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ERINTFG SparkPoints: (37,903)
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5/1/13 9:49 A

You know, a lot of these same things irritate me, too, especially when I feel like the mom with the crying kid is following me around the store. LOL.

But being a parent has changed my perspective a little bit-- I mean, it's not like you can schedule little Susie's temper tantrum/day to refuse a nap/hunger strike/bug bite/etc. for a day when it's convenient. Every now and then you come across a parent who really doesn't seem to even notice that his/her child is completely wigging out, but I will guarantee you that 99% of those parents you see with the screaming kid would rather be getting a root canal than at the Walmart at 8:30 PM with their screaming toddler. In an ideal world, you could just leave the store, or better yet, not bring the kid at all, but the world is far from ideal and sometimes you just have to get through the experience as quickly as you can.

I guess all I'm saying is that it is really easy to be judgmental of that parent with the screaming kid, or that cashier who is moving really slowly, or the store employee who is seriously grouchy or unhelpful, but we never know what is going on in the lives of these people. You can pretty much guarantee that their attitude has nothing to do with you, unless you're being a jerk. Honestly I just think this world would be much more pleasant if we'd all smile at each other more and recognize that most of the time, the people who are the most off-putting for whatever reason are the ones that need the most compassion. You can brighten someone's day with a smile! And just think, when you leave the store, you can leave that screaming kid behind. That poor mom or dad has to listen to it the whole way home . . . ;)

CARRIENIGN SparkPoints: (28,836)
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5/1/13 12:52 A

My pet peeve is trying to find stuff! When I'm buying something I don't usually buy and think it should be among some particular items, when indeed it's somewhere different altogether and I end up walking in circles for twenty minutes. And, no, I'm not a ditz!

JANIEWWJD SparkPoints: (228,270)
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4/30/13 11:43 P

What I am tired off are "parents" who should never be parents!!!!

JO88BAKO SparkPoints: (166,486)
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4/30/13 11:03 P

unsupervised kids running around

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,054
4/30/13 10:12 P

I so agree with LAST20FORME ...except
too many times the toddler who is supposed to be sitting in the little toy car in front of the seat is OUT of the cart and getting in everyone's way. And Mommy has problems maneuvering the super long cart down the aisle with all the displays.

I doubt that the people who design these things, ever shop

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 4/30/2013 (22:13)
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4/30/13 9:21 P

It's not a pet peeve but just a little annoying. There is a market near me that has long fire trucks attached to the already long shopping cart so little Johnny or Sally can ride in it and use the steering wheel. So they are in front of the milk/yogurt cases blocking 3 cases so you can't open the door. I wait for them to finish unless they are thinking and planning the weeks shopping as they stand in front. I just say excuse me, I want to get something. They are always nice and smile and say I'm sorry and move. It's just a little scary sometimes seeing this big fire engine truck down the aisle coming toward you.

JUDYAMK SparkPoints: (22,235)
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4/30/13 9:08 P

when the store does not have enough staff to help you, I run around trying to find someone

PHDMAMA06 SparkPoints: (65,054)
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4/30/13 4:44 P

It really irks me when someone just parks their cart in the center of the aisle so nobody can get by and takes their time moving it, or even worse just walks away and leaves it parked there! Just pick a side, people!!

I also hate it when kids are running wild in the store, esp when the parents are nowhere in sight. I have a six-year-old, and he has a lot of energy, but even he knows better than to run around the aisles or in front of other carts, etc...

IRISHFANUH87 Posts: 1,038
4/30/13 4:37 P

Anything that slows me down - people walking slowly, blocking what I need, etc. When I am in there, I am very organized and want to get in and out! I feel bad for parents when their children are throwing a tantrum in public - I have amazing parents and I was a good kid, but I have a younger sibling who was always just defiant and naughty. It was embarrassing to be anywhere with her, but it wasn't because my parents didn't know what they were doing. I understand that naughty children can be annoying, but I don't believe it can always be blamed on the parents. Certainly there are some that seem oblivious - but not all.

BJPENNY70 SparkPoints: (71,938)
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4/30/13 4:19 P

To go an advertised sale to only find what you came for isn't even available.

