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GOOGYSPO
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10/5/12 8:26 P

Without self-control, it is very hard to reach any goal, health-related or otherwise.

Self-control is something you can learn to exercise, but not overnight, and not in all aspects of your life at the same time.

If you set a goal that is a "stretch" for you and that you really want to achieve, you can practice exercising self-control. It might not be with food and exercise right now. It could be any aspect of your life.

For example, you could set the goal of always washing dishes at the end of each day and not let them pile up in the sink. You could set a goal to go through junk mail every day as it arrives instead of letting it pile up into a heap. Just silly examples, but sometimes it's good to start with small goals in other areas of your life and build up to larger goals regarding your health.

My goals re: my weight and exercise are me practicing for something that is going to require much more self-control on my part: Quitting smoking.

I needed to start with the weight loss. It was a stretch, but something I thought I could achieve and that I wanted to do.

Now I feel more confident that I can quit smoking.

Self-control is a muscle you have to flex for it to get stronger.

Good luck and God bless.





EWILLIAMS1000
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10/5/12 6:08 P

Dr Phil's The Weight Solution covers this topic pretty extensively. Examining your self talk (what you tell yourself about everything in your life) affects your emotions, self-control, habits, and responses. It's a hugely good book and is anything but a diet book. I highly recommend it.



-BENI-
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10/5/12 5:37 P

I think you can learn self control - you just have to change your frame of mind.
We are used to thinking the same way for 20, 30, 40, 50 years. You have to relearn a new way.
You say no to your kids, your pets, now you say it to yourself.
That's what I'm teaching myself. Otherwise I'll go back to my old ways, and that's not happening.



GIZMO08
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10/5/12 3:47 P

I can control myself, but my husband wants to eat out constantly and is after for me for days if I don't bring home sweets and bread from the grocery store! (And, I'm not good with tempatation!)




PATTIA1311
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10/5/12 3:17 P

I think the biggest thing for me regarding self control is sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. We can't all be perfect all of the time. I have to allow myself chocolate or sweets or cake at some point otherwise I will binge on them. I think I can't have bread, then that is all I crave. So I allow myself enough to satisfy me. Maybe the first time, its more than I would like based on the calories. The next time its a little less b/c I know I'll have it again and that I'm not swearing it off my list of foods forever. As long as I know I can have it anytime I want, then I crave it less. Just have to work it into the plan for that day. This is what works for me. So try different things out. I remember I read a book about eating that same food for three meals a day and the "amazing" taste wears off b/c you have it so much. I've done that, too. I keep telling myself baby steps and I will work through the kinks. Good luck!



JANIEVLMT
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10/5/12 3:12 P

For me I have to be self aware daily to maintain control. I find if you let yourself slip a "little", you end up falling a lot.



KDYLOSE
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10/5/12 1:10 P

Trying to have more self-control feels so abstract, like trying to think your way out of a paper bag. I like to look more for strategies that help us resist temptation, like putting all the food away except your serving before you eat, or eating some lean protein before going to a party with food...



GRIZ1GIRL
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10/5/12 12:59 P

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. You can create new GOOD HABITS--if you don't buy junk food you won't eat it. You can sorta train yourself to eat healthier if that's what's around.

Of course, if you're a food-junkie like I am, you'll ALWAYS crave doritos & hershey bars. Sometimes you give in & eat the junk...other times you succeed in saying NO.

Either way--you are who you are...accept yourself & love yourself & you'll be healthier & happier all around!



BALANCE-4-ME
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10/5/12 12:44 P

Responsible adults are good about self-control in most areas. Food is more complex though. Many of us grew up with our parents drilling into us 'not to waste food'. Self-medicating through food is the easiest way to get through emotional issues. Our bodies are designed to over-eat at a biological level whenever possible. Until it becomes clear that the lack of self-control is causing larger issues, and until that level of acceptance is reached, food is always going to be one of the harder challenges for a healthy person to conquer.



ANNAFRECKER
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10/5/12 12:38 P

Practice makes perfect! I am slowly getting smarter about my triggers and learning what mantras help the most and I think its different for each person. If I tell myself that I choose to do something, not that I can't, I feel more empowered and in control. And in a controlled environment I enjoy treats, cookie samples at the store or making a batch of muffins and eating one and giving the rest away to neighbors. That works for me, and I feel good when I give to others . Good luck everybody!



