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DAVIDR1450 Posts: 140
3/22/12 2:05 P

Pay overt attention to his belly. Tell him it's cute and makes him look cuddly. Poke it ... alot.

3/5/12 9:04 A

thanks again for letting me disturb your man cave. i'll leave you gentlemen to it. take care

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3/5/12 12:30 A

Yeah, the only person you can really control is yourself. You sound like you are doing a good job at that so you are at least setting the example for him to follow if he wants to really do it.

3/4/12 6:24 P

thanks gravel ridge. i figure it's a control thing. this is new territory for me. i'm a personal responsibilty girl. i own my goods and i own my bads. in attempt to be supportive, i eat a diabetic friendly diet. i probably eat more diabetic friendly than the damn diabetic. it's frustrating, but all i can do is be supportive and leave it alone.

i have 3 kids of my own that are almost grown. i'm not trying to be some grown man's momma.

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3/4/12 5:52 P

If your guy has diabetes and is still sneaking fast food I would think there is an emotional problem there. If I am not going to do a diet I will tell you I am not doing it, but to tell you that I would do the diet and then sneak food is wrong and might be the bigger problem. I am not one for talking about my feelings but I have seen on those Biggest Loser shows how talking about the problems helps solve some things like sneaking food. Just a thought...

3/4/12 5:33 P

this is a great forum and exactly what i was looking for. my guy is 42 and got the belly going. developed diabetes and still tries to eat like the college football player he was 20 yrs ago. i try to encourage, cook right, i work out 3 - 4 times a week. i know he sneaks fast food and other things. i'm worried for his health and sometimes i feel like he is acting out like a rebellous teenager.
it was not enough of a wake up call when he found out that he has diabetes. i know that no one wants to have diabetes, but when you do it's time to get serious before you get a big ass wakeup call.

dude guidance please.

HERE2BME Posts: 2,461
2/10/12 11:35 A

He is all in for losing the weight. He has lost about 10 lbs so far. I just want to try to keep him on that track in case he starts to slide. I do not need to lose weight, but I continue to try to improve my fitness. I hope he wants the same at some point. It took me a long time to get to my new frame of mind and I just want to make it easier for him than it was for me because I was all alone (except SP) in my quest.

FYI - He is not getting a new boat motor just for the fact we no longer have a boat! Don't need him wanting a new boat to go along with his new motor! emoticon

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2/10/12 3:57 A

All guys are going to respond to different things. If he wants you to lose the weight then you can use that also, let him know that if he was losing with you then it would be easier for you to lose the weight. Some people use rewards, like if he gets down to fitting in those old jeans he use to be able to wear then he can go buy that boat motor he has had his eye on or something like

Basically you need to talk to him and see what he wants to do...If he does not want to lose weight then there is not much you can do...

HERE2BME Posts: 2,461
2/9/12 5:49 P

Thanks guys so much! I want to encourage him, not be pushy. Thanks so much for the good advice and know that it will be used!

emoticon Thank you

2/9/12 3:12 P


That's it. Help him make this a habit.

A habit is formed by a culmination of these three things:
Why to do
What to do
How to do

He needs to understand WHY he should exercise and eat right. The more he reads about the benefits of eating and exercising regularly the more knowledge he'll have and knowledge is powerful.

Then he needs to read up on HOW to eat right and exercise. Too often well meaning folks know why they need to do something but have no idea on what to do. Again, the more he reads the more he'll know what to do.

Lastly, the implementation of of HOW to do an exercise or make a healthy food choice. Does he know how many calories he should eat? Here's a start:

Does he know how to make a basic weightlifting routine?

All three of these things help form a habit and once a habit is established then no extrinsic motivation is needed, it's all intrinsic.

TRYING16 Posts: 112
2/9/12 2:45 P

You want Male honesty so here goes.
I dont know what kind of shape he's in so I dont have a reference for where he is and where he needs to get to so my advice will range depending on that. Encouragement is great, might not be enough though.If he makes or has made obvious progress compliment him, and compliment him in front of your girlfriends. Mention that you are more attracted to him and cant wait to do this and that in the bedroom... I know its primal, but your trying to connect with the primal part of his brain so that he works out hard and attracts his woman.
If he isn't motivated by physical intimacy innuendo's get his testosterone levels checked

Edited by: TRYING16 at: 2/9/2012 (14:46)
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2/9/12 2:15 P

Compliment him every once in a while about what a good job he's doing. Take notice when pants are looser, or if he has more energy to play with the kids (if you have them) and just be positive about it. You could also try cooking healthy meals together. My wife and I do that. Not only is it something that we can do together, but it's fun trying new healthy meals.

"You are looking good! Keep up the good work."

BBBLED Posts: 35
2/8/12 5:53 P

Just be honest. Tell him that. Ask him what to do to keep him motivated. Remember he has to want this for himself.

HERE2BME Posts: 2,461
2/8/12 5:30 P

My husband has been trying to workout and eat better and is doing great. What I am looking for is pointers on keeping him this way. I want to motivate him without it seem like nagging, etc. Any advice is appreciated!

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