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SLASALLE
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1/17/13 6:15 P

I would suggest reading the SP articles about maintenance and maintenance issues. I've heard some say that it's harder to maintain than it is to lose.

If you're going back to eating like you used to before losing weight (which I assume from putting on 9 pounds of the 50 you lost), that smacks of a diet, NOT a lifestyle change, yet you say "diet" doesn't set well in your mind.

Hope the articles help!! It's GREAT that you're catching this NOW, before you put any more of the weight back on. You're doing the right thing reaching out!!!

Good luck!!!



WALKINGMAMMA
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1/17/13 5:41 P

I would second that you need to set some new non-weight related goals...I would suggest some fitness related ones...Run a 5k, do a triathlon, etc. emoticon



TINA_LYNN91
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1/16/13 3:22 P

Sounds like it's time to make some new goals!



JEAN2666
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1/16/13 1:32 P

You are not alone. I have yo'yo'd for years and would do the exact thing you posted. After having a baby, I would join WW, lose the amount I wanted to and then I would slowly start my binging. I always had the mindset of I will eat chinese buffett when I reach xx goal. I will eat this or that when I finally lose the weight. And then it snowballs from there. I finally had to remove that mentality from my brain. Sure I still induldge from time to time but I don't let it control me now. For the most part, a weekend binge can set me back a month! And it's just too much of a struggle to lose a few lbs that I don't want to risk it.



IAM_ICAN_IWILL
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1/15/13 11:27 P

I'm new to this SP thing, and this is actually my first post, but found hope in the fact that I'm not the only one out there having this problem. I too, have lost (or should have said 'did lose') 52lbs; completely and utterly on my own. I look back at it now and I actually wonder how it happened. Either way, it did and I felt fantastic. It felt great to finally get compliments thrown my way. However, since being with my other half (2.5 years) I've become comfortable with myself around him and I've put on almost 30lbs... urgh!

What's worse, is that when he's not around, I feel the need to binge. Some nights I've even wondered when he's going to go home so that I can help myself to some chips for a snack or that last piece of pie in the fridge. HOW TERRIBLE IS THAT!? It's AWFUL! What's even worse than that is that the thought in my head when I'm throwing the pie into my mouth is 'I SHOULD NOT BE EATING THIS!!!'

I have set a goal to lose 42.5 lbs over the next 20 weeks, and i'm hoping and praying that I can find help and support here.

I CAN DO THIS.... right?





CDNEXPAT
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1/15/13 10:58 P

No, I don't track my calories (I prefer not to) - I track random days to see if I'm meeting my goals (my 'aims').

In the past I've tracked, but I become way to obsessive with logging and tracking, that it wasn't healthy.

This most recent time, I lost 50 lbs without tracking. To me, tracking is associated with dieting, and that doesn't sit well in my mind.



HOOKCHICK
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1/15/13 10:47 P

Did you track your food while you lost the weight? Sounds like you need to go back to that, or stick with it. Do you have a history of bingeing? That sounds like an emotional issue. Maybe read some of the stories here about reaching goal and maintenance; that can trigger unexpected emotions (so I've read - I'm not there yet myself!). Don't let yourself backslide too much!!



LILLIPUTIANNA
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1/15/13 10:42 P

It's kind of funny (from where I'm sitting), your post sounds a lot like the people who are just starting out to achieve their goals. If you look at the comments by people who have just joined SP, and how they talk like they are powerless...well...they sound a lot like your with the baklava (stupid, delicious baklava!).

You need to rededicate yourself. I see people with bars that don't track their weight loss ,but their days of maintenance. I saw one that counted 400 and something days of maintenance and I was shocked. I thought, "Crap...this is going to take FOREVER!"

Okay, so THIS time, when you dedicate yourself to success, do it for YOURSELF, not for your friends and family, not to show them how awesome you are. This time, do it to prove to YOURSELF how awesome you are!

RAWR!

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Edited by: LILLIPUTIANNA at: 1/15/2013 (22:43)


CDNEXPAT
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1/15/13 10:33 P

So to put a long story short, I reached my weightloss goal a few weeks ago (6 weeks maybe?). I sucessfully lost 50+ lbs. Throughout this entire process, I've had motivation (upcoming trips, visiting with family I hadn't seen in years etc).

Around the time I reached my goal weight, I also saw my family (I live abroad and haven't seen them in about 2 years). It was my "reveal" so to say. Since my family has now seen me at my new weight, and since I've reached my goal, I've lost any and all motivation!

I've since gained back 9 lbs in the past 3 weeks. I've gone on some serious carb binges (to the point of eating an entire box of cereal in one sitting). Yesterday I stopped at the grocery store on the way home and bought a box of granola bars - ate 3 in the car, and the remaining 2 as soon as I got in the door. I went to the grocery store to pick up something for a potluck - I ended up buying some dessert, but ended up eating the dessert as soon as I got in (a whole tray of baklava), and had to scramble to make something last minute to bring.

It's not a feeling of being un-organized. I have healthy meals planned and prepared at home. I do well for the majority of the day, and then slip up in the afternoon, and then all control is lost. I have an unhealthy 'all or nothing' mentality.

I KNOW working out and eating well makes me feel 100000% better, but it's a catch 22. I'm too tired and have a headache (from the binging) to go workout.

I also feel that since I've reached my goal, 'a little of this', or 'a little of that' won't hurt. But the problem is it's not just a little. It's ALOT of this, and ALOT of that that I'm eating.

Any ideas?



 
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