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10/14/13 6:37 A

Feeling more motivated and hopeful! Thanks

ETHELMERZ Posts: 19,733
10/12/13 9:36 P

Sometimes it helps to not look at the total you "want to lose", try for smaller increments, and don't eat so little that you are not comfortable and want to quit. Heck, you can try for 17 lbs. or 23 or 27, it doesn't have to be an even number all the time, what is it with diets anyway? A magazine won't write about someone who lost 99 lbs., only if they lost 100. Are you enjoying the exercise you are doing, perhaps if you make that fun, keeping that going will help you mentally. At least you do understand that most average people go through these same mental issues, because dieting isn't fun, maybe joining a group of like minded friends would help?

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10/12/13 8:33 P

Thank you for the input. I think I've been trying to do this without asking myself the questions! Guess it's time to start sorting some of that out....

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10/12/13 8:30 P

I do use the nutrition tracker, but I'm still figuring out the "tech" part of some parts of spark people. Thanks for your encouragement and the suggestions. I'll take time to take a look! I think I play the game with myself of "I'm going to fail, so why even try." I keep fighting that - it just came back on strong when I hit the ten lb. point. I'm trying to ignore the scale and just keep doing what I know is the healthy thing to do.
Thanks again!

ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (73,365)
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10/12/13 11:16 A

As Yogi Beara (baseball guru) once said, "90% of this game is half mental."

As others have said, you need to do some mental work to figure out why you keep sabataging yourself. Most of us have our deep-seated reasons for being significantly overweight, and until we address them, we will always struggle with losing that weight and maintaining a healthy lifestyle/weight.

I found over the last few years, that I have a continual need to work on the psychological issues. That kind of work is not the kind of thing you do "once and then you are done." It needs to be an ongoing part of your plan/journey to health.

Another thing that helps me when I get stuck is to spend a weekend having a "spa retreat at home." I spend the weekend eating VERY light, exercise a little more, reflecting on my choices, etc. Sometimes, that helps me get back on track.

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (247,274)
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10/12/13 3:59 A

Hi - I went to check your Nutrition Tracker, but if you use it, it isn't on show.

Below are some links which may be of help:

Apart from the above, you mention that you seem 'afraid to keep losing' - perhaps it is time to find our WHY you are afraid so that you can deal with it. If you can't figure it out, then it might be a good idea to talk with your Dr who will be able to refer you to a Therapist who specializes in these issues.


Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 10/12/2013 (04:12)
LADYCJM SparkPoints: (57,456)
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10/11/13 11:26 P

Figuring out the psych issues involved with our bodies is hard. It sounds like it's time to have a talk with yourself! :) Are you afraid to be thin? Are you afraid that someone will hurt you or leave you or not love you? Only you can answer that question!

Is food your way of comforting yourself? Do you have other ways of dealing with emotions?

Is there a nagging voice in your head telling you that you will fail? That you deserve to be fat?

It can help to do a mental review of your life looking at food and emotional events and the people involved. Did Daddy say you were his cute little chubby monkey? Did Mom tell you that you eat too much or feed you every time someone hurt your feelings?

Being a healthy weight would be so much easier if food and our emotions were not so closely linked.

Good luck figuring it out.

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10/11/13 7:29 P

I need to lose 30 pounds, but I seem to lose 10 pounds and then get stuck and start back up. I seem afraid to keep losing! Any suggestions?

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