SHERYLDS
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10/5/12 12:36 P

in my mind ... self control is a 7 step process

1. Know what you want and commit to it
2. Don't give into immediate gratification...think about what you're giving up for a moment of indulgence that could blow up on you
3. Eat right... eating a healthy diet that avoids: processed carbs, and limits starches & sugars also helps curb cravings.
4. don't sabotage yourself or let others sabotage you...be aware of what is happening.
5. use the food tracker.... it makes you acknowledge what you are doing.
6. Exercise...because when you take care of yourself physically, you help the BODY feel in control and energized
7. Believe that you ARE worth the effort, and that's what it's all about

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 10/5/2012 (12:36)


MICHELLE73101
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10/5/12 11:36 A

I actually just read about this, and the answer is.... ready...

EXERCISE :)

Not the physical kind, but the mental kind. There is a part of your brain that "will power" comes from, and you need to exercise it.

Consider training that part of your brain just like you would train yourself for a 10k run. You would asses your comfort level with running, then progressively challenge yourself.

The key is three-fold:
1. Commit to the challenge (like saying to yourself, I will only eat one portion of this delicious meal tonight) and stick to it.
2. Make it is slightly out of your comfort zone each time - don't go too big too soon!
3. Keep doing it!

Hope this helped :)

Michelle



CATMAGNET
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10/5/12 10:02 A

I'm right with you, LAWLI56. I know that when I hit maintenance (which is coming up sooner than I anticipated!), I will need to track my food and exercise for the rest of my life. I MUST be accountable for what I put in my body and to exercise, due to my addiction for food.

It sounds like something that the OP may need to do as well and be mindful of those trigger foods.



MIZINA730
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10/5/12 9:34 A

I went to your Spark Page and you are doing something right! Your photos show you fit and trim. Your ticker shows maintenance for a long time. I have read a couple of blogs about how it is still a challenge to maintain weight loss, so I imagine you're concerned about losing your progress. The best thing I can say is, these are trigger foods for you. For most of us, the only to manage that is to stay away from them altogether. It could be a situation in which you were under stress about the time you had this meal, and the next time you eat it, you'll be fine. I guess the best thing I can recommend is getting yourself outside after the first servings of these dishes and see how much you want it afterward. Congratulations on your past success!



LAWLI56
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10/5/12 8:22 A

Yes it can taught, but I think that it begins with you first recognising that you have an addiction problem as far as food is concerned. But unlike other addictions we can't go cold turkey and stop eating. So the first step is to keep a food diary to see what, when and why you overeat. Once you know that you can start learning how recognise and avoid the triggers that lead to your loss of control and your overeating behaviour.

Personally, I find certain emotions trigger a binge, plus I would mindlessly graze while reading or watching TV. So I got into the habit of stopping doing anything else while I ate, which has worked because I no longer feel compelled to eat while doing those activities although it doesn't happen overnight and took quite a while to achieve.



TISHYANN
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10/5/12 6:40 A

This is so thought provoking. I would have said it couldn't be taught but I was wrong as we all have learnt not to act on all our impulses like young children.
Yesterday evening I was tired, pre menstrual and hungry and I fell into an old habit of binge eating. 2350 cals consumed in an hour which is not good at all BUT I can recognise today that in comparison with previous occasions there was a spark of self control developing.
In the past I may have eaten twice that amount, would have felt defeated and probably go off the rails the following day too.
This time I have woken up and seen today as a fresh day, reflected on why I binged ( and what I can do to reduce the chance of it happening again ) and faced up to what I did.
I have meticulously recorded all that I ate in the binge on my nutrition tracker.

I can see that this is a step towards more self control in this area and I am hoping for a healthier life ahead.



MICKEYMOUSE86
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10/5/12 3:38 A

I never thought of it like this! Something to think about. I know that they say to keep a new change going for 30 days and it will become a habit. That is not exactly true. I stuck to my new way of eating for 8 months and veered away from it. I think it is something you always have to keep in check. emoticon



SUSANBEAMON
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10/5/12 12:55 A

i believe self--control can be taught, because we all learned it as small children. we use bathrooms, we put stuff away, we don't beat up on people who bother us. we don't let impulses run our lives. food can be hard. we are designed to eat when we can. being mindful helps keep us in line.



CANDO20K
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10/5/12 12:14 A

Wise advice.



ARICOGFJ
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10/4/12 11:35 P

Yes, It requires developing new habits and attitudes.



