I found myself over-involved in lots of things that I was doing for others while not enjoying what I was doing for them. I finally put a stop to being used by others by telling them something like this:
"I'm so sorry, Jane, but at this time I'm unable to make any commitments. I've found myself very stressed lately, and right now I'm having to focus on my health, both physically and mentally. I would appreciate if you could find someone else to help with that right now."
Surprisingly, it has worked for me, and it makes it much easier to put the brakes on if the other person persists on asking you for favors. And, not surprising (but unfortunate), a few of the people that I have told "NO" to have never called me back. Sometimes it is true that "a friend in need, is a friend in deed."
I have to admit, that it has been totally worth reclaiming my own life by learning to say "NO." Those who are true friends and good family haven't minded one bit that I haven't been available for favors 100% of the time. I do what I want to do FIRST.
Edited by: PATTIJOHNSON at: 5/4/2012 (15:02)