This is a great thread. I've really enjoyed reading other people's stories.
I THOUGHT that I'd overcome a lot of old food habits from when I was a child. We were a 'clean your plate or else' family. We were never denied food when we were hungry, and we always had home canned or home frozen fruit and veg available. But we really didn't have a lot of money for groceries, so our diet tended to be pretty basic. I didn't know what full cream added to a gravy tasted like until I was into my 20s! But once I found out how wonderful full fat dairy could make things feel, I was in love! In moving away from the simplicity of my childhood diet, I overcompensated the other way, and since have had to find a more moderate middle ground.
Like others, I also tend to over shop. It's very hard for me to pass up a good deal on frozen veggies, even though I have 10 bags sitting in the freezer at home. But there have been times in my life, not just as a child, when we went without veggies because we couldn't afford to buy fresh, and we'd run out of canned or frozen, and the choice was between a bag frozen corn for dinner or milk for the baby. Moving into a house with very little storage space has been pure torture for me! But it's also forced me to address this issue. It's a work in progress though.
There are other food issues from my childhood that I've overcome, and I've tried very hard to pass on a healthy relationship with food to my daughter. I never make her clean her plate, but I always insist that she tastes everything. When she was younger, she was allowed to snack on anything in the 'snack drawer' in the fridge without having to ask. That drawer was always full of fruit and cut up veggies and yogurt, and even if she ate too much before dinner, at least I knew that she was filling up on healthy snacks rather than junk. Junk food and fast food have never been a major part of her diet, and most of it she doesn't even like anyway, because she knows what all that crud does to her body.
2/6/13 10:49 A
Great realization!! not sad at all. Portion control is the key and after so many years of trying so many "diet" I think I am finally realizing that this is not a diet at all. I can eat anything and everything I want as long as I realize how much of it I am eating. Tracking has helped me so much to stay within my calories. Growing up my Mom always had so much food available especially when we had parties. You know you never want to "not have enough" so I think I was always prone to eat more than I needed just because it was there. It's just a matter of making a conscious effort of everything you eat and being accountable for that. I'm no saying it's easy. I'm still in the early stages of this process and it's still work to think about what to eat and when to eat it, but I'm hoping that after awhile it will become second nature as I hope to maintain this as a lifestyle
Great discussion thread, I also enjoy reading other peoples' stories about how they got to the point where they are. I can relate to having a mini Costco in your garage. :) My husband teases me about Y2K provisions. You'd think I was some crazy survivalist stocking up for the next millenium.
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2/5/13 8:45 P
It is soooooo interesting reading these stories... we can almost reach out and grab the reasons why we have poor relationships (past or present) with food from how food was given to us as children.... amazing
Hearing you guys makes me feel like I am not alone. I too have a over shopping habit with food. I spend more time organizing my pantry than any were else in my home. And all because some times I have it packed to the gills. Yes I stock up when prices are good but I am working on using it up and chilling out for a little while on the stocking up. In my home my mom was a drug user and mentally ill too. By the middle of the month food was almost gone and the last week we were living off of snack cakes and donuts from the food bank. I know WHY i buy too much and it is the fear of not being able to feed my children. which to me would be one of the worse things ever. But I am a grown woman who can and will find a way to feed my kids IF that ever happens unlike my mother who did not care, So I need to kick that habit a bit. There was a time when my friends called my garage Jodico because it looked like costco and they would shop in there when times were tough for them. So I am a bit better now or poorer not sure which LOL.
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2/5/13 6:59 P
I hear you with food issues from childhood. My mom is really picky and I carried that over. It wasn't until I was out of her house and on my own that I started trying new and different stuff. Like others, food was unlimited and since my mom was picky but liked her junk food, there was plenty of that, specifically cookies, chocolate, and potato chips. Besides those, Im pretty sure I grew up on spaghetti os, frozen pizza, spaghetti with tomato sauce, frozen chicken nuggets, and boxed Mac and cheese.
That said, I did end up with some positive things too. When my mom did cook from scratch, she never used salt and never fried anything. Those things have carried over. We also lived 30 minutes from any fast food places so that wasn't a habit either,
Food issues from childhood? I sure have them. My mother experienced deep, lengthy bouts of depression and sometimes didn't get out of bed for days. She bought 5 or 10 loaves of the cheapest bread at the grocery store and put them in the freezer, and us kids would get them out one by one and eat them. For supper, we ate applesauce and some kind of hamburger gravy for -- it seems like -- a whole year. (I'm sure it wasn't that long.) There were long periods of scarcity. If we got Hamburger Helper, it was a big deal.
From the moment I got out on my own, I've always bought too much food. For a few years, every dinner with my husband was an event -- home-cooked, elaborate meals with rich desserts and the most expensive wines I could afford. It's taken me years to see the beauty of eating light and to realize being hungry isn't the end of the world.
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2/5/13 5:30 P
great post. it sounds like you are setting a great example for your child.
i also use the eat to you are full way with my kids. babies know when they are hungry. at some point, this changes.
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2/5/13 5:18 P
so glad to hear we are stopping these cycles with our own kids... great post! I always ensure that my son NEVER has to clean his plate, he can eat until he feels full and if that means coming back for food an hour or two later, that's ok. I desperately want him to know that food is fuel, it is not comfort, it is not absolute. Healthy options are always served, and are balanced with "fun" food and treats as well. He has such a good relationship with food.... also, I invested in some healthy eating kids books (berenstain bears and others) and he absolutely delights in learning about how food is used in our bodies, and what defines healthy vs. not healthy. I am determined to make food a non-issue for him :)
2/5/13 5:02 P
This is such a good topic. I think I have a combination of issues that have carried over. In the early days of my childhood I was allowed to eat whatever I wanted and we kept a lot of junk in the house. This has led me to be a junk food junkie and have portion control issues. When I got older my dad lost his job and we had very little food in the house, so when I grocery shop for my family now I tend to over shop. I know realistically we are not going to run out of food and if we do there is money to get more, but I still do it. I try to send my husband grocery shopping instead or stick to the list. One another note I have a friend who constantly says she's "fat" (she weighs 130 lbs at 5'3") and struggles with body image issues due to the way her mother talked about her body in front of her. I try to always be mindful of the messages I'm sending my kiddo about food and body image due to this.