DIANAHALLOCK
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10/4/12 10:52 P

Absolutely! Without it the freeways would be wild, schools would be impossible, and jails would be full. Ironically it is EASY to demonstrate self control when the stakes are SUPER high, like jail or divorce or flunking out. It is so much harder for all the little things that keep us from being our healthy best.



FANCYNANCY66
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10/4/12 10:17 P

it very definitely is taught. Shaped. Practiced. Use behavioral techniques. Use diversion. All kinds of techniques, but once my body/stomach got used to smaller portions, and I learned the value of insulin resistant food and how protein gives me energy, etc. it got easier. when I mess up, no guilt trip, get back on the wagon.



MARIAJESTRADA
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10/4/12 7:26 P

I didn't think so before, but I do now.



CENOLA
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10/4/12 6:26 P

yes



MAMATUX
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10/4/12 6:14 P

I agree with this. I've been reading a lot about food being as addictive as other addictive substances, but everyone MUST eat, where we don't have to do drugs, drink, etc., so it is harder to balance. I'm learning my trigger foods as well. I've been sticking with lots of vegetable smoothies lately as I have an active job, so the "liquid" food keeps my blood sugar level throughout the day, then stick with vegies and protein at night. But, that time of the month this is much harder for me and my cravings come back, so I'm still trying to figure out how to stay in control around my cycle! Any suggestions on that one?



BRITOMART
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10/4/12 6:09 P

I agree with the majority of previous posters that self control/self discipline can be learned.

As for wheat being addictive, I'd take that with a grain of salt until the poster offers substantive evidence like a study. There is so much 'gossip' about food out there. GMO's may be a problem, but even there, I would like to see some sort of evidence.

You posted this second time about a schedule change and real hunger. That is a slightly different situation than just stuffing nann into your mouth! Maybe your body needed the extra fat? Since you are in maintenance, obviously you HAVE learned self-disciplinary strategies. I wouldn't worry unless this becomes a habit or if the extra wheat/fat whatever triggers a binge of some sort--that might need more investigation.

(I love nann, wish I'd shared your dinner ;^)



PARISAPRIL1
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10/4/12 5:16 P

Wow thanks for all the thoughtful replies!

I don't make a big Indian dinner very often because it takes a while to cook it and I make lots so we can eat it for lunch for the next day or two. Making a smaller batch doesn't work for me because I am a from scratch cooker and I have to make extras so I'm not cooking 24/7. I will just have to limit my portions better. Honestly I wasn't super concerned about the extra curry or chicken because they are quite healthy the way I make them, just the nann.

I have been in maintance for a long time now +/- 2 pounds eating whole foods, lots of vegetables, proteins and fats. So I'm not super worried about gaining weight from 1 pig out meal, it's just frustrating because I couldn't stop eating the nann.

A previous poster asked if there is wheat in nann and the answer is yes. I avoid wheat 80% of the time because I have digestive issues with it. Interesting that it can be addictive...

Also this week my schedule has changed, permanent change, and I am up earlier than I usually am. Three square meals isn't going to cut it with my new schedule, I was really hungry for dinner last night.

I made a double batch of nann so there would be leftover, I love crunchy warmed leftover nann.

This is what I think I should do when I make Indian.

1) Only make a single batch of nann. 1 piece for everyone.
2) Have a snack in the afternoon.
3) Figure out how big a serving should be.

Thanks again everyone for helping me figure this out. emoticon

Edited by: PARISAPRIL1 at: 10/4/2012 (17:18)


WALKINGCHICK
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10/4/12 4:09 P

Hi, I think self control is practised - using baby steps, I've finally taught myself to reduce the amount of food I take on. I practised eating more slowly, after reading a spark people article, which meant that I knew when I was full, and more often than not, this was before I actually finished the plate.
I also ask the question every time I move towards a mealtime, or I'm in a shop and think about picking up food - am I actually hungry, and if I am, then I ask about what will help me to live my life more fully.

But all of this was taught - it isn't instinctive yet, but I'm much better at asking the questions now.

Hope this helps,



WHEELS54
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10/4/12 3:58 P

If you associate self control with will power, I read an interesting article that said 3 things that can help improve will power (self control?) 1. practice good posture, whenever you think of it, sit/stand up straight 2. use your less dominant hand for everyday tasks 3. Use proper grammer when speaking, avoid slang.




