treat" food as I did in years past and he doesn't seem to miss it very often. Once in a while I will get him something special but it is usually something he likes but I don't to prevent me from being tempted too much.

Maybe eventually he will start trying to get fit. I know better than to try and push the issue though. It has to be his decision.



PAULKNUTH
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12/9/10 4:38 P

I struggle with my wife. She says she will look into SparkPeople after the holidays. She has not done a lot to encourage or make things simple for me and that is okay. This is my responsibility. When she gave me the extra cookies last night (she is so sweet) it was my choice to eat them. I did track them.

Life will be easier if she joins the program but if not - I'll just have to cook some of my own stuff and buy some of my own groceries. I am hopeful and will bring it up again after Christmas.

FYI - A couple dear family members have past away recently and the holidays are always hectic so I do not blame her for not wanting the additional stress of a diet at this moment.



PAULKNUTH
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12/9/10 4:32 P

Wow.

Thing differently. There is a big difference between - "I want to join the local gym and use weights to firm up. Will you be my personal trainer and join with me?" and "We need to join a gym to get in better shape"

He probably would do things just to help you but would become defensive if it was to improve himself unless he was ready to do so.

BEST TIME TO ASK A GUY TO JOIN FITNESS CENTER IS AFTER WATCHING THE FIRST ROCKY MOVIE!!!



ZORBS13
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12/8/10 8:47 P

I talk about all the health risks that eating crappy brings, how processed food is full of preservatives and other chemicals..

but your BF has to decide he actually wants to eat that way. If you do the food shopping, cooking, you can serve food the way you want it.



LUANN_IN_PA
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12/8/10 4:46 P

"How do you convince someone that eating healthy is the way to go?"

You can't.
They have to come to that conclusion themselves.



RITZNIKZ
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12/8/10 3:46 P

I live with my boyfriend who is fabulous but we both need to eat healthier and while neither of us is too overweight, we could both afford to lose a little. I have already gotten him to eat a little better and recognize calories but I wish there was more support. I would kill for him to come to the gym with me or even just encourage better decisions in the house (like not eating out so much and cooking instead).

However, I dont know how to bring it up. I know that changing your lifestyle is something that you have to decide on your own to do and I feel like if I say anything about us needing to eat better he will just think Im telling him to lose weight or calling him fat.

How do you convince someone that eating healthy is the way to go? Ive tried leading by example but I am running out of motivation to not be influenced by his lounging around and unhealthy eating. Its so hard to go to the gym when Id rather be watching football with him. AHH I dont know what to do.



 
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