FUFU58 Posts: 21
4/30/13 4:11 P


How about the cashier chatting with the bag person ... they do not pay attention to you or your items. They plunk down your perfectly chosen apples or smooshing the bread !!!

Our local Hannaford's has recently removed the moving belt after the register and the cashier bags the items (a la Wal-Mart) ... NO bag person !!! I love it !!

MRSSCOTT5 SparkPoints: (6,323)
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4/30/13 3:52 P

My favorite is when groups of shoppers congregate in the middle of an aisle to talk and block the whole thing, and then shoot me a dirty look when I (gasp!) say excuse me and expect them to move to let me through. I have also seen a child rip open a box of cereal and begin eating it while mom was talking and not paying attention, and then when mom realizes what her little one is doing, she took the cereal away and put it back on the shelf. Also, when the cashier bags raw meat with vegetables, or food with cleaning chemicals. I will purposely group my items at the checkout to make it easier for them, but that doesn't always work either.

EMILYMARGO SparkPoints: (11,955)
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4/30/13 3:06 P

Screaming children, people talking (loudly) on the phones (usually about very private, personal issues no one else wants to know about), when there's someone standing in front of an item you need and they've basically set up camp in that spot

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,054
4/30/13 3:01 P

On the flip side of CROWDS....
I want to do my food shopping in stores that do a lot of business. It makes me feel that the items are fresher. I try to go to those stores off hours.

I have a supermarket company's HQTRs nearby and it's premier mega supermarket is the closest to me. You can hear crickets. It's not my store of choice but when they have a sale, I try to get some good deals....I always have to check the dates, even on cans. I have found canned dates are only 2 or 3 months away, which doesn't work for me.

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,310
4/30/13 2:21 P

My biggest pet peeve is CROWDS. I really dislike shopping in large mega-stores (Wal Mart, Costco) because they just feel so.... crowded. I don't know how that is even possible - given that these stores are usually like 2 city blocks in size ha ha! But yet, you go inside, there's people everywhere, in your way, the aisles are too narrow, blocked with crap, people get impatient trying to move around, then you have to queue up for a half-hour for the privilege of paying and getting the heck out of there... it's just a stressful shopping experience. With or without the added bonus of wild noisy children.

I prefer shopping in smaller shops, where everything is at a relaxed, friendly, human pace.

YANKEEGAL16 Posts: 1,283
4/30/13 2:12 P

I see some of my pet peeves listed here already like screaming, unruly children, blocked aisles by boxes & displays and especially people that meet with "neighbors" or people they have not seen in some time & talk, block everything & refuse to get out of the way. I hate to shop to begin with but when certain things slow up my shopping, I get really annoyed real fast!!

MARCIEMCGOWAN Posts: 2,344
4/30/13 1:50 P

I am trying to read all of the labels on packages to make sure that I am eating the right stuff. I don't like packages that lie and say that they have 0 fat when they do have some fat. also I have a hard time reading very small print. Make the print larger.

YOJULEZ SparkPoints: (15,605)
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4/30/13 1:50 P

I agree that misbehaved children are very annoying. That's why I really really don't like going to the store after work, that seems to be the "witching hour" when it comes to that. I even saw one very harried dad with his 4 kids, he was not even paying attention and his kid in the cart had put a plastic bag over his head. I let him know that his kid had a bag over his head (because Dad was too engrossed in the cheese) and he gave me a dirty look. Geesh, sorry for trying to prevent your kid from killing himself.

But, I also know that kids will be kids, and I don't know the parents circumstances... maybe they are a single parent and that is the only time of the week they have to do the shopping, who knows. That's why I just try to avoid the store during the peak hours. I like to go earlyish on Saturday mornings.

I too also hate the aisle blockers. Totally ignorant of what is going on around them.

LOVE4KITTIES, the size thing drives me nuts too! when I was a size 14, it seemed like all they had was size 10 or below. Now that I'm an 8-10, all I see are the bigger sizes. WTF! haha

Edited by: YOJULEZ at: 4/30/2013 (13:52)
FEDGIRL4 Posts: 1,930
4/30/13 1:43 P

I know that kids will be kids and that we don't know that today is the day for "Johnny's melt down". Yeah! When I was a kid in the 1970's, we were warned once (maybe twice) then spanked. Not beaten, just spanked. We learned. Today there are too many lenient rules on some things. Kids learning courtesy and respect is one.