2/5/13 4:29 P
I came from an all-you-can-eat convenience food household, where fruits and vegetables were non-existent; a true hot dogs and macaroni and cheese type of family. I didn't realize until well into my twenties that I had no idea what a healthy meal even looked like, and it has been tough to re-train my mind to enjoy a more healthful lifestyle. When I first started tracking, it was a shock to realize there were days that I would not eat even one serving of fruits/vegetables!!!!
I think the best part about this realization, especially in your case, is that now you can make sure that you instill in your children a truly healthy lifestyle. You are setting a great example for them now, and it will be so much easier for them to make healthful choices as they grow up!
Yep it is crazy I had a 1/2 of a granola bar this morning but that's it and I am still full. I am exhausted from caring for my 2 year old girl who has had that bad cold virus for 3 days now and three nights of crying all the time so very little sleep. I am noticing that when I am exhausted is when the urge to eat when not hungry hits. it is a frustration coping mechanism. I tried to take a nap but she lasted less than 40 minutes asleep so the help was minimal when that is what I have been getting for the last three nights, sleep broken up every 40 minutes or so. Oh well she will get better soon and I will sleep. And in the mean time I am learning things that trigger me that I never realized before. Live and learn
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2/5/13 1:15 P
portion control is key.
tracking and measuring things was a real eye opener for me.
Edited by: CLARK971 at: 2/5/2013 (13:16)
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10 2/5/13 1:10 P
My sister and I talk about this all the time. I've been heavy most of my life while she was skinny until college and gained some weight. We both have issues with portions because we were never told what a portion size was. My parents never said, "oh you only need 2-3 cookies", no we could have as much as we wanted. There was never any limits on food. Now we both have issues with binge eating.
You learn your eating habits from your parents, that's why so many overweight parents have overweight children. It's really sad.
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2/5/13 12:57 P
Cleaning my plate is my biggest challenge, as I was forced to as a kid. On the yolk note, the yolks carry most of the nutritients, and all of the satisfaction in egg-eating so eat up! Iol
2/5/13 12:55 P
I don't think there's anything sad about this realization at all! It's a great realization! Yes, you can eat "like a normal person" - once you get a grip on what a "normal portion size" is - you have realized that the portions you grew up eating were actually not "single servings" - and now you are adjusting accordingly. Yes, you WILL feel satisfied with 1 egg, 2 turkey-bacon, half an english muffin and some grapes!
Oh, portion control. It's such a shock to come to terms with it. And i have to say, I am quite shocked that I am adapting to "normal portions" with very little hunger. Last time i had a lot of weight to lose, I did it in a "volume eating" sort of manner (bulking up my portions with all the extra "free" veggies the WW plan would allow, heh heh), so that my plate was as full as always, just of lower-calorie, higher-nutrient foods. This time around, I'm working on just eating the "suggested serving" size of everything. Every now and then my eyes and brain perk up with alarm, "That's IT? that's your entire lunch?!!" (my sandwich yesterday was just laughably petite, honestly, haha), but it IS keeping me satisfied.
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3,526 2/5/13 12:46 P
Yes, many of my habits from childhood carried over.
I always had ice cream sodas with diet soda instead of regular. I realized the reason I did this is because growing up, my grandmother would make them that way for me because I was heavy.
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2/5/13 12:39 P
Great job! I too have plenty of habits that have carried over from childhood. I did not eat healthy as a child or young adult. My parents didn't cook healthy and we didn't get healthy portions. Portion size has always been an issue for me. As a kid I would have multiple PB&J sandwiches. I still do it now. Or at least I did. I think we all carry these things over and that's why we have the problems we have. It's just that some people can spot them quicker than others and deal with them easier. I think you did an excellent job!
I have been doing well for over a month now and feel wonderful. I have been hungry a handful of times that's it. i started by eating frequent small meals but the last couple of days I have been so busyness that that wasn't going to happen. I have stayed in my range but yesterday I ate Waay more white flour than I normally do. It was what was available to me. And this morning while I was making my babies breakfast it hit me. I have been making something different for me like egg whites while my children have scrambled eggs. I enjoy them but it is a bit more work. and I have been putting the yoke in there scrambled eggs to not waste them.
And I got to thinking why I have always done this? Why I make myself something different from them even if it makes more work for me. And it hit me. Even as a kid I was never fed normal serving sizes of anything. A dessert of Oreo for example was always 5 cookies. Why 5 cookies? a package serving I believe is 3. So as a 8 year old I was given almost 2 servings of oreos or anything for that matter. So I decided I would simple eat a much smaller portion of what my children were eating. I have great cholesterol so there is no other reason to cut the yoke out. And I did I ate one egg when I always had at least 2 normally 3 eggs worth (Before spark people). I had 2 piece of turkey bacon instead and 1/2 of an English muffin instead of the piece of toast. I had graped too just too and I feel even fuller than I normally do on far less food. I will see if the feeling lasts but I am happy I am making conscious connections to my eating habits and there roles in my life.
has anyone else notice behaviors they did not realized they carried over from childhood?
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