Welcome to Spark, and take it from someone that has started over and over, this site helps! The support is amazing and the ideas people come up with to help situations we face are great.
One idea for you, you say you end up picking from what you fixed the kids and your husband; have you tried excusing yourself from the table when you are done? Go to the kitchen and put away any food that is leftover from their meals, so you aren't tempted to pick. Just a thought.
I have a really hard time in the compliment department as well, I had a old therapist of mine suggest you sit down and write three things you like about yourself, and tape them to your bathroom mirror, or the back of a door, someplace you see everyday, and say them to yourself, (out loud if no one is around, or in your head if they are around). I know over time, I have gotten better with it, not great, it's a work in process; just like this healthy eating thing...an adventure.
One more idea, what if you had one meal a week that was something you eat, fix it, put it on the table and see what happens. Spark has thousands of recipes that you can look at that take food that wasn't really healthy, and turns them into something that is good tasting and healthy. Again, just a thought.
Feel free to email me if you want to chat, or if you just need another smilie face