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NGCHILD SparkPoints: (98,784)
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10/7/13 1:44 P

I like my phone too but there is a time and a place. My sister and her family just started the "No phone Tuesday nights". Seems crazy but it is working for them. I could go on and on about why this is good and why it's ridiculous but times are changing. I am on my phone all the time. Email, texting, reading books, making lists for the market, shopping, SPARK, logging my fitbit minutes, etc. There is very little my phone doesn't do. It's rude to be on the phone when in social situations, dinner with friends, meetings, etc for pleasure. It's quite another to be using it for work.

Like I said, times are changing. Do I miss the days pre-cell phone? Yes, sometimes. LOL.

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10/7/13 1:33 P

DBRATLIFF78, I see what you're saying, but it pretty much started with the phones. I used to take the train a lot, and back when phones were just phones, people would talk loudly on them while riding the train. It's super annoying to say the least. If they weren't so self-absorbed, they'd have some consideration for their fellow passengers.

I do think they are great in emergencies and for long distance. I don't even have a land line anymore because it's cheaper for me to do my talking on a cellphone. I just think people are more self-absorbed in general and that technology isn't helping. :)

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10/7/13 12:39 A

I understand your point, but I do also see the need for cell phones. Perhaps it is not the cell phones which have made us anti-social and self-absorbed, but all the perks of the latest gadgets. Why is it really so important to let everyone on facebook know where I am eating and who I am with?!?

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10/6/13 11:02 P

I get very frustrated with the lack of manners regarding cellphones. I will call people out on their incessant phone-checking when we are in social situations like dining out. I once told a friend who was texting frequently during dinner that I could have stayed home and saved money by eating at home alone, as it seemed I was eating alone anyway. People get offended, but too bad. I find their behavior offensive. I can understand if there is something urgent, but most of the time, there isn't. What, besides an emergency, is so important that it can't wait an hour until we finish dinner?

Talking on the phone during dinner also drives me nuts. If you have to take a call, get up from the table and let everyone else who isn't attached at the hip to their phone enjoy the dinner.

I don't attend many meetings, but when I do, everyone seems to be on a tablet, phone or other device. I think overall, people are rude. It's sad to have to tell people to put away their phones during a meeting. Really? Are we all 12? Do people just not have common sense?

I think cellphones have made us more anti-social and self-absorbed.

Edited by: PTREE15 at: 10/6/2013 (23:03)
FENWAYGIRL18 Posts: 5,855
10/2/13 10:30 P

It's very sad how phones have made people anti social, they don't even know how to act anymore and talk to real people. I hate cell phones, they are desensitising people no wonder why this world is a mess and no one seems to care about their neighbors.
And at schools they are the perfect tool for bullying, I really do think enough is enough god and I hate it when someone is backing out of a spot and they think they can talk and drive at the same time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


UMBILICAL Posts: 11,777
10/2/13 9:34 P

Luv my phone

LADYCJM SparkPoints: (32,392)
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10/2/13 9:31 P

Wow, today beat it all! I was told that I was RUDE for FLUSHING while she was TALKING!

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (101,558)
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10/2/13 6:31 P

I just tell my friends not to text while I am speaking to them right in person....I call them out on it each and every time as it is rude.

DADOFSPARKGAL Posts: 453
10/1/13 3:32 P

I gave my wife her own special ring tone on my iPhone. If that isn't true love, I don't know what is....

ROCCOSGRAMMIE Posts: 1,178
10/1/13 2:17 P

We have always had dinner at the table no t.v. etc., so our daughter and I were out having dinner, she noticed a family of 5...Mom, Dad and 3 children my guess ages 5 up to 10. She said isn't that so sad. Nobody was talking everyone was on an electronic device. Tablets and cell phones. So our family values of dinner conversation is sticking with her.

RIET69 SparkPoints: (47,087)
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10/1/13 10:57 A

I too believe we need some etiquette lessons when it comes to cell phone use. I have been in some situations that were absolutely rude.

PATTIJOHNSON Posts: 2,075
10/1/13 10:27 A

I always keep my cool and fake patience around people who can't stay off their phone long enough to have a short conversation with me. That includes the kids. I'm like the insurance guy on the commercial who throws the teen driver's keys as far as he can though. Sometimes I wish I had the guts to reach over, grab a person's phone and throw it away when they can't shut it off or at least mute it when it rings! I am very wary of how annoying this can be, so I usually tell others out loud that I am shutting my phone off so we won't be interrupted (and hope that they do the same).