KJONESANTH
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10/4/12 3:49 P

I used to cook or order way more food for myself or my family than was required in one meal, using the excuse that leftovers are good to have around. I believe this allowed for a lot of overeating during and after the meal. I've learned to cook more reasonably, allowing for 500 calories per person. I believe this is not only helping me but helping me teach my family more reasonable portion control.

Naan is definitely best fresh, so I think that you set yourself up to lose control by preparing way more than a reasonable amount for the amount of people who were eating.



HANALILA
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10/4/12 3:35 P

Is there wheat in naan bread?? Wheat has addictive substances in it, which affects some people more than others. In this case I'd say it's not even "self control" but an actual addiction. I wasn't surprised when you said it was the naan bread (although occasionally coconut has had me reaching for more, due to the sweetness ~ and that's a whole other topic).

For some people, they can never have "self control" when it comes to wheat products, so they forgo them altogether, or learn what amounts they can handle without it becoming to addicting to them. I have found that when I eat wheat products, I feel as if I am an emotional eater without self control, stuffing my emotions and feeling out of control.

HOWEVER, when I drop the wheat (and perhaps added sugars) this goes away. I am suddenly a "normal" eater without any (or hardly any) emotional binge eating. I eat when hungry and stop when full. I think it's more an actual addiction than having no self-control or "emotional eating" or anything. It causes a chemical change in your brain, like alcohol, cocaine, heroin, or any kind of opiate. That is what I have learned so far.

I suppose, since it does cause changes in the brain and therefore mood, that these foods can be used by people with issues to feel better, like any other drug. But if you cut them out you may have more self-control than you think. Just my humble opinion.



BUBBLEJ1
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10/4/12 3:31 P

Yes, you can learn self control. Last night I went to McDonalds for dinner. I left half my fries. They were hot, salty, delicious. But I left half because I knew that I didn't have room in my calories for more.

Tracking really helps here. You can see the numbers and usually decide that extra isn't worth it.

If it were me, and it was that good, I would pack up the leftovers and take them for lunch! 2 yummy means instead of one!



GIGGLGAL76
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10/4/12 3:19 P

There has been a lot of pretty cool research on this topic recently. We are coming to find out that willpower can be like a muscle - if you exercise it a lot, you can strengthen it. However, to go with the same analogy, it gets tired and then it is harder to use. For example, in a typical day, I'd eat a healthy breakfast, go for a run, go to work, try to eat a healthy lunch, and when I'd get home, often there are some goals that I would set for myself (such as making a healthy dinner, don't snack after 8 pm, and perhaps a few chores). Now, that healthy breakfast and run were really not too hard to do, because they were the first things I needed to use my willpower for. I'd go to work, and then because it takes some willpower to not go crazy with a monotonous job, I sometimes wouldn't feel I had enough to have a healthy lunch. Often when I'd get home, I'd cook the easy thing, not the healthy thing, because my willpower was really feeling strained, and maybe go to bed and play computer games all night instead of the chores I had set for myself. This was me 6 months ago. You can see how great intentions in the beginning of the day don't always pan out. However, if you utilize your willpower often enough, not only can you form habits (running in the morning is a chore for me, it is my time, and I don't even make a decision to go or not - I go), but also with a stronger willpower, you will be better able to make choices throughout your day. In other words, every time you exercise self control effectively, you are strengthening your willpower, and so I say keep trying! That being said, logging and measuring everything before you eat it will definitely help with this, because you can get a better idea of portion sizes and make the choice of which thing you want - do you want that 2nd piece of naan with butter, or do you want to stay within your calorie allowance? Above all, positive self talk is key! You are not punishing yourself, you are treating yourself to better self image, better health, better life expectancy, better everything that should matter.



SOXFANNH
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10/4/12 2:59 P

Yes, I think you can learn to exercise self control, but it is easier with some foods and situations, than others. During the learning phase, you need to be patient with your trials and errors. Sometimes tracking what the extra serving(s) would "cost" me is enough to keep in control. Other times, I can't seem to stop. In those cases, I find it is best to learn from the experience and try to account for it as best I can (better eating, more exercise) over the next few days.

Good luck!



REEGEE257
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10/4/12 2:02 P

Self-control suggests out of control, which to me puts me on a pendulum swinging back and forth between In & Out of control.

A better approach is to Trust your self to be able to engage in this new Process of becoming master of your own Healthy Living. A process suggests movement, and learning from experience, day by day--and there's really no "end" to it, because we can just keep on getting better & better at tweaking our goals and achieving them as we go along.

