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3/26/13 11:16 A

CHANTALLDT2,

While a safe weekly weight loss would be 1-2 pounds per week (.5-1kg), there will be weeks you don't lose. there may even be weeks you gain ! And that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. Your body is on its own schedule to lose weight, not yours. So, while it's good to have a target date to strive for, that doesn't mean you'll make that date. You don't get to decide how much weight comes off each week. Your body (genetics) makes that decision.

The fact is, there will be weeks you don't lose and that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. This is not the Biggest Loser. the weight doesn't magically drop off the minute we decide we need to lose. Weight loss is a slow steady process that takes time. You didn't gain the weight overnight, it's not coming off overnight. If it took you years to gain the weight, don't expect it to come off in a few weeks.

You need to be more patient with yourself and your body. I can assure you that if you continue to eat right, watch your portions and get some regular exercise that includes some strength training, you will continue to lose weight.

But, keep in mind, the closer you get to a healthy weight for your height, the longer it's going to take to lose those last few pounds. So, yes, there are going to be many times your weight loss slows down. And that too is perfectly normal.

Don't beat yourself up because your weight loss has slowed down. Give yourself credit for already losing 15kg, that IS good progress. You really do need to give your body more time to adapt to the new changes.

You're doing just fine. Don't worry !


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3/26/13 6:56 A

Unfortunately YOU are the one who is putting pressure on yourself. I would suggest that perhaps a better move would be to talk with your Dr and ask for a referral to a Therapist so that with their help, you will be able to move forward in a positive and healthy way. They are also a great source of support for people on a weight-loss journey, too. I would be inclined to change your mindset about your goal date, and rather than even HAVING a date in your goal, just say "I want to lose weight!"

I am sure that with your lifting this pressure off your shoulders, the cracks that are appearing in your marriage will soon take up, and things will be rock solid again :-)

Kris

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3/26/13 6:45 A

Thanks for the advice! I do suppose I am being a bit hard on myself but I just get so frustrated when I dont lose. I stopped smoking, jogging and dieting on the same day, so yes, I do suppose my body is in a bit of shock. emoticon

The reason I need to lose 45kgs by end of July is simply that thats my goal date. I have become extremely insecure about myself and as result my marriage has started to take strain. this is purely to prove to myself that I can do it and that I am better for doing it.

I would love to do the cardio videos, however I dont have internet at home only at work. I am busy printing out some exercises that I am going to start as from this evening to do at home.

Thanks for the motivation! you guys rock! emoticon

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3/26/13 5:32 A

I Agree with Slimmerkiwi.....You seem like you are being too hard on yourself...Take some deep breaths...Try to relax...You may be wanting too much too soon.....It takes time for your body to adjust to your new habits....Try some card videos....I know how hard it is...I'm also losing VERY slowly! The cardio videos will give you quick, short bursts of energy..and help to speed up your metabolism..Hang in there..You can do it!

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3/26/13 4:15 A

Hi - first of all I would like to say how sorry I am to hear of your having been attacked recently. I can understand your not wanting to go jogging at night any more. I wouldn't have done it in the first place for exactly those sorts of reasons. It is horrible that some scumbag has that much of an impact on our freedom of choice and quality of life :-(

Congratulations on having done really well! having lost 15kg in 2 months is actually really GOOD! it took me 16 months to lose just over 23kg!! The point is, regardless of anything else, your body WILL be thanking your for it - odds are your blood pressure is better; if you had cholesterol or blood sugar issues, then odds are your bloods will come back better. Odds are you have more energy, and better level of fitness. Quite possibly the quality of your sleep has improved! There are many other pluses but that should give you something to think about :-)

You are also doing the right things with running up the stairs instead of walking. You play Badminton, and altho' I have never played it, I would imagine it is quite an energetic game.

It isn't uncommon for a person to come to a bit of a stand-still after the initial losses. There are many reasons for this and odds are that you aren't doing anything wrong at all. When you develop extra muscle, your body needs extra blood - this needs extra fluid, and it all ways more. This is GOOD .... NOT bad!

I think that you are being unnecessarily harsh on yourself. Why do you "NEED" to lose 45kg by the end of July??? Rather than putting this extra pressure on yourself, turn your thinking into "I want to lose SOME weight by the end of July" ... and you have made a real good start on that. Remember, a quick loss is NOT a healthy loss, and odds are it is not likely to stay off for long. There are many reasons - it may be that a person is over-exercising and under-eating. It may be that the person may have adopted a "DIET" mentality, which means restrictions and deprivation - and this leads to boredom and hating not being 'allowed' to eat things that you enjoy.

I hope that you are weighing all of your food and entering it into the Nutrition Tracker. This is the best way to ensure that you have the power to stay within the recommended calorie range, and also to tweak your intake to ensure that you get the appropriate portions of carbs/fats/protein that is recommended. Ensure that you eat lots of fruit and veges, and get good hydration, mostly with water re no calories or additives, and continue getting in exercise. If you want more exercise, then perhaps you could do what I do. I put all of my groceries and laundry away one at a time. Sometimes it gives me a 1/2 hr brisk walk - sometimes 20 minutes or a bit less, but I generally get at least 2 walks in a week doing this - far better than nothing, AND it is safe, AND you don't have to worry about weather conditions or traveling costs. The other real good plus is that it doesn't seem like work, yet it doesn't seem like exercise - to me that is a win/win :-)

Take care, and remember - PLEASE BE KIND TO YOURSELF!!!
Kris

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 3/26/2013 (04:17)
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3/26/13 3:59 A

So I started my journey in February of this year weighing in at 130kgs emoticon and has since then dropped down to 115kgs. Which is not bad, however I seem to be stuck at this weight and its depressing me so much, I Feel like a failure for not losing more yet. I dont know what to do. I dont jog at night since being attacked a few weeks back but I play Badminton on the weekends, I do about 20 -30 hours in 2 days and at work I run up the stairs instead of walking but I just dont know why I am not losing.

Is there anyone with any advice please? I need to lose a total of 45kgs by end of July but now it seems thats not going to happen.

You know what it feels like to feel fat, and yucky about yourself and I dont want to feel like this anymore, I make everyone arround me suffer when feeling like this.

Please HELP! emoticon

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