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CHARMIAN2 Posts: 997
3/6/13 9:43 A

You can do it!!! One day at a time

LINDAANNB1 Posts: 514
3/6/13 7:03 A

Thanks so much everyone ! Your words of encouragement really mean alot. I have had a bad week, I decided last night to go to the weekly weigh in and meeting though and I somehow managed to stay the same, I know I should have lost this week but at least I didn't gain :) going to make this a better week, I want to see a loss next week on that scale !

HAPPYMENOW58 Posts: 2,264
3/5/13 6:32 A

hang in there..keep on keeping on....Don't GIVE UP!!!!!!!! Have you tried Jpurnaling your feelings? This helps me see what is bugging me,...helps me identify anxieties that are causing me to feel overwhelmed....NEVER underestimate the benefits of taking a walk when stress eating desires hit you! Hit the pavement instead of the refridgerator!!!!!! While you are walking, repeat positive affirmation statements to, I WANT TO BE HEALTHY!

REDELAINE1990 SparkPoints: (26,178)
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3/5/13 6:01 A

I so Identify with you, I believe alot of us have an all or nothing approach to life but when this comes into our goals for a healthy lifestyle it really makes the journey so much more difficult.
When I started my journey 9 months ago I never thought I would have such a roller coaster but thats life. However I had to learn to take one day at a time and often one meal at a time.
As others have said setting small goals is essential. I started with drinking 8 glasses of water a day. When I had a bad lunch in particular I would say thats it the days ruined but when I took one meal at a time I found that even if I over indulged in lunch I could still have a healthy dinner even if my calories were gonna be over that day. Its one choice at a time and keeping yourself motivated. The motivational pages are great here on Sp, i love the articles and especially the insipartional quotes. When I started I never thought I'd have lost 70 lbs so far but even more important I prefer eating healthy food than junk and thats no lie.
Praying and hoping you can do it, If I can you can.. You go girl!!!

CHARMIAN2 Posts: 997
3/5/13 5:05 A

Set small goals..per The Spark. Use goal of 5 pounds to lose..goals examples drinking more water, getting more protein and veges

CILER11 Posts: 265
3/4/13 9:34 A

One thing that has helped me this time is to make smaller goals. Instead of focusing on the 100lbs I have to lose am going 30lbs at a time. That way it seems less daunting. I have had to work really hard at giving up my all or nothing attitude. You might want to try reading the Mind Over Body articles on Spark they really helped me be more mindful in my goals, progress, and eating. Hang in there.


MINDBEND SparkPoints: (30,263)
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3/2/13 3:13 P

I also agree with all the posts before I won't repeat myself :-) But we all fall off the wagon, many a times, but the key is to get yourself up and back on. Keep moving. No one said this was going to be a straightforward journey.

I recall your posts from before and notice the tone and depression...and I know Archimedes has asked you this too before -- but have you seen a doctor about your depression yet? It CAN hinder weight loss big time. I have terrible depression but with the right medication I'm on, it does wonders for my feelings of self-worth. It lifts a gray haze that's otherwise ove rme all the time if I don't take any medications. Depression IS a very debilitating condition that can easily be treated. Best of luck to you!

CHRISMINN SparkPoints: (15,894)
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3/2/13 2:10 P

I can relate to this question because I'm having a tough time too. I log in every day, record my food (almost all...) and I just love getting my Spark Points! Anyhow, there are days when I feel like my overindulging might as well allow me to throw out the rest of the day and eat anything. But I have this one book that reminds me to tell myself "oh, well, I'm planning on a snack/meal in just 30 minutes so wait until then". It doesn't work every time, but sometimes it does. So when I'm at work or wherever and really want to eat something unplanned, I try to remember that and say "oh, well". It's not like I'm going to keel over if I don't eat that cookie right that minute! And I agree with the writer below who talked about making small goals. That is very helpful. I cringe when I think how much I have to lose, but if I look at the next "5" mark on the scale and shoot for that, it's just a bit easier. Hang in there and pat yourself on the back every time you say "no" to unplanned food! Oh, and do the same for every bit of exercise!

3/2/13 1:15 P

If you need instant gratification, then set goals you can reach more quickly.

When you get up in the morning, tell yourself, "My goal today is to drink 8 glasses of water." You will know by the end of the day that you have achieved that goal.

When you go shopping, say, "My goal is to park closer to the back of the lot so I can walk a few more steps." You will see that you've achieved that goal as soon as you park your car.

In the store, you might say, "My goal is to buy carrot sticks instead of potato chips." That's one more step toward a healthy lifestyle that you can instantly congratulate yourself for.

Just keep making small goals and small changes and remember to give yourself credit for everything you do. Eventually it will all add up and you will be amazed by the results.

