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LIVEYOUNG94
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11/28/12 6:06 P

It's hard to get someone to care about this topic and it is quite sensitive. My dad is very paranoid about his weight and will sometimes skip meals however when he does eat it's very unhealthy.

He nagged me for around 3 years about my weight which I found very upsetting, mainly because I was conscious that I was over weight and I felt depressed about it. However I also found it annoying how he would say stuff to me but would not listen to his own advice.

If my dad showed that he could eat healthily, maybe asked me to go on regular dog walks with him and let me come shopping to pick healthier versions of food then I would have been more likely to change my habits as well.

Although I do want to lose weight for a new start and to become overall healthier I feel that one reason I am doing this is that 5 years down the line, I could look at him and say all the things he have said to me.

I believe that to help them you should show them and let them get involved, they are not children so they have to decide. (it's hard to say from my point of view since I am 18 and still live at home, so my dad influences me a lot depending on what food he buys etc :)



ZEDMAY
Posts: 41
11/28/12 3:48 P

It must be so disheartening to watch your family struggle while you are working towards healthier habits. Hopefully your efforts will rub off on them. It certainly worked in my family. I recommitted to getting fit and healthy when my mom and sister started doing Weight Watchers together. I saw their success and it motivated me.

The holidays are coming up and present an opportunity for you to encourage them towards better health. Try swapping in some healthier foods at family dinners and reducing the amount of sugary treats you bake (if your family is like mine). Try doing crafts together to get into the spirit rather than baking cookies. Try some healthy but fun family outings like taking a walk to see the Christmas lights in the neighbourhood, having a snowball fight, going snowshoeing or cross-country skiing, etc. Avoid giving junk food and other unhealthy things as gifts/stocking stuffers. If they seem interested (because a gift isn't a gift if it seems like someone pushing you to do something you don't want to do), offer to give them a gift certificate for a fitness class or a pair of running shoes or something like that for Christmas.



KATIEEMMA5
Posts: 1,062
11/24/12 6:31 P

I'm so sorry that you are going thru this it must be really hard for you but you know how difficult it is to lose weight yourself. My mum is very heavy, she does plenty of things in her day and is very active but she can't for the life of her shift the weight and I'm going the same way. We are both the same size now and I can see myself stuck with the weight for years like she has been. I am doing my damn hardest to lose weight and move more but it's not easy and it's in the genes they say so your family are probably genetically predisposed to being overweight/obese which doesn't help.
Like everyone else has said it would be good to show an example but it's not going to be easy for you to suddenly drop kgs and exercise more than you ever have its tough.

much love ,
Kate

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DUBLINROSE
Posts: 2,052
11/24/12 6:50 A

I think you need to be careful about this, if you are seen to be "preaching" to people they will just not listen, its counter productive. They know themselves if they are overweight and unhealthy anyway.

I think the best thing you can do is lead by example, focus on your own health and fitness, let them see the positive changes in you not just in how you look but in how you feel. Be there for them if they need you, try to find some activity they can enjoy that you can share with them. Most of all don't let them drag you down, you're doing the right thing taking care of you, hopefully in time they will follow.



LOUNMOUN
Posts: 1,264
11/23/12 11:20 A

You can't make other people care about their health.

Don't preach or be judgmental.
Be a good example. Eat healthy and exercise. Change your unhealthy habits. Talk about how good you feel.
Invite them to join you in activities. Maybe be walking buddies or take a class together or make a team for a charity run or something.
Serve healthy foods at family gatherings.






JENMC14
Posts: 2,707
11/20/12 11:44 A

If they're adults, there's really nothing you can do. If they live at home, you can cook only healthy meals and keep junk out of the house, but other than that, don't push, it won't do any good, and it will only serve to (possibly) alienate them. The best thing you can do is lead by example. Fix your diet. Get on a workout plan. Let them see how changing your life. You can always invite them to workout with you, do a class, take a walk, etc. Perhaps find a cooking class that focuses on healthful meals and do that together.



LUANN_IN_PA
Posts: 16,003
11/20/12 11:42 A

You cannot get them to care... they have to do that on their own.

The best you can do is lead by example, and to have healthy things for when they eat at your house.



OOSOSASSY
Posts: 2
11/20/12 9:19 A

It is really hitting me lately how worried I am about my entire families obesity. We are all so unhealthy and I really hate seeing my adult kids like this. I don't know how to start getting them to care. Even to make small changes. I need them all and I know they need me. Any suggestions? Has anything worked for you and your family?



 
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