Not to sound cold hearted...He is making is own decisions. Now you have to make yours. Get help for yourself. Like mentioned below find a support group or seek individual therapy/counseling. You have to make yourself a priority to yourself. I know it is hard to watch him. I know it is devastating. I am married to someone who has Bipolar w/Psychosis. It's a hard road to travel. However, you got to take care of you.