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 13,706
9/30/13 3:20 P

I don't like it when I am talking to someone and they are staring at their phone.

I put my phone away at the dinner table and while out with my family.



MISSSVJS Posts: 524
9/30/13 2:50 P

I think it's rude, rude, rude - very few people in this world are so important that they can't turn the danged "smart" phone off in order to have a nice, quiet dinner, or meeting, or whatever the case may be without being interrupted. We survived just fine 25 years ago without cell phones, text messages, twitter, facebook, etc. and we can survive just fine for a couple of hours without them as well. If there is truly some sort of emergency (and it better be live or death) they will find a way to reach me! I personally have what I call a "dumb" phone - I only recently had text messaging turned on and that was simply because that is how my employer notifies us if the building is being closed for the day or a delayed start time. I too don't have a data plan, don't access the internet with it - I use it for its intended purpose - making and receiving a phone call now and then! One of my biggest annoyances, however, is people walking down the sidewalk trying to text and walk - I will refuse to get out of their way; if they can't watch where they are going, they can run into me!

Whenever we have a family dinner, my 79-year-old mother insists that everyone leave their cell phones turned off and away from the dinner table and if someone disobeys that "order" they will suffer from that "mom look" and be admonished in front of everyone. I love it!

TIG123GER SparkPoints: (76,906)
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9/30/13 10:27 A

I so agree with your assessment of people. I am sick of sitting at a table of people and all of them are staring at a phone. My phone is a phone to make calls with only - I have texting blocked and don't have a data plan so can't check email or play games. If I'm getting together with people I am doing so to visit and catch up with them and have a good conversation not watch them piddle on their phones. But, I also think technology in general has contributed to this decline. Too much computer time. Too many video games. People don't know how to sit down and actually have a civilized conversation because they do too much stuff solo. I see it with the kids at school - they don't know how to properly interact with others because they never wrote letters or read real books or had to talk to other people. It's really sad but I don't see it getting better any time soon.

OBIESMOM2 SparkPoints: (61,723)
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9/30/13 10:24 A

as far as the meeting scenario - the manager (or whoever called the meeting) should tell the participants that cell phones are NOT to be used during the meeting. Put your phone on SILENT, and unless you have a personal or business emergency, no cell phone usage. If there is an emergency, leave the meeting to take care of the situation.

DH and I were out one night and noticed 2 young couples sharing a booth across from us. All 4 were texting the entire time. We wondered if they were texting each other across the table...maybe it's been so long that they've actually spoken, that's the only way they know how to communicate?

MATTHEW0498 SparkPoints: (31,713)
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9/30/13 9:47 A

It is extremely annoying when you are talking to someone and they keep checking their phone. Now if they say, "I am waiting on an important call or text" that is one thing, but to just text with others while speaking to someone is rude.

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9/29/13 11:21 P

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It"s funny how people are all seated at a table in a restaurant and most os them are talking on their cell instead of to the people who are with them .

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9/29/13 10:40 P

Here, here! I found this and wanted to share: Listen to "Cats In The Cradle" by Harry Chapin, maybe, it'll help those who do this give it a second thought! emoticon
BTW: IF you don't or are not familiar with the song, "google" it on your cell! emoticon

Edited by: SUNSET09 at: 9/29/2013 (22:44)
LOLA_LALA Posts: 659
9/29/13 10:37 P

A suggestion to rude people who allow their addictive relationship with their cell phone to take precedence to live human interaction: Look up "manners" in the dictionary, put the damned thing away, and THEN we will talk!

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9/29/13 10:34 P

I agree with ARCHIMEDESII, however, feel the same that if you're out with me, your cell phone is to be turned off. Nothing is more important than spending quality time with your friends and family. We have been so connected with not just cell phones, the Internet, Ipads, Iphones, Knooks whatever it may be. I, too would walk away and do a Les Brown move. We're becoming so immune and think it's okay and it's not. We leave the door wide open for pedophiles and teen pregnancies because we do not spend time with our children and let the TV and Internet entertain and raise them instead of being the parent/s the need. I could go on, but you get my drift. Some calls are important, however, excuse yourself and realize that someone is right there waiting on YOU.
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Edited by: SUNSET09 at: 9/29/2013 (22:34)
TEEPHOTO SparkPoints: (35,014)
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9/29/13 10:20 P

Motivational speaker Les Brown used to have a radio show and I can remember laughing so hard at a story he told.
He went out to lunch with a friend and the kept either talking on the phone or texting. He tried to get their attention but they kept doing the same things. He excused himself from the table, left the restaurant, got in his car and split.
Later the friend asked him about it and he told them that if he wanted to eat by himself, he could have stayed home and so, he went home since he was actually doing it anyway.

