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RUSSELL_40 Posts: 16,826
11/12/12 9:59 A

Find a heated pool. Less stress on injuries. Do that and walking till he is back on track.

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11/11/12 1:05 P

Thanks Russel! Great ideas, I like the recreation sports ideas. He has always enjoyed playing different sports over the years. Only problem right now is he is on restrictions due to a work related injury. So those are out for right now. I know he would love to shoot hoops or play volleyball together! But that will have to wait until his is back to himself. We took our first walk together, 1 1/2 in 30 minutes. So I am very happy with that. He says I'm in charge which is really pretty funny!!! And it was nice to do it together rather than by myself even if it is slower than I normally go. I can always do some x-box dancing with the kids later. Thanks again! Appreciate the help!

RUSSELL_40 Posts: 16,826
11/11/12 12:10 P

I agree with just focusing on yourself dietwise, and being an example. he wants to make changes obviously, so he will get there eventually. Wait for him to ask for any advice, and keep cooking healthy meals. Us guys like to fix things. No need for help woman! emoticon

Where you can help tremendously is exercise. Not gym exercise, or buying him a fitbit. Real, normal exercise. Frisbee, walking, hiking, riding a bike, swimming, rock wall climbing. Be imaginative, and try to come up with ideas for exercise you can do together. That will make it seem less like a chore, and he will enjoy it. I hate when people " forbid " a word, but I am going to make a suggestion. Try " recreational activity " instead of exercise. I love playing basketball. Not so much volleyball, but both will probably have leagues near you, if you like either. Maybe 2-3 couples you know will join you. That makes it a night out. 2 exercise nights a week, and you are on your way, plus you aren't trying to avoid it.

We love playing sports, so all you need to do is focus him away from sports you can't do like wrestling, hockey etc, and try one that is gender neutral. Maybe make a list, and let him pick a few. Playing, is more fun than exercise, but burns the same amount of calories.



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11/11/12 11:56 A

Thanks everyone! You all have such great thoughts and ideas, we truly no what works best for our significant others. I will start him an account and that will help with the numbers. I know that he has already started eating healthier b/c I am feeding him. I need to work on that late night 'snack'. He does not eat b/f, hasn't in years. I need to start offering him food earlier in the day and slowly have it available earlier and earlier. I know he usually does not eat if I'm not home. I have to cook dinner for him and the kids before I go to my afternoon job otherwise its usually fast food! Thanks again for all your thoughts and ideas! It all begins today! Wish us luck!!

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11/11/12 5:43 A

I agreed with Terri. What works with my husband is to see me losing weight, he gets quite competitive. He eats whatever I put in front of him (bless!) I announced I was giving up alcohol between now and Christmas, he didn't say anything, but when someone offered him a glass of wine - he said "No thanks, I'm on the wagon for a few weeks"

You know what works best for your husband - I know that nagging is wasted on mine (for which I'm grateful, it doesn't come easily to me) What works for mine is example - I suspect most men are the same

TACDGB Posts: 6,132
11/10/12 4:57 P

I'd be setting a good example for him by what you are doing. Encourage him by finding out what he likes to eat, by finding a buddy(a friend of his) he might like to workout with...playing flag football with, walking with or some sport that burns calories.

-POOKIE- Posts: 11,848
11/10/12 4:47 P

My fiancÚ has a SP account, but to be fair I use it on his behalf way more than he ever would.

Set one up, put in his goals etc and that will show you his required calories and protein needs etc.

I plan my meals and my fiancÚ's using our trackers, as I also pack his lunch and prepare the breakfast and evening meals, so I know he is meeting his needs and hopefully working towards his goals of losing a few pounds.

STEPHEN_NANNY SparkPoints: (10,496)
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11/10/12 2:27 P

NAUSIKAA has a good point...the competitive allure of sports for men is a great way to get healthy. We men like to believe that we are capable of doing what we did at 18 physically (deep down underneath some extra padding). With a few pounds off to move freely about, I took up several sports at the recreational level, and it has helped me lose even more weight (and have fun in the process). Is there any co-ed rec sport and social clubs in your city? These are often pretty cheap, fun, filled with lots of singles and couples just looking to stay active, in all different kinds of shape...you can even learn a new skill or sport for the good of it, and do it together as a couple.

NAUSIKAA Posts: 4,848
11/10/12 2:19 P

I'm in your position I think. My husband is about 7 lbs over his ideal weight and wants to lose that and get more in shape. I really had no idea about calories for men either! I am the one doing the cooking and plating so I try to make sure he gets around 1800-2500 calories/day including a lot of healthy fat (olive oil, basically - I make this a priority). I also encourage him to drink a moderate amount of red wine most days for heart health, which is an issue for guys (I never drink it myself). He's been losing slowly but steadily on this plan. He hates gyms but he has a few sports that he enjoys so I cheer him on when he plays sports.

Incidentally, he used to be 40 lbs overweight and I claim all the credit for his 40 lb weightloss because again I was cooking and plating the food. At that time, same thing - 1800-2500 calories/day, olive oil & wine, and fun sporty type stuff rather than gym workouts. He put some of it back on when we did a summer road trip.

I wish someone would cook and count all my calories for me. All he has to do is eat what I put in front of him and not eat other stuff. I'm very jealous of him to be honest!

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11/10/12 1:46 P

The best thing you can do is take care of yourself...seeing you become healthy, and seeing you as an example of someone who can set a weight-loss target and actually meet it will have the best chance to inspire him to come along with you on the journey.

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11/10/12 11:46 A

I think the idea of starting a spark account for him is a good one, even if he doesn't use it.

But, I think the biggest piece of advice I can give is to let him do it himself.... don't try to be bossy or tell him what to do or nag him if you see him eating cookies. Keep healthy food around, cook healthy dinners, but in the end it has to come from him.

For example, my BF is trying to quit chew. He's fallen off the wagon many times, but I never say anything. Chances are he probably already feels crappy that he caved, so he doesn't need me bugging him about it either. I just encourage him when he tells me he hasn't chewed in a whole day or 2 days or whatever.

So basically, be positive and encouraging when he's doing right, but don't say much when he's doing wrong :)

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11/10/12 11:35 A

My b/f is going to start the Walk off Weight program with me. I have recently started cooking healthier and providing healthy food in general for the entire family. He wants to quit smoking and get healthier. But he has not been physically active (in the sense of working out) for years. But he is very knowledgeable and has a lot of muscle already. He just needs to lose some weight. My questions is how can I help him stay motivated, be helpful, things of that nature for him? Also I am clueless as far as calories, fat and other things for men, well frankly b/c I'm not one and have never looked into this before. I was thinking about starting a sparkpeople account from him hoping that would help me have the right numbers for him. Does he need more protein? Any help would be greatly appreciated. I'm clueless as far as weight loss/ healthy for men! But really excited that he is going to be joining me!!!! :)

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