STARDUST2K4 Posts: 1,376
3/2/13 9:43 A


I DEFINITELY understand the daunting task of embarking on a 100+ pound weight loss journey. I started in 2009 when I was 22 years old. I thought to myself "I will comfortably wear a bikini in public by the time I'm 25 years old". Well let me tell ya, I'm 26 now, and I still have yet to do that. It's taken me 4 long years to get to where I am, and I'm still not at goal weight. It takes time, and a lot of it is due to trial and error. What works for me may not work for you, or anyone else. I personally work out alone, and I don't use any other support services other than this website. Others need the group meetings in order to actually feel like they're meeting their goals.

The one thing that really makes it ...not easier, but less daunting I guess, is to only look at progress 10 pounds at a time, even 5 if 10 seems like too much. I would get so overwhelmed that I just wanted to give up. I KNEW it would take a lot of time. Even years. At first, I tried to kid myself saying that I could lose it within 2 year's time. I knew deep down that I was only kidding myself. I have been overweight since I was about 14, and there was NO WAY that the habits were going to change that quickly. I just felt like if I couldn't lose it all in a reasonable-yet short amount of time, then it wasn't worth doing....but then I had to look at it this way: Every pound lost is a drop in the bucket. At first it's not a lot, but over time, pretty soon your bucket is almost full. Back in 2009, I had NO idea that I would be where I am. I honestly didn't think I'd reach my goal,but the one thing that kept me going is knowing that time was going to pass anyway, and I might as well be spending that time working towards better health. I know that when I hit my goal weight, I will be so proud of myself, and even though it's taken so long, I'm not going to be like "well I don't want it anymore because it took too long".
Just remember: Even slow progress is progress, and when you get there, you're not going to turn it away just because it took a while. Also, anything worth having takes hard work. There are so many people out there that chose not to do ANYTHING about their health. They spend another day on the couch eating the same boring foods that keep them overweight.

SP_COACH_NANCY SparkPoints: (0)
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3/2/13 9:28 A


Changing habits is hard, I won't kid you. But when we allow the moments of weakness to define how we are doing on this journey, than it will be a challenge--BUT you don't have to have a PERFECT life to live a healthy life. Even if you made a poor choice at breakfast does not mean the whole day is blown. You don't have to wait until tomorrow, the first of the month, etc, you can start making healthy choices as ANY time. And yes, your body will benefit from it.

But you must sit down and make some goals for yourself. Weight loss is not a goal. Weight loss is the result of meeting your goals--things such as eating 5 servings of fruits/veggies daily. Or walking 10 minutes 3 times a day for 5 days. Goals have action steps that you can control--weight loss is not controllable--it happens as a result of the types of goals I mentioned above.

It took me 3 1/2 years to lose 80 pounds--while at the time it seemed like forever, the most important lesson I took away from my slow loss is that I NEVER dieted--I took the time to replace not-so-healthy habits with new ones. Almost 5 years after reaching my goal weight, I am proud to say I am the same weight +/- five pounds.

You can do this, but try not to allow your weaknesses to define you.

Coach Nancy

LINDAANNB1 Posts: 514
3/2/13 8:54 A

I really thought this was going to be my year .... the year I finally get serious about losing weight and finding a healthier, happier me ... Well, I started off pretty good, I lost 17 lbs during January, then I just started slipping, making excuses ect.... I had joined a 12 week weight loss challenge in my community and did great... at first. Then, one week I was sick, the next 2 weeks meetings were cancelled due to bad weather then I just lost interest because, well to be truthful I gained back everything I lost and was too embarassed to go back. Well, since then, I decided to join TOPS. This is my first week, it has not been a good one food wise :( I have been making some very poor food choices this week. It has been a very stressful week and I am a stress eater ... I know, more excuses. As the days of this week fly by, I find myself trying to find an excuse as to why I won't be able to make it to the weekly weigh in/meeting.
I do know that I really want to lose weight for a lot of reasons, to feel better, be healthier, look better, live longer, feel better about myself overall. I think part of the problem is the fact that I think I should see results immediately which I know is not going to happen at my size. Once again, my all or nothing attitude is creeping it's way back into my life.
I am going to go to the weekly TOPS meeting, I will not let myself make any excuse not to go. They are a very supportive group, very caring.
I just wish I could figure out why I keep sabotaging myself ...
I get so frustrated .... I wasn't going to mention this but, being first of March already, that means only 4 months 'til summer, shorts weather, bathing suit weather. No more hiding under heavy, baggy clothes (like it really hides anything anyway). I am having a hard time getting it out of my head that in 4 months, 16 weeks I won't see much of a difference in myself even if I really try. I mean, when you are larger, you have to lose alot of weight before you actually start to see a difference. I know, bad atttiude right ?
Noone told me this was going to be easy, I have travelled this road many times, even have been successful a few times.... once getting to my goal weight and staying there for over eight years!
I know this going totake time, patience and perserverance, I know I have to learn to take life one day at a time to accept the fact that every day is not going to be perfect ...
It is just soooo hard when you have so much to lose .....

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