I agree with the previous posters...there's room for balance. Try to plan in advance and then don't sweat it. As long as it's a truly occasional thing, it's not that big of a deal.
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5/28/13 3:57 P
This is a source of anxiety for me too, though I'm not faced with the situation as often as some. If you choose the restaurant you're going to for date-night, look online for nutrition info on the foods you might want to have. Of course, this works better for the chain restaurants, though they don't always make the info all that easy to find!
You might also find some helpful ideas on social gatherings in the "articles" section, I remember coming across a few about socializing and cookouts and such. I hope you can find a way to align your priorities so you can enjoy your outings, and your healthful goals too!
I too have a very hard time eating well in social situations. In fact, that's an ongoing struggle I have. Here's what I've done to lessen the negative inpact: 1) Limit social occassions, but don't cut them out completely. It's okay to go to a picnic, out to dinner, and to a game night at a friend's house...just not three days in a row. If you deprive yourself of something you love, you're more likely to resent your healthy lifestyle instead of embracing it. 2) Plan in advance. Do you know what's going to be there? Plan to eat as many healthy foods as possible and have just one or two indulgences (in small quantities). 3) Make some changes in your social lifestyle. Instead of a dinner and a concert/movie with your husband, opt for taking more long walks together, going for hikes, going to bikerides, or entering a race together. 4) Try to seek out friends who have either similar goals or have already reached the goals that you want to achieve. If you go out with them, they won't tease you about your choices. They might even share what works for them.
I am very blessed to have a supportive husband. If you haven't done so already, sit down with your husband (or better yet, have a nice long walk), and explain your goals. Don't ask him to move mountains or change completely, but see if the two of you could work out some ideas as to how you could compromise. Would he be willing to limit some of his treats to only times that you're not around? Would he mind if you alternated dates between your old standbys and some new healthier activities? The truth is that you're going to have to do this for yourself, but you can ask for support.
Not everyone finds the support they need at home. But you'll never know unless you try.
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5/28/13 1:50 P
I can absolutely relate to this! I almost get mad when my husband suggests we go out to eat or attend a picnic, etc. when I am trying so desperately not to be in situations of temptation! And then when I take things that are I consider healthy, I feel like I'm getting grilled about it. The last picnic we attended, I took a spinach salad and some chicken sausage (enough to share with anyone that wanted one). And although both were eaten, several people made comments about it...Are you on Atkins? Why did you bring rabbit food? Are you on a diet? Now if I would have showed up with a cheesecake and chips, no one would have said a word!!! And if I even THINK about eating the cheesecake, I start to gain a pound! I don't have a solution but just wanted to assure you that you are not alone. I'd be happy to take on any suggestions though!!
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5/28/13 12:50 P
I had not realized until recently that most of my social activities involve eating or drinking. Hubby and I go to dinner on dates. We go to concerts, events, and festivals where having a drink is part of the experience. Trips to the baseball game usually mean nachos, a hot dog, and a beer. Even work or social group gatherings center around pot luck meals.
I have to admit that I am losing motivation for several reasons and it is a vicious cycle. I partake of social eating and then don't see the results I want. I exclude myself from social activities and feel left out which makes me want to throw out the plan altogether.
What is the worst is that my husband eats/drinks whatever he wants at these gatherings. He is in good shape for his age and must have better metabolism than me. I run 5-6 days a week and count every calorie I eat, but gain just looking at food.
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