AKACATE Posts: 903
9/29/13 8:52 P

I love my cell phone...but it will NEVER take the place (for me) of a face to face conversation with a friend or family member. Unfortunately, not all my friends or family members feel the same way. :(

EXOTEC Posts: 3,220
9/29/13 8:47 P

I just hate cell phones. I have one (per my husband), but I never turn it on unless I'm using it, which is very rarely. I agree to their usefulness as emergency devices. But I don't need (or want) a wire in my head 24/7. I don't want an electronic leash.

I cannot understand people who engage in social interaction (restaurants, for example) and then sit the whole time talking with someone on their cell phone. Why bother to be with the human in front of you? go be with whoever it is you seem to want to talk to instead. Or, better yet - go be "with" that person and instead sit on your cell with this one. The crazy thing is when BOTH people at the table are on their cell phones. What's the point of spending money on a shared experience when you're not sharing it? or sharing it with someone else? No better way to say, I'm throwing money at you, but I don't want to be with you. I'd rather be with this person I'm on the phone with. How incredibly insulting and demeaning.

It's also confusing and annoying to me to have someone approach me in what *I* perceive as a "conversation." I was raised to believe that when someone speaks to you, you should show at least a bare minimum of civility to listen and speak back. With the advent of little cellphone earpieces, I can't tell if someone is talking to me or not. I stop, and try to figure out do I know them? are they talking to me? and then I get a glare as if I'm intruding on their lives. Pardon me. I was trying to be polite!

As for landline phones when I was growing up? Well, no. I used the phone for a specific purpose, and then ended the call. I wasn't allowed, nor was I inclined, to sit on the phone and chit-chat for hours. Perhaps this had to do with the fact that my father was a doctor; incoming calls were potentially *important*. Not just yak-yak. You want to talk to friends? go visit them.

I am a certified old f*rt now. I readily acknowledge it. Not only do I acknowledge it... I think I revere it. A different time? yes. No doubt. I don't regret it a bit.

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9/29/13 6:49 P

I keep it put away whenimout. I was embarrassed by my s-l-o-w phone the ther day when I was trying to get some information for my friend. I only brought it for an emergency otherwise.

LOUIE-LILY Posts: 2,141
9/29/13 6:25 P

Rude, Rude, Rude!!!!

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9/29/13 6:13 P

I think it's sad that you can even go to dinner or outing and everybody is texting. My husband has a bad habit of doing that, and the last couple of times I just go up and walked away. It was an eye opener for him when I did that to him. He will now turn off his phone when we are out or home at the dinner table. Face to face conversations have gone by the waist side in this day and age. I'm am one of those people who can live without a cellphone.

Edited by: FITWITHIN at: 9/29/2013 (18:15)
SIMONEKP Posts: 2,525
9/29/13 4:37 P

I'm in a few of those groups, sorry

KJFITNESSDUDE Posts: 15,787
9/29/13 4:08 P

Lol! I just keep talking when they're checking their phone or I'll ask them who are they texting and should they say it's none of my business I'll end the conversation. Of course I don't really want to know who they're talking to but I do it just to kinda give them a reminder that I'm there.
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STEELER71 Posts: 5,697
9/29/13 5:23 A


I went to an hypnosis class hoping he would help me with my sleeping problem. I was just feeling myself going under when the lady in front of me didn't turn off her cell phone and it came on playing this God awful music. That did it for me. I couldn't get the feeling back again. She didn't apologize to the class. She said she was waiting for a call for an interview for a job.

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9/29/13 4:50 A

In my ballet class on Thursday, a woman turned up with her yappy dog and tied it to the radiator! The teacher said the dog would have to go, the woman said "Well you can either have hi quiet in here with me or yapping outside"

Notice the way the dog is now the teacher's problem (I'm getting to the phone, be patient...)

Eventually the selfish creature left her dog with the ladies in the office downstairs (as if they don't have anything else to do) and rejoined the class. But she kept her phone turned on, sending and receiving texts during the class. A ballet class!

