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WHOLENEWME79 Posts: 950
10/27/13 4:25 P

I took a quick peek at your trackers and would like to offer a few suggestions.

Try eating more fruits and vegetables. I see lots of processed foods and candy, and very few fruits and vegetables.

I'd also add that making sure you eat at least 3 meals a day would likely help you keep your metabolism humming and help get the nutrients and calories you need.

Being a mom of a young child and working is tough and time consuming, and I understand that. However, you cannot skimp on your health. You want to be around for your son and set a good example. This is a perfect opportunity. Adults and children in America have a big problem with obesity, and the cure for this starts at home. Not only can you show him what being healthy and active means, but it will help keep him healthy and happy for years to come.

Good luck, Malisa.

HAPPYMENOW58 Posts: 2,264
10/26/13 4:23 A

Lots of good advice on this thread! Stay the course and remain patient....It will come off!

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10/22/13 11:04 A


So glad to see that you're eating a decent amt of food.
Please give this some time.

I can absolutely vouch for what the others have said. You need to eat to lose. Sounds counter-intuitive, I know. But it's not. A good rule of thumb: if you're miserable, you're doing it wrong. Being that miserable is not healthy for you or your family, who needs a healthy, high-functioning, even-keeled (as much as possible -lol) Mom.

One huge tip that's worked for me: all calories are not created equal.1500 cal of McDonalds is not the same as 1500 cal of mainly whole, minimally processed foods.
If you're not doing so already, eat 7-9 servings of fruits and veggies a day. Lean more towards the veggies. I was a veggie hater before I saw what they did for me. Now I can't sing their praises enough! Once I really ramped the servings up, the weight started to fall off. Even if the rest of my food intake wasn't perfect. If only I had known this ten yrs ago...

Strive for those 7-9 servings; eat healthy 80-85% of the time, limit high processed / sugary junk, reasonable treats for the other 15-20% so you can have balance, normalcy, sanity & joy in your life.

Like Zorbs said, give your body time to realize that you have stopped starving it. It needs time to learn to trust you again. And I agree you need to give the scale a break. I gave mine the boot! Let your clothes be the guide.

Good luck to you!

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10/22/13 10:20 A


As slimmer noted, in order to truly gain 3 pounds of fat you would have had to have eating an extra 10,500 calories on top of your normal intake. So, if you know you didn't eat that much extra food, then you didn't gain fat.

Why did you gain weight ? Easy, water retention. Ever notice your weight goes up during TOM ? Most women tend to "gain" weight during their menstrual cycle. is that a fat gain ? nope. it's nothing more than a temporary water weight gain that passes in a few days. As you know, there are many different reasons our body could retain water. Our weight does fluctuate from day to day.

I can easily gain or lose as much as 3-4 pounds in a day because of a shift in my water weight.

You need to step away from the scale. You're obsessing too much. Remember, there is more to good health than a number that stares at us from between our toes in the morning. Because you are already at a healthy weight for your height, you are not going to lose 1-2 pounds per week. Your loss will be much slower.

I too have read your posts and I do feel that you're fixating too much on your weight. You're not looking at the big picture. I would suggest ditching the scale completely. Stop thinking about losing weight and instead concentrate on a fitness goal. How many push ups can you do ? how about trying the 100 push up challenge ? How about running in a 5k ? If you've run a 5 or 10K, maybe it's time to consider a half marathon.

The point ? Shift the focus of your thinking away from your weight. If you keep obsessing about your weight, you're going to make yourself miserable and that's not healthy.

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10/21/13 8:37 P

You wouldn't have gained 3lb in the true sense - that would be over 10,000 calories EXTRA alone! which works out at 1500 calories ABOVE your needs for the day! Most of what you see would be the weight of food in your system still, perhaps fluid retention caused by some of the meals (Chinese meals are notorious for this re the sodium), whether you went to the loo prior to the first weigh-in but not the recent one (that can amount to more than that weight) your hormones re the time of month, and also if you are doing extra exercise, the extra fluid your body needs re developing muscles. I would be inclined to biff the scales for a wee while before you weigh again.

If you are still worried, talk with your Dr and ask for a referral to a Registered Dietitian, and take some printouts from your Nutrition Daily Report (prior to this recent increase as well as the more recent ones).


ZORBS13 SparkPoints: (188,966)
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10/21/13 6:20 P

Since you've been starving for several years, it is normal to gain weight when you first start eating a proper amount.

