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TANGOKATE Posts: 662
4/27/13 6:55 P

Good on you for thinking about it and making a choice that worked for you and happy grad!

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4/27/13 8:10 A

Just thought I would share the outcome. I did not eat the cake. I actually had zero temptation because there was so much going on so fast, I had no time to think about it! Thanks for your AMAZING advice!!!!!!!

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4/27/13 3:27 A

You may not want to hear this, but this is what I practiced while in weight-loss mode:

I gave myself permission to eat whatever I wanted, one day every two weeks. Most of the time I eat toward the lower end of my range. After I lost my weight, I decided to keep mostly to the same calories, but instead of one day every two weeks, I made it one day per week. Some times it is more than a week - others a little less. BUT I have been maintaining for over two years, so I guess it must work. I still weigh all of my food and enter it all into the Nutrition Tracker. This helps to keep me at maintenance.

When I know that there is something special coming up, I make THAT day my one day special. Maybe it might be worth your thinking about applying it to you, too.


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4/26/13 4:11 P

Thank you! Amazing advice!!!! I swear I'm SP's biggest fan!!!

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
4/26/13 3:02 P

"it's probably dry and overbaked anyways" -

YEP most commercially-prepared cakes are NOT as good as they look.

The fact that you are PLANNING, I think is the key here. Whether or not you chose to plan for cake, some-cake, or no-cake doesn't matter so much as the mindfulness. If you REALLY thought the cake was "worth it" you could rearrange your day to make it fit into your menu. But as you point out with the "dry" comment - it honestly probably isn't "worth" tossing some other yummy food out of your day to make room for it.

If i were in a social situation where there was a lot of pressure to accept the cake, I might even take a small slice, and just eat the cake part only. I see plenty of people do this, and no one ever questions them when they say "Oh i love cake but i just don't like icing!" It's not seen as "diety" or "snobby"... so you have that option available as well, if you get put in a position where you do end up with the paper plate in hand.

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4/26/13 2:59 P

How about strawberry shortcake to celebrate your graduation ? It's true that cakes can be very high in calorie, BUT there are lots of lower calorie treats you could enjoy instead. How about chocolate covered strawberries ? We had those at my niece's graduation. She loves those.

I'm not trying to "temp" you. You are not a bad person if you eat the cake and you're not a saint if you don't. Don't put a good or bad label on the food you eat. As I mentioned in my previous reply, a piece of cake can be a part of a healthy lifestyle.

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4/26/13 2:46 P

Thank you for your response. See I feel split. It's like half of my brain feels like the 1st response I received, and the other half feels the way the 2nd response feels. Sigh. Well I guess I will visualize how I would feel tomorrow or next week if I ate the cake or not.

I feel like this is a biggest loser episode and I am being offered a temptation.

I will not eat the cake. In my heart I feel like it's not right for me at this time. The more I think about it, I just feel like maybe in the future, but not quite yet....

Thanks for helping me figure this out. All over some cake, it's probably dry and over-baked anyway! Smh!

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4/26/13 2:12 P


I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". if the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time, thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

I can't imagine living a life where I wasn't allowed to eat cake because I was worried I'd gain weight. that's not healthy. A slice of birthday cake, a soda, brownie, chips, etc... CAN all be a part of a healthy lifestyle as long as you are mindful of that portion size.

Personally, I eat cake. I even ate chocolate every day as I was losing weight. I took the weight off and I've kept it off. I still eat foods I really enjoy like cake and cookies and chocolate and cheese. Why do my favorite foods all start with the letter C ?? LOL ! The point ? You don't have to deprive yourself to be healthy. You can have your cake and eat it too as long as you are mindful of the portion.

It's your graduation ! enjoy a small piece of cake and a little ice cream. Congratulations, you worked hard.

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Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 4/26/2013 (14:13)
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4/26/13 2:07 P

I felt like it sounded kind of less than intelligent after I posted it. I like cake, but it's not that I can't say no, I just feel pressure "to celebrate" because there are only 11 of us graduating. And there is a big celebration following. But, I really don't NEED cake to celebrate. Everyone knows I am on a weight loss journey so it isn't a surprise. I just didn't know if I was being too harsh on myself by saying no. It makes sense as far as being a barrier of what I'm trying to do. But you ALWAYS have those people that say things like "you only graduate once...." I just wanted to go in there with a decision made. Thanks.

FEDGIRL4 Posts: 2,180
4/26/13 2:01 P

I can't tell you what to do. You have to find that in yourself if you want to eat that cake or not.

But I can tell you, that if you have to ask advice for a yes, you know the answer already.

P.S. If there is fresh fruit, grab that instead.

Edited by: FEDGIRL4 at: 4/26/2013 (14:01)
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4/26/13 1:50 P

Hello! I am currently sticking to a diet and exercise plan with about 30-35 pounds to go to reach my first goal- I've been 95-100% on point for 2 weeks and have lost 7 pounds. Previous to this two weeks I was on the diet going at about 75% for 3 months and lost about 25 pounds. I am graduating nursing school tonight and there is a celebration afterwards, is this a time where I should allow myself to have cake or should I stick to the plan? I know it will not throw me off of my diet, like I know I'm not going to start eating unhealthy and throw in the towel. I have control. But I don't know if this is one of those occasions where I celebrate. I just keep hearing the quote, "you're not a dog, you don't reward yourself with food" but I feel like that is extreme in some circumstances. I don't know, I'm just torn and need some advice. I don't want to feel guilty like I've done the wrong thing. Thanks!

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