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EOWYN2424 Posts: 9,108
6/20/13 1:24 A

Cut yourself some slack! You're going thru a tough time! If you slip up, don't be so hard on yourself! SP will always be here for you and so will we!

Be good to yourself!

STARS4ME Posts: 227
6/20/13 12:44 A

Tax " meds " tonight. hope I can sleep....crying a lot tonight , mike gave me a good long hug , good hubby today emoticon
500 points to hubby :)

STARS4ME Posts: 227
6/20/13 12:21 A

I spent the day with sis and mom and dad are here from Florida to see her a picture of her and daddy she's 54 looks older than my daddy .
her pic on my spark page. ty all please keep the positive coming my way , xx
Hopefully shes here for 1 more birthday , and Christmas its her favorite .

Edited by: STARS4ME at: 6/20/2013 (00:29)
ASHLEYGILLE SparkPoints: (12,745)
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6/19/13 8:05 A

All great advice. I especially agree with Resident Expert Kelly. Take care of yourself as best you can, but don't beat yourself up if you're unable to Spark or follow your diet/exercise routine as well as you would like. With all that you're going through right now, it's quite impressive that you're able to Spark at all. Continue Sparking as you can/want, but remember SP will be when you're ready to log in daily again. In the meantime, be good to yourself and spend time with your loved ones. I'm so sorry that you're going through this rough time; it's what we all fear... We here at SP are here for you and do consider a support group in your area as well. You can get support from others in similar situations and sometimes walk away with even friendship. Love to you and your family... xx

TRYINGHARD54 Posts: 5,292
6/19/13 7:38 A

remember there is only one YOU ! take care of yourself.

GRAMMYBRENDA2 SparkPoints: (3,883)
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6/19/13 7:16 A

You are going thru so much right now. But you say you don't feel like eating, and when you do, you try to make wise choices. How can that be "letting yourself down"? You have to do what you can. If you don't log into spark and do everything, so be it. If you need some support, and feel like logging on, do it. SP will be here whenever you are ready.

My prayers are with you and your family as you go thru this horrible time.


ROXYCARIN SparkPoints: (95,965)
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6/19/13 12:23 A


WORDWOMAN7 SparkPoints: (11,240)
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6/19/13 12:11 A

I'd say just be very, very kind to yourself right now. Keep a bowl of fresh fruit and some other foods ready to eat, but be there for your sister and your family. I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with this. You will be in my prayers, too.

JANIEWWJD SparkPoints: (565,740)
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6/18/13 11:53 P

God bless you!!!! I will be praying for you!!!!

SARRARAZ Posts: 157
6/18/13 10:03 P

work out

KJEANNE SparkPoints: (0)
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6/18/13 10:00 P

Maybe you can ask yourself if not logging into SP is letting yourself down is a rational thought? There are real feelings but where do they come from? Do you put pressure on yourself to be a super women? Where does that come from? Maybe if you can figure that out you can give yourself a break.

CHOCOLATELEA SparkPoints: (4,692)
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6/18/13 2:14 P

Stress is a killer. :(

If you can't eat, sip on meal drinks. You'll get your meals throughout the day. (Not eating is a lot better for Spark than eating too much!)

Take walks. Really. Take long walks. You think better and it destresses you. (And you'll get exercise as a happy by-product.)

And see if you can find a support group in your area. It's tough to be a relative of a cancer victim. People have been through this before and they can help guide you. Just talking to someone who knows the emotional turmoil you're going through will help.

Don't feel guilty. This is not your fault. Do the best you can, but don't beat yourself up thinking you could have done more.


Edited by: CHOCOLATELEA at: 6/18/2013 (14:15)
FARIS71 Posts: 492
6/18/13 2:10 P

That person is right. Spark will be here when you are through this unimaginably tough time. You know what your body needs, so do your best to respect it, but be sure to cut yourself a little slack. Blessings to you and your family.

KELLY_SP SparkPoints: (138,205)
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6/18/13 1:45 P

I am very sorry that you are going through this. Honestly, I don't think there are any words of direction that will really help. Do your best for yourself and be available for your family. The rest will be waiting for you on the other side of this hurdle. Forgive yourself if you don't stick to your goals right now. You are clearly juggling more than a typical day. Take things one choice at a time - that's the best any of us can do.

Be well,

STARS4ME Posts: 227
6/18/13 1:07 P

So Since may 30th my life has turned upside down. Trying to be there for my sister , she is going to pass from cancer. I am so stressed and cant eat or sleep. needing to be with her in another state. 2 weeks I have not logged on here. but trying to eat similar to how I was doing while tracking daily. any advice on how I deal with this family crisis and sparking at the same time ? emoticon
Though family comes first I feel like I am letting myself down....

Edited by: STARS4ME at: 6/18/2013 (13:10)
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