I am a big believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline.
You need to find ways to vent your stress that don't involve food. Whenever I'm feeling out of sorts, I hit the gym for a good workout. Have you ever tried kick boxing ? I find hitting a heavy bag helps me decrease and vent my day's frustrations. What about yoga ? Yoga isn't just about being more flexible. There are yoga classes that will teach you breathing techniques as well as how to meditate. Studies have shown that meditating can help lower a person's blood pressure as well as their stress.
So, if you've never done yoga, you might consider taking a class. And you should take a class over a DVD. a DVD isn't the same as a class. An instructor can teach you many different techniques to help you (as my teacher says) calm your nervous system.
Do you drink tea ? I find tea very soothing as well as relaxing. the next time you feel like you want to run to the frig, try having a cup of tea, listen to your favorite music, take a walk. If you haven't read any of the great Spark articles on emotional eating, you might want to start reading them. they'll help. www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellness_arti