My personal pet peeve is someone with a full cart in the express line, who just pulled into the express line. They nave no kids and are not in a hurry, just feel they should be allowed. One checker one time actually told a lady to get out of the line for that. I went up and told her how proud I was of her.

LOVE4KITTIES Posts: 1,924
4/30/13 1:39 P

These days, stores don't seem to carry the proper amount of clothes in each size. If I or my husband go to the store to get shoes, for example, there may be one or two pairs of shoes in the entire store that are the proper size. For me, that's size 8 and for my husband, that's size 11. The last time I was at the shoe store, I asked them about this and their reply was that they receive the same number of pairs of shoes in each size. So, the shoe sizes that people most commonly wear are often sold out. Same thing for jeans, tops, etc.

You'd think they would figure out which sizes are most popular, make more of them and send the stores more of them.

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,290
4/30/13 1:31 P

One shopping pet peeve is people stopping to hold long conversations with people they meet at the store... usually blocking an aisle or in front of a case. Greet each other and move on! Go socialize somewhere else.
Another pet peeve is annoying music in stores.

GRIZ1GIRL SparkPoints: (128,524)
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4/30/13 1:00 P

I no longer shake my head at crying kids--being a mom myself I know that sometimes kids throw tantrums in stores. You can say NO, you can threaten, cajole, beg, plead, bribe...and if you have to, leave the store. But sometimes even that's not enough. Sometimes it just is what is is with kids. And if you're a single parent & need groceries, and your kids are cranky--you just do what you have to.

Now when I see screaming kids, I don't judge--I want to hug the poor mom! I feel bad for them--because I never know when that could be ME! :)

PATTIJOHNSON Posts: 2,075
4/30/13 12:46 P

I hate it when I get into a short line, and it turns out to take longer than the line with 10 people waiting in it. And it seems to happen to me more often than not!

When my kids were little, if they started crying in a restaurant or store, they were immediately taken outside and to the car -- and sometimes directly home if I wasn't leaving a full cart of groceries waiting for food to arrive. I didn't wait until everyone around us was annoyed....as soon as the first whimper came out, we went outside. They didn't like that very much. I was very consistent with that policy, and it only took 2 or 3 times before they knew that if they cried, we were leaving. It worked splendidly! Now, my husband and I joke that we just don't feel welcome in restaurants or stores unless there're crying kids. Every time they start up, we just look at each other and laugh.

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Edited by: PATTIJOHNSON at: 4/30/2013 (13:10)
OBIESMOM2 SparkPoints: (61,493)
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4/30/13 12:19 P

way too loud music! I've noticed this the last few times I've been in clothing stores. It's just BLARING.

and Tig, I totally get you on the screaming kid thing. I'm not a parent, so I have no "just ignore it" experience. I know that there are places where kids will be; I know that there are times when a parent just has to do their best (grocery stores, for example). But I also know that mom would have had us out of there and headed home immediately (and she was a signle parent, so often she had no choice of leaving kids at home). So hearing a kid screaming bloody murder the entire time I'm in the grocery store seems a bit much.

CHIHUAHUAMOM2 Posts: 348
4/30/13 11:56 A

Rude people, wild children, stores not carrying enough clothes or shoes in my size....

LOSTLIME SparkPoints: (74,331)
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4/30/13 11:54 A

going and looking for the item on sale and they don't have it!

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,054
4/30/13 11:52 A

people who leave their carts in the way, and ignore the world around them,
then give me dirty looks when I move their cart.

MYUTMOST4HIM Posts: 11,447
4/30/13 11:45 A

The general lack of courtesy but once I had some one (a customer) question me as to why I didn't put my produce in a plastic bag. I said I try not to use them when i don't have to - and they proceeded to grab a few plastic shopping bags to put my produce in them - I was so shocked I couldn't even speak.
Guaranteed it won't happen again though

LOVE4KITTIES Posts: 1,924
4/30/13 11:32 A

Ill mannered children in stores...screaming, running through the stores and playing, playing in the clothes racks, yelling, playing with the toys, whining for this or that.