MALISA3 SparkPoints: (42,368)
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10/21/13 5:12 P

Soooo... First week if eating 1400-1550 cals and I've gained 3 more pounds!!! Hoping it will eventually come off! Feeling discouraged :(

FAITHP44 Posts: 8,383
10/15/13 9:38 A

Hi Malisa
I agree with all the others have said about you not eating enough. Also your weight is 57kg and you're 5'2" tall. You're already a very healthy weight. Most of us would love a BMI of below 23!! I get the feeling you're starving yourself, making yourself miserable (and possibly ill) for no good reason. I really think you need to take on board what everybody has said about eating more and making sure you get all the right nutrients because, honestly, you're not helping yourself by making yourself 'seriously miserable' about your weight.

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10/14/13 11:28 A


As others have pointed out, perhaps the reason you're not losing is because you're not eating enough. 1200 calories is the absolutel bare minimum an adult woman should eat to ensure she's getting all the vital nutrients her body needs to function properly. Mind you, that's not including any exercise. The more activity you engage in, the more calories your body needs to be able to do that activity.

You're forcing your body to decide which is more imporant, having calories (energy) to be able to exercise or having calories to keep your vital organs working. I can assure you that your body doesn't care if you're trying to lose weight or not. All your body cares about is having enough energy to keep your heart and vital organs working. Eating too little and exercising too much forces your body to conserve fat. If you want to lose weight, you need to eat more. I know that sounds wrong, but it's true.

When you eat too little, you're creating an artificial famine. What does your body do in a famine ? It tries to conserve fat to ride out the famine.

Have you talked to your doctor about trying to lose weight ? What do they think ? If you've been eating 900 calories to 1300 per day, you may have vitamin deficiencies. If so, you should find out. Eating so little for this last year may well have messed up your metabolism. Thus the need to talk to your doctor because no one should be on a permanent diet.

It may be the reason your body has been fighting you.

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (240,662)
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10/14/13 12:12 A

I suggest that you check your Nutrition Tracker and see where you can adjust your intake. Make sure that you get enough protein (minimum 60g) enough healthy fats, and you are getting at least 5 serves of fruit and veges a day. Also, check that the calories you are getting are mostly coming from healthy sources - if you eat cookies, sweets, or ice-cream, or drink soda or alcohol, make sure that they are only occasional and consumed sparingly.

1200 calories is the minimum recommended on a daily basis. Less than that, and you should be monitored by a health professional such as a Registered Dietitian or a Dr who specializes in Dietetics.

If, after adjusting your calorie intake, you still have problems trying to lose the extra weight, or are still gaining, then get checked by your Dr. There are some medical conditions which can cause this - things like hypothyroidism, and they can generally be easily treated.

Good luck,

AGILEDOBE Posts: 428
10/13/13 8:41 P

Your body is simply functioning in starvation mode where it holds on to everything and converts it to fat since you aren't eating enough. With your lifestyle caring for a 2 yr old and going to the gym, you need to eat at least 1800+ calories/day. You need to do some serious reading on proper diet

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10/13/13 7:00 P

Why haven't you tried eating an adequate amount of calories? you have posted that you've seen no results many times and every time it comes down're not eating enough.

Why are you so reluctant to try?

Doing the same thing over and over again (undereating) and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.

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10/13/13 6:44 P

So, the first thing to do is take a deep breath and try to relax! Give yourself credit for all of the things that you are doing. You work, take care of a child, workout and I'm sure try to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

My first thought is you may not be eating enough. Tyr plugging your activity into the exercise tracker and see how much you should be eating. Without knowing your life, I would guess you are at least moderately active and I bet the SP tools will say you should be eating more.

MALISA3 SparkPoints: (42,368)
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10/13/13 6:04 P

I do t know what else to do!!! I've been trying to lose weight for over a year now and the only thing I see is my weight going up which is the complete opposite of what I wanted :( I'm miserable! I work a part time job, take care of my wonderful 2 year old son and go to the gym for an hour 3-4 times a week! I burn about 1500 cals through exercise alone per week and I'm eating 900-1300 cals a day, and no f'ing results! I'm miserable In the skin I'm in and everything I'm trying to do to change my self perception is backfiring! I'm so angry sometimes it brings me to tears! I'm tired of trying my best and to have nothing to come of it sucks! Soooo done :( thank u for letting me rant

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