Master suggests that I am at the "apprentice" stage, learning from experience what does work for me, so I can repeat it; and what does not work for me so I can go to Plan B to Plan Z until
I feel confident that I "got it."

Instead of feeling like a failure, get some stars in the kids section, and put Red stars beside the Things that don't work; and Gold stars beside the things that do work. At first the Red Stars predominate, but week by week, the Gold stars begin to outshine the Red ones.

We might as well have fun with ourselves while we proactively engage in becoming All that we want to be. No matter what the Stars say, Keep On Sparkling! ~ReeGee



STDWYNWEN
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10/4/12 1:48 P

Hi PARISAPRIL1

PAPERTREATS makes a good point.
Take this general scenario:
What if you had a child you're teaching to look both ways before crossing the street?
You explain the consequence of not looking before they run into the street.
You would expect the consequence to have meaning to them.

What if they continually just ran into the street, never even attempting to look both ways?
What if they told you "Buttttt Butttt (whining for effect lol) it's fun to run out into the road. It makes me happy."

What would you say to the child?

Use this technique on yourself. I might help you hit the pause button and put some thought behind what you want to do and what you should do.



DANAEBOYCE1
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10/4/12 1:34 P

I am surprised that you have been in maintenance mode for so long! You dont gain weight, and you still struggle with this?

That was always my problem. The only thing that mostly works is not buying things that I have a self control issue with. I dont buy sweets, stuff to make my white sauce, pasta, or snack bars that are really sweet. For right now, I avoid my trigger foods. I never buy soda or anything either.

That indian meal sounds delicious, by the way. I haven't made korma in a while either because I cant lay off the sauce. I feel like I am slowly making progress, though!



JAYEBEAN
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10/4/12 1:20 P

When I don't feel I'll be able to resist the urge, I make it impossible to over do it. So, I drink water. If I commit to a certain amount of gulps or to drinking 3 cups before I allow myself to consider more of what I think I want, then I'm too full to bother (can't even fit more than 2 glasses of water). By committing to fill up the space or even to do something else first (like completely clean up the kitchen and then see if I want more), I lose the desire.

I think it's just a thought that more will help us to enjoy the flavor. But I have also realized that since we enjoy the taste, we don'treally need to eat more to enjoy the taste. So I make it a point to enjoy every bite, even if I have to let it sit in my mouth while I experience the flavor. That works so that I do have control.



TCANNO
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10/4/12 1:10 P

Yes I think so if you are strong minded emoticon





ORODEO73
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10/4/12 1:00 P

for me, cooking for 6 comes naturally. We are down to 4 but I still like to cook for more. Often my portion being the more. So, once I dish out everyones plates, I immediately put the leftovers in the fridge or freezer. I hate getting up to rewarm while eating. Plus its portioned at this point. another thing I do is figure in my calories in the tracker and see where that puts me. I measure out my food then put other aways.
As far as teaching yourself, yes you can. But only you can. good luck



PAPERTREATS
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10/4/12 12:27 P

How do you teach yourself to stop at a red light? It's a matter of self-control, discipline and consequences. You don't run a red just because you "feel" like it. You realize you could kill someone or yourself.
So don't eat more just because you feel like it. Eat what you need, and save the rest for another meal. Be self-motivated not to eat more, and be accountable to friends or family.
You can do it!



SARAHD33
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10/4/12 11:24 A

I have several thoughts:
My first reaction is to say that self-control can be CHOSEN. You have the power to choose or not choose to eat a certain portion size. I think it is more about that than learning to make healthy choices. Measuring out an appropriate amount of a food you enjoy and not going beyond that is a choice.

It is harder to make these good choices if...
you are tired, overly hungry, or if you are eating for emotional reasons.

So, if you keep making choices that you regret, working with the underlying reasons for that is important. Are you eating because you are bored, sad, lonely, angry, happy, etc? Are there other ways to deal with those emotions?

What are your reasons for wanting to lose weight? Can you learn to delay immediate gratification for long term health and well-being? Yes! You can CHOOSE to embrace health.



ASHAIXIM
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10/4/12 10:49 A

No self control cannot be learned. If you don't have it to begin with how would you be able to? Also, I don't think dieting and losing weight or even exercise is a "self control" issue. It is a biological function. I eat carbs because I have chemical imbalances that carbs solve, but then the carb overload causes more imbalances so I can't eat many and still try to be healthy. But if I am tired or hungry, I don't want to work out. It's a catch 22. You have to figure out what works for you and then stick to it by doing things that make it more convenient and easier to stick to it than not.