When I was a child, I absolutely knew better than to act this way and I never did, not even once. My parents had taught me better. Even my older siblings taught me better. When I was really little, they would remind me before we went in the stores (even though I'd always behaved previously) that I was to be quiet, stay with them and not touch anything. I knew that I would be in trouble if I didn't do as I was told. It wasn't a common sight to see a child acting out that way in public and, when it happened, my parents and older siblings would always say something to me about it (e.g. how the child wasn't being good, the parents should not let them act that way, how it was shameful, etc.). These days, a good portion of kids act in an unacceptable manner when they are out in public. It's the new normal. I think they're just spoiled.

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4/30/13 11:27 A

I shop mostly at Publix and it's usually very pleasant. Last year they remodeled and it took a while to figure out where my regular favorite items were.

I find that Walmart has million s of items and never the one item I want.

I shop on line for most non grocery things.

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,054
4/30/13 11:25 A

I agree with I_HEART_MY_FAM
It's happened to me a few times, where people are literally up against my body, unloading their items on the conveyor belt...almost as if trying to push me....when it is obvious there is no place for me to move....I checked my shoulder bag afterwards to see if they were trying to pick my purse.

the first time I didn't say anything because I was a very uncomfortable with someone invading my territory space...the second time, the offender got embarrassed.

MIRANDAFRM2 Posts: 290
4/30/13 11:21 A

Sometimes ignoring the child is actually not giving into their tantrum and the only way to get them to stop faster. When my 2 year old throws a tantrum at home I walk away, if I try and talk to him or get him to stop another way it drags the tantrum out longer. It all depends on the child, my 3 year hardly ever did this, he only had meltdowns from sensory issues due to his autism. On the other hand, if I know my child is cranky I don't take him out to a restaurant for sure, I don't think he is ready for a sit down place just yet.

I_HEART_MY_FAM Posts: 1,809
4/30/13 11:14 A

My pet peeve is someone trying to crowd me in line. I had that twice and they got confronted twice, and they ugly about it. One just got mad saying I wasn't crowding. The other one had is hand out handing the cashier his money when I told her I told her I don't know why he is handing you his money because it isn't his turn he is crowding me. He was a about about 17 and he got real ugly, he called me the b word and wanted to fight my husband when my husband told him to leave his wife alone. He crowded all the people after me. Crowders will never get by crowding me, but I often let people go ahead of me who just have a few things if I have more, or a elderly person, or a mother with small child who is starting to get fussy.


I only get mad when kids throw fits and the parents are in the store just carrying on with their shopping not even trying to quiet down the child. Once in a while you will hear the parent scream with cuss words usually "like shut the he** up" .

SUPERFATBLASTER Posts: 202
4/30/13 11:12 A

My pet peeve is food for which the best before date has expired and it is sitting on the shelf and you only realize it's out dated once you get home. emoticon

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (101,558)
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4/30/13 11:02 A

My shopping pet peeve is going back to buy something on sale and it not being there!!!!

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,054
4/30/13 11:01 A

grocery stores in my area are into putting displays in grocery aisles
(as if the aisles weren't narrow enough)

and some stores even have twin seat child seats making the cart even wider.
Personally I can imagine 2 kids sitting shoulder to shoulder without getting fussy..
.but...I'm not a parent.

AMARANTHA120S Posts: 474
4/30/13 10:54 A

My pet shopping peeve is when I have something in mind that I want to eat and the store is out of it lol.

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,310
4/30/13 10:52 A

because "telling a tantrumming child to stop" always works so well... heh heh....

Children are unpredictable and often noisy little creatures. It's annoying when people bring children "where children really ought not be" (i.e. high end restaurant) but for most other scenarios, well, what are you gonna do. Still have to grocery-shop and such. And a parent doesn't always know in advance that "today will be Bobby's melt-down day" (and even if they did... what's the option, other than to try and get through the experience as quickly as possible?)

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4/30/13 10:43 A

I can't stand being in a store where a screaming child is just allowed to scream. I'm not a big shopper but I am sick of listening to tired, cranky, spoiled kids screaming because they can't have this toy or that cereal. Say no, tell them to stop, and if they don't, leave. Same thing in restaurants. I'm paying for a nice dinner (not eating at McDs or Burger King) and should not have it ruined by parents who choose to ignore their child's bad behavior so they can have a night out.

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