i love you ARCHIMEDESII! i celebrated my birthday (for an entire week) and i am now feeling bamboozled and side tracked, looking for words of encouragement to motivate myself to dust myself off and start over. your words have definitely jump started my day. i am almost in tears. "it's not all or nothing, it's all about making a few simple changes" thank you so much.
Edited by: CRUMP8470 at: 4/15/2013 (13:44)
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55 4/9/13 7:07 P
If your current healthy eating regimen is hard to stick to, you can try and come at that problem from a few different angles. Give a few different doors a gentle push and see what happens, rather than focussing on kicking down one door.
1) You can find out more about how to work on your "sticking power". There are various toolboxes out there (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, mindfulness, hypnotherapy etc.). You might find an approach that suits you if you read around a bit). Exercise can be good for motivation as well, because of the way it puts you in touch with your body and its needs, and because of the way it gets you to rethink calories.
2) You can tweak your regime and gradually ease your way into it until it's easier to stick to. - Find substitutions for the unhealthy foods you really miss. - Look for ways to eat those unhealthy foods, but in smaller quantities or healthier combinations (like in a salad rather than a sandwich). - Look for tasty ways to increase your fruit and veg intake, that will automatically leave less room for junk. -Make it a quest.
The third option is just to let things slide. You're rejected that as an overall strategy, but it might still be a viable partial strategy. Some people watch their diets more during the week than at the weekend, or find other ways to keep tabs on their weight without feeling like they are on a never-ending diet. It's good to be vigilant, but it's good to be relaxed and avoid stressing, too.
For me, I had to start slow. I could jump right into it when I was a teen but not anymore. I found not really 'dieting' helped at the beginning. I tracked my food (after I wasn't losing after a month) and I added exercise, then once I started tracking I was able to figure out where I was going wrong. I thought I was eating healthier-I wasn't. My problem is more out of boredom and depression, so I had to (still am) working on those issues. I'm having a little setback this week since my sister is staying here and we don't get along at all-she is the cause of a lot of my weight gain (stress). I still allow myself treats and I don't beat myself up if I slip up or don't exercise.
As far as other people in the house, I would just let them eat whatever they want and if you cook anything and want to make enough for everyone, go for it; otherwise just worry about yourself. My mom is the same way. Every time she cooks, it's something fried and she's always baking brownies or cookies and we have to keep chips, ice cream and m&ms in the house for her at all times. It's hard to get used to at first but once you stay committed to yourself, others will learn to respect it (hopefully)and you won't even miss it. Needless to say, I cook most of the meals around here now. She does try most of them and if she feels like having something fried, I let her do her thing and I make my own and she's ok with it.
It's ok to have a treat once in a while. I like to keep home-made muffins on hand so I can have my 'dessert' and not feel deprived. Once you do this for a few days, you will feel better and I think you will be able to stick with it. Don't be afraid to try new recipes and if you don't like it, don't feel like you have to eat it because it's healthy.
You can do it! I've been there many times and I keep hopping back on. I can stick with my habits but I do have issues that I'm working on right now so hopefully this is the last time I will be saying 'this time I will do it'.
Sorry about my book..I write long posts-I can't help it.
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1,732 4/9/13 4:24 P
I started again 2nd time around in July 2012. What has changed for me is SPARKCOACH. I truly believe this can help you stay on track. For 8 month I was the only one doing SparkPeople in my family, now I have my daughter doing it ana Im so happy finally my husband too. Im truly blessesd, but hasnt always been that way all the time, because my family loves going out to eat and it was difficult for me to stay on track, but things turned out better. Dont give up on yourself, your number 1 in this journey. Look straight ahead, dont look back. Today is the first day of your journey to start over again and again, it will get easier believe me. I know its hard right now, ive been there, but you need to stay focused and most important set your goals, small and big ones, daily-weekly and monthy, write it all down and if you wont you can blog it in your Sparkpage. You need to go on Sparks daily, and log on, read everything and write it down that speaks to you, also keep a food journal, that helps me alot. Im so happy that your seeking help, your trying and that matters. Its showing that you still care and love yourself. Keep reaching out-we all are here for you.
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21,338 4/9/13 11:32 A
I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
Good health isn't all or nothing. Every little bit DOES make a difference. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. That's why Spark People encourages its members to start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated.
Set some simple goals. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not getting any regular exercise, don't try to do an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.
And that's how good health starts. It's not all or nothing. it's all about making a few simple changes.
So, what are some simple goals you'd like to set for this week ?
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46,222 4/9/13 10:14 A
For me, giving up the diet mentality is what has finally allowed me to not only lose 80 pounds, but to keep them off--almost 5 years now. The way to do so is by committing to making this a lifestyle. That means you can eat whatever foods you want (you just have to plan for them and you must know you can't eat them every day). You have to be more active than you are today--but studies show that three 10 minute walks are just as important as one longer workout.
This journey is about making healthy habits a part of your life--it's not about deprivation, starvation, lots of exercise--it's about making small, permanent changes.
What personally helps me is variety. I've been trying all kinds of new recipes and cuisines. I pretty much have to make two meals, one for me and my oldest daughter (she's an adventurous eater with me) and then something else for the rest of the family. It's not easy when temptation is around but I prepare stuff for dinner, then put leftovers in the freezer if I can or pack it for lunch the next day. I make sure I have my healthy or healthier snacks around and try to reach for those.
I joined last year and got off to a good start and then gave up. But I can't live like this anymore. I am tired of gaining weight, tired of clothes getting bigger, tired of feeling older than I am, tired of feeling ugly, tired of looking at myself and seeing what I don't want to see. So I am back again...
Any ideas on how I can stay on track? Stay focused and not give in to eating anything and everything there is in the house? Not a lot of support from the family with respect to keeping only healthy snacks and stuff in the house, they just go out and buy it anyway......
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