Fitness Minutes: (6,555)
2,481 10/15/13 2:54 P
I would just tell him that when you want his (based on probably considerable expertise) advice on exercise, you will ask for it. But for right now, you are happy with your results and methods and while you appreciate the spirit in which he offers advice, it's not what you need or want right now.
My BF and I exercise together occasionally and we'll offer each other tips and advice but once one of us says, "I've got it," that's it. It works for us.
I get self conscious about exercising in front my my partner. So I leave if I can, we go to different gyms. If he starts making unhelpful comments I do call him out on it, nicely but so that he knows that he isn't helping the way he thinks that he is. Fitness and getting healthy is an intensely personal journey and you need to be able to follow your own path.
Fitness Minutes: (36,402)
1,021 10/15/13 9:08 A
Is there a room in the house you can go to where he won't follow you and watch you work out? Or an errand he can run for you during the time you're working out? It sounds to me like that'd be a perfect time to send him out to the park with the kids or to the grocery store or something. At the very least, you should be able to ask him to leave you alone while you work out, but if he can't help himself, just send him out.
Fitness Minutes: (15,960)
13 10/15/13 8:37 A
I totally understand where you are coming from. I too am a military spouse. I hated doing ANY exercise with the husband anywhere nearby. The only thing we can do together is go for a walk. I walk faster than he does but we talk about our day while walking. I save all other exercises for when I am alone. It might mean I have to lock the bedroom door so no one can come in. What works for one person, it might not work for another. My husband loves to run. Me? I love my knees and want them to still work when I am 100 years old. I do not run on pavement. I do get on the trampoline and run around on it.
Fitness Minutes: (10,722)
786 10/14/13 7:45 P
I find it so hard to get in a REALLY good work out when my husband has a day off.He's military so he works out 5 days a week and is quite fit but when he sees me working out I always get the "you're not doing that right" or "you should do more of those and less of those" "you really think THAT'S working out??" I know he's doing it because he thinks it's helping but there are moments where I'd rather miss a day then try to explain for the 100th time that what I'm doing IS working and I feel good afterward(you know that good,hard work out feel). Anyone else feel this way sometimes??
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