For example, the lady below has a husband who goes back for 2nds and 3rds. If she put the food in the freezer immediately after dishing up a plate for her hubby (and everyone else eating) would he bother to get the containers out of the freezer, put them on his plate and then warm them up? Especially if she got rid of the microwave? Probably not.

If you never bought anything you shouldn't eat into the house, would you go back to the store at 9:00 when you got that craving? Probably not.

Would you eat ice cream if you told everyone in the house you were not going to? You're much less likely to.

Does that make sense to you? It's a lot easier to say no when it's convenient and you won't be embarrassed. :)



JESSICACTORRES
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10/4/12 10:40 A

I struggle with this too - and several people have already posted tricks that might work for you ... but I also find that occasional indulging and just being ok with it works for me too. So, for example, during the week we frequently eat one or two of the same exact things for dinner. Something quick, easy, we all like it, we have lots of leftovers ... but because we eat it every day we are ok with moderation. It's the same old thing. But then on the weekends I will make something good - a favorite recipe or something, and I usually eat too much then. But I try to minimize the calories for the rest of the day, and just know that Monday I'll be back to normal. Makes me a)not feel bad about the occasional "too much" and b)not have that "too much" be a huge deal because it's not often.



GETSINYOUREYES
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10/4/12 10:40 A

I've done this before (made something delicious and then ate way too much of it in one sitting) and I agree with others saying to immediately portion out how much you should eat and then go put everything left into the fridge. I like to put into a to go container and take it with me for lunch the next day. Knowing I'll get to eat some tomorrow helps me eat less today.



ELOQUENTZ
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10/4/12 10:13 A

It can be learned, but you have to want to change. I usually make extra so we have leftovers for lunches. My husband is bad about going back for seconds/thirds of something really yummy and then he'll be in pain from eating too much.



ANDREAG89
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10/4/12 10:05 A

Measure and weigh your food - that is a discipline that has to be practiced.

The weighing and measuring of food is what is helping me. I am finally understanding what a true serving size is because of this. And when there are proper serving sizes, it's easier to count up the nutrients and calories you are taking in (use that nutrition tracker!).

Suggestion is to immediately pack up the extras, and if possible, into individual serving sizes so you can eat it again the next day. If it's that good, you want it to last more than one sitting!
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Best wishes. You can do it!



ALICIALYNNE
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10/4/12 8:56 A

Since I haven't eaten those things before, please forgive me if this sounds absolutely ridiculous:
Could you have made a smaller batch? Say, instead of making enough to have enough "extra" that you could have a second serving, can you make a smaller batch so there are fewer leftovers?
If not, is this something that can be frozen and reheated later, or left in the fridge? I remember seeing a study recently that said that if you tell yourself you can have something in the future, you are more likely to resist temptation now. For example, saying "I can have my leftovers tomorrow after work," you are far less likely to overindulge in it now. In fact, if it is something you don't currently have in your possession, you may not even eat it. For example, "I will be able to eat McDonalds tomorrow after work" but by the time you get out of work the next day, you no longer have the craving. I have used this one myself several times!
Little mind tricks like this can go a LONG way in helping oneself reprogram the urge to give in to cravings.
Hope that helps.



NIRERIN
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10/4/12 8:18 A

i would say yes and no. for some people there might be a few things that they just can't manage. so keeping those foods away most of the time is the best tac. for other people it's the scarcity that makes them want it. so if you love naan, skipping the second or third piece could be easier if you know exactly when you're making it again. or you can say i'm going to skip this piece now to have with my lunch tomorrow or my snack later tonight or breakfast or whenever. and that tradeoff makes it easier to say no. "special" foods become less special when they become commonplace. and by having a concrete time in the future to have it, there can be less impulse to have it now. or rather it can be easier to wait because it's not a limited time opportunity, there is another in sight.



PARISAPRIL1
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10/4/12 7:15 A

Last night I made a lovely Coconut Vegetable Curry, Tandoori Chicken with chicken breasts and Nann.

It was really good I had two servings of each dish and I just couldn't stop eating the Nann! It was so buttery and crunchy I ate way too much. Everyone in my house really likes it so I will make it again at some point.

My question is, How do I teach myself self control? Any tips or suggestions would be appreciated.

Edited by: PARISAPRIL1 at: 10/4/2012 (17:19)


 
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