Zabber no doubt this is a tough journey. The good news you have proven to yourself you can do it, since you have done it in the past. To state the obvious, you need to make this a lifestyle change to not go back to bad habits and setting yourself up for failure. When you make this a lifestyle change, you won't be eating poorly and you won't be giving yourself the opportunity to gain the weight back.
Find what works for you for fitness and meals and then just stay consistent. I know that easier said than done, but you can do it if you put your mind to it. You mind is a powerful tool.
Just get back at it and make your changes for a lifetime! Good luck!
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I'm glad you're feeling better today, between TOM and other stress, it can seem so dark and hopeless!
20 pounds is awesome! Congrats on that!
I don't belong to a gym, it doesn't work for me- if I have to get all dressed and drive somewhere, I won't do it. I work out with videos at home too, and also like to take long walks. You can definitely get in shape at home with videos. just make sure you change it up and don't do the same ones over and over.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Always remember that slow and steady wins the race. Each time you make a mistake and have to go back to square one you have an opportunity to learn something new. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. It seems like you aren't looking at this process as a lifestyle change and more of just a temporary fix when you stop exercising at intervals. As soon as you are able to accept that this is a life long commitment, even when you make a mistake it will be easier to move forward because we all make mistakes. If you can't go to the gym anymore and have free weights at home or some disposable income might I recommend pretty much any Beachbody workout! I've put the gym behind me and have been doing things workouts for years. For building strength I would recommend Chalean Extreme or P90X and for cardio there are other options like Turbofire or Turbojam but all of the workouts are very well rounded and you can do them in the convenience of your own home! I havn't reached my goal weight yet, but I've made a point of going through a mental process and taking everything in at my own time at my stride and I've only ever gained or regained 5 pounds. Slow and steady wins the race and keeps winning. You can do this!
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I think you've re-oriented yourself....nothing can stop you now!! Will look forward to seeing you on the message boards....(and hope its only good news at the Doc's!) patti
Edited by: LADYSTARWIND at: 5/30/2013 (11:53)
5/30/13 9:29 A
Thank you everyone!! I woke up with a much better attitude this morning. That time of the month paired with a report I should never have looked at had me feeling pretty down last night. I know I shouldn't compare myself to a 28 year old me! I appreciate the support!! I spent some time reading some of the message boards last night and am going to participate more. I think that support would help immensely and it warmed my heart to see the positivity! For as long as I've been on here I've never used this part of the site. I also need to readjust my attitude and stop worrying about losing 20 lbs to fit in my skinny jeans and work on a lifestyle change! My daughter is now 2 and I don't want her to see me doing a yo-yo thing every year. I want to be a good example for her and make this our lifestyle. I called this morning and scheduled a check up at the dr for a full physical and labwork - haven't been since prenatal care so I'm way overdue!
Thanks again everyone - I really appreciate the support!!
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Sounds like you just need to work on your feelings...I've been struggling with my weight for years, quitting after a few days, thinking it "wasn't worth" the hard work, etc...What you're actually telling yourself is "I'm not worth it". I didn't see significant change in my weight loss until I improved my self-worth and positivity. When I stopped hiding from SparkPeople and being open about my mistakes, and helping others. When I helped others I realized all the advice I'm giving them is true for me, too. It's a win-win. You need support, we don't judge you here. So don't judge yourself.
And above all else...Don't quit! You need to adapt fitness as a lifestyle and not just something to aid fat loss. You need to find what exercise you enjoy doing to help keep you fit. Might want to check out this article, too: it goes into how to help change your attitude.
Don't beat your self up about it. The vast majority of people who try to lose weight have exactly the same story. Look at the statistics. Your pattern of behavior, slow but steady ratcheting up of weight after dieting is seen time and time again in studies.
So, what you need to do is find the studies that look at people who have successfully taken weight off and have kept it off. I can't name any particular ones off hand, but I do know they exist.
Personally, I think the one thing you absolutely cannot do is think of this as a diet. It's not a quick fix. It's not something you do until the weight comes off, and then go back to business as usual. You have to commit yourself to changing your life...forever.
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3,746 5/29/13 8:36 P
Hey there...dont' get down on yourself..... A lot of LIFE has happened in those seven years! Our bodies change as we age, and pregnancies definitely change us. You have two great advantages over so many though--you already KNOW YOU CAN DO IT--you already KNOW HOW TO DO IT. You just need to find your motivation again. The past is past--let it go--and look forward...
A suggestion might be to start with a call to your doctors office for a physical if you haven't been there for awhile. Along with those years, have there been changes like thyroid or diabetes? Checking that out is important...you need to know what's going on....
Another suggestion is to check into the FREE Spark Coach week. Perhaps they can get you set up to succeed. (Its truly free; they don't even ask for billing info until after the free period--then its like $9.00/month)
Above all, try focusing on changing to a healthy LifeStyle--- don't focus just on losing weight. And if you need some more motivation: remember what you are doing, you are teaching your child!!
Congrats on the 20lbs you've already taken off this Spring!! Keep up your good work!! Take care, don't quit, You Can Keep Going!!!
Edited by: LADYSTARWIND at: 5/29/2013 (21:48)
5/29/13 8:17 P
I just ran a weight report starting when I joined this site in 2006. At the time, I was 190, trying to lose 10 lbs for my wedding. I lost it - got down to my adult low of 179 and pretty much quit exercising. Came back a year later, after having gained again and was up over 200 that time. Lost 20. Quit exercising again. Gained it back. Repeat year after year until 2010 when I got pregnant. I gained 66 lbs and got up to a high weight of 286 lbs. Made my way back here last year and lost 20 lbs, and kept it off all year. Again this spring I kicked it into high gear and I've lost about 20 lbs in the last few months, by working extremely hard and recording every bite of food that crosses my lips.
I feel like I just lost all motivation after looking at that report. I obviously can't stick to it since I've been trying to do this for 7 years!!! And instead of a steady loss I go up and down and up and down. I know what I need to do. I'll do it and ace it for a few months, then quit. I'm at the point right now of quitting again. What's the point? I'll only be back here in a year even heavier than now. Feel like I'm busting my ass for nothing.
How do I stay motivated? What am I doing wrong? I am a now a single mom with absolutely no assistance from the dad so I can't join a gym. I work out at home to videos, walk daily, and use dumbbells at night for various strength exercises. I track all my food. I've never really been a part of the message boards - this is my first post I've ever started. I'm now 60 lbs heavier than I was back in 2006, when I first tried losing weight! Just miserable. thanks for letting me vent.
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