i read somewhere recently that most (all?) hollywood actresses wear spanx or even double up the spanx under their dresses/gowns on the red carpet etc... being thin does not mean you will be smooth and bump/roll free!
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18 12/10/12 12:46 P
Your husband definitely did not call you fat. I understand where your coming from though, or at least when I hear my husband say something that in girl language translates to "you're fat", I know that I need to work on my self esteem. I know that my husband loves me and would NEVER intentionally hurt my feelings. If you feel like he was saying that or think he would actually intentionally hurt your feelings, you need to either look at how you feel about yourself or look at your relationship with your husband.
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421 12/8/12 7:10 P
I was going to comment on the "he never said you were fat" angle, but it's covered above. I guarantee if it was my husband, he'd have meant it in a helpful way - like, "Use your Spanx today and keep the sweater because I know that if you want to firm up, you'll make it happen."
Of course, my husband has explained in the past that he thinks that criticism is loving. He wants me to tell him things like, "You've been letting yourself go and you're not really looking your best in that bathing suit. Are you going to change your diet or are you going to start running again?" He honestly finds it sexy that I challenge him like that. Let me reiterate: He finds me criticizing his body a turn-on. (shakes head)
We had to have a conversation about how I don't feel the same. He still doesn't understand that and makes comments I don't like sometimes. It helps to know where it's coming from though and it helps that he is trying to be more aware of the fact that I hear "You are fat" when he thinks he's saying "You are a strong enough person that I think you can do anything."
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22,201 12/8/12 6:10 P
Your husband didn't say you were fat - that was YOUR take on it!
Overall a man's choice of words to say something is often quite different from a woman's. - have you read that Mars/Venus book? If you are wearing a size 4 there is no way you are fat!
I would ignore the comment and DEFINITELY your take on the comment, and just replace it with a better fitting one - it may even be that they style isn't the best - just because a person is slim (and yes, you ARE slim) doesn't mean that all clothes styles will look great!
YOU know you are not fat, don't you? There is no reason to take his words that way.
He probably just parroted what he heard you say a time or two...
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194 12/8/12 3:53 P
hum... i'd venture to say that your husband was just trying to offer a solution to your problem. men tend to think that way. if you present a problem, they think they have to fix it. i doubt he meant anything negative by it. you're a size 4 after all. any ''roll'' you have is surely not to be confused with being fat.. even by a clueless husband
Seriously, you know you're tiny. The wrong clothes will make anyone look bad, though. You don't need Spanx. You need a different sweater!
Some people (your husband in this case), don't have the ability to analyze that type of thing at first glance, though. Or he's clueless and thought you were trying to figure out a way to not have to return the sweater. Everyone has clothes that strong undergarments improve, not just fat people!
Something just happened, and I need a place to vent! I bought a new sweater, and it fit tight (not painted-on tight, but not baggy either). I commented to my hubby that it didn't fit right, and I need to return it. He said, "It's just a little roll, just wear your Spanks."
Whaaat? I wear a size 4 in pants, and my "ever-so-loving" mate is calling me fat?! Granted, I haven't been working out as much as I should lately, but talk about making me feel like a cow. I guess no eating for me for the next week!
How do I turn this into motivation instead of downing a quart of ice cream??
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