A woman was texting in a concert at the Royal Academy of Music last week!

JBALDWIN29 SparkPoints: (58,064)
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9/28/13 10:24 P

Cell phones are a bother and should not be allowed in restaurants.

EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
9/28/13 9:14 P

I think cell phones have increased my personal connectivity and the organization of my life, so to me it is no big deal if people check their phones when spending time with me. I just use the time to check mine, then reconnect with the person I am with.

If this went on during our whole lunch or meeting or whatever, then that would be aggravating and I would not want to spend much time with that person.

Lol, I have a friend who does that wandering around and doing things while talking and I don't mind. Sometimes she just forgets I am on the phone and clicks off. I don't really mind that either, think it is funny.



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9/28/13 5:43 P

I agree that "multi tasking" is a big part of the problem. Interestingly, studies have found that we don't really multitask, that we serial task. And that we are less efficient then we think we are when we try to do two or more things at one time. It also increases our stress levels.

I also think many of us are so addicted to our phones that we would rather leave the house naked than without our phones! We have become so accustomed to the constant entertainment that we are lost without the constant stimulation.

I remember as a teen having limits put on our phone time. You couldn't talk after certain hours or at dinner time. Now you see entire families on their phones, completely ignoring each other.
It's really very sad, as well as rude, that we can't turn our phones off to spend time with friends, attend a wedding or a funeral or just be in the moment.



GONNALOSE5 Posts: 975
9/28/13 5:30 P

I agree with this statement.

KKKAREN SparkPoints: (214,785)
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9/28/13 4:30 P

I think the cell phone has made our life harder not easier. People who are constantly checking for calls, texts and emailing are missing out on my valuable time and not getting a chance to unwind. Bosses didn't get a hold of us all hours of the night in the old days they couldn't reach us while we were away from home. Giving everyone some much needed down time. I have friends that come to visit me and spend all their time playing with there phones. It drives me crazy, I think I'll implement a no phone zone in my house!

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,086
9/28/13 3:50 P

If the person I'm with thinks that everyone who calls them should get their attention then I don't see the need to waste my time being there....
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RUBENB2003 Posts: 10,886
9/28/13 3:48 P

I try very hard not to check my phone when I am with company but I always wonder if that text/message is important. If I can overcome that I will be more polite company.

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9/28/13 3:42 P

LADY,

I don't think the problem is with the use of cell phones per se. While, I do agree that they are overly used and abused, the problem is really multitasking. They're trying to do multiple jobs at the same time and the cell phone allows them to do it.

Of course, we can complain that kids are constantly on their cell phones either talking or texting. but the fact is, weren't we the same way as teens ? Weren't we constantly on the phone talking to our friends ? Cell phones are just the newest invention to make our lives easier.

Look at the TV set. How many people complained the TV was the cause of lack of social skills ? Technology has caused people to disconnect. How to cope ? If a person you're talking to seems to be more interested in talking to the person on the cell phone, then walk away. Obviously, you're not important enough for the call to wait. if it's a business call, they should excuse themselves and say it's business or an important family call.

Most times, I feel people really should turn off their phones. It's just another distraction. And I think people have lost their social skills. No one seems to be able to talk to each other anymore.



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9/28/13 3:19 P

I always wonder what the cell phone people will do when they don't have them due to the satellite failure or another malfunction.



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9/28/13 3:13 P

It seems that cell phones are taking over the world! And people are forgetting that the person in front of them is the one they should be paying attention to.
I go out with a couple of different groups.

Group one checks phones till everyone is accounted for, then they sit on the table pretty much ignored. Nice group to hang out with. We have great conversations!

Group two seems to live on their phones and are constantly checking them. I feel that it has reached the point of being rude. Conversation is limited and disjointed and I've started limiting my contact with them. They want to know why. When I say it's because of the phones and the lack of conversation they laugh and say I'm over sensitive.

Group 3, is actually a single person, who calls me, then gets busy with stuff around her house and talking to her husband. She loses track of our conversation and makes comments to him that derail our talk. I've begun ending the call with the comment that oh, you seem busy. I'll talk to you later and hanging up.

Group 4, I have no control over. At work, in meetings, it seems half the people are on their phones checking e mail etc. Then they ask to have something repeated. Meetings that could have been over in 15 minutes drag on because they aren't really there.

Do you have these people in your life? How do you deal with them? Especially group 4?

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