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MAMA_CD Posts: 1,507
2/7/14 8:01 P

Enjoy the attention, it doesn't last forever, after a while they'll just think that your new weight is normal and they won't draw attention to it anymore. emoticon on your success!

IVYLASS SparkPoints: (212,844)
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2/7/14 3:17 P

Just smile and say, "Thank you, I've worked hard."

CAPTATHLETICA SparkPoints: (3,771)
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2/2/14 11:50 A

Hey everyone, Thanks for the replies they're greatly appreciated. I'm taking it easy now and just not taking the comments in a bad way. You're right MaMaad - If I eat normally which is healthy they talk about it, and if I have a day where I feel like an old regular cheeseburger they talk about it. I've even had some people accuse me of starving myself and doing drugs to lose the weight. Like seriously? Just because I have dedication and put 100% into my diet/exercise routine doesn't mean I am a drug head, that just means you're too lazy to do it yourself! Everyone is always looking for an easy way out and then when I tell them I get up at 6am every day to exercise, they're immediately turned off from the idea. They think I just flippin lay in bed all day and magically lose weight. Ah it's frustrating!

I've had lots of female attention now when I used to be ignored. That's a great thing now lol. It feels great. I'm just going to focus on everything positive that I am gaining on this journey and learn to appreciate the genuine comments that people give to me.

MAMAADJUSTE SparkPoints: (1,179)
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2/2/14 11:39 A

I lost 70 lbs before joining SP and like you just working on those final few. I feel uncomfortable too. If I'm at a gathering I feel all eyes are on my plate. If I eat all healthy ppl comment and if I indulge I hear about that too. I don't mind so much if I haven't seen someone in a while but if I run into them again they always say something like "wow you still look great." That makes me feel like they are just waiting on me to fail and gain all my weight back.

When someone asks how I did it I go all out with details about what I did b/c I assume they want to do the same thing. I've written tons of emails outlining how to do what I did. My advice is ignored and then the same ppl will say I need to lose weight but I have know idea what to do.

Guys used to ignore the fat me and now I get lots of unwanted male attention.

I have no advice on what to say to these ppl that make you uncomfortable bc I'm at a loss of words myself. I just come home and stew over it.

IMDADOGGIE SparkPoints: (42,022)
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2/1/14 10:26 P

Everyone on this site is here because they care about health and weight loss. I think most people have the best of intentions when they ask you your size or how much you weigh. I Personally understand that is hard to share some of this information with people but I think you should look at it as a positive experience. You may feel like you need to defend yourself because you are used to doing this when you had weight to lose. I am not going to judge you but take this load off your back and don't worry what anyone thinks. You have to live with you. I am happy for your success. I am still working on mine and I have a very long way to go. Stay positive it will change your life and make you incredibly happy. Good luck

CTHCTH1 Posts: 103
2/1/14 9:01 P

I don't think I have to answer a question just because someone asks it.
Some of the questions you are being asked I personally find invasive. I don't believe it is anyone's business what I weigh or what size I wear at any point in my life - unless they want to buy me clothes. Then I'll gladly give them my size! My suggestion is that perhaps you may want to look at what your boundaries are with others regarding size, weight, physical appearance, etc. It may be that some people are stepping over them? Not necessarily from any bad motive, just that some people are genuinely pleased for you and may not know how to express that.
No one ever told me that along with a new me would come the need for new skills within myself and with others. As I am losing I am finding I have to make readjustments to many areas of my life. It's not all about the scale.
I love hearing that you are proud of yourself. It sounds like you have done a lot of hard work. The most important thing is how you feel about yourself. I'm glad you are happy with yourself.

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (192,905)
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2/1/14 3:13 P


We are so used to people criticizing us for something that when we receive a genuine compliment, we are at a loss for words. You know what the best reply is ? It's thank you. Thank you, I've worked hard to learn to take care of my body. Once people adjust to seeing the change, you'll notice those compliments taper off. So, I highly recommend enjoying each and everyone of those compliments because you really did earn every single one of them.

People are going to ask questions. It's okay to be honest. Tell them that you really did work hard to achieve those changes.

Here's one thing that I've learned from my own weight loss journey. Our body changes a lot faster than our head. It's going to take time for your head to also adjust to your body. When it does, you'll start feeling better about yourself. that's what they never tell you in the diet books. they never tell you that no matter how much weight you lose, some days, you still feel like a fat person instead a lean body. Be patient, change takes time from the inside out.

EELPIE Posts: 2,700
2/1/14 9:55 A

People are noticing and commenting on how good you have done, and rightly so!! :)

Since it makes you uncomfortable, when they ask how you did it, simply say "diet and exercise, and a lot of hard work". Ha ha, most people lose interest after hearing the words "hard work" anyway.

The best you can do is politely change the subject.

At the end of the day, you did a great job, and people are just impressed!

CAPTATHLETICA SparkPoints: (3,771)
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2/1/14 8:55 A

I have an anxiety disorder, so I believe it might be that I just do not like drawing attention to myself. Like I said I'm very happy with myself and that people notice, I just don't like hearing about it I guess? lol

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (237,507)
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1/31/14 10:26 P

Perhaps it is because you may have been overweight for a long time, and so this is a new aspect of life you haven't had before. It could also be that you might be a shy sort of person who doesn't like attention being focused on you, regardless of the reason/situation??? I never felt uncomfortable about comments like that. I actually relished them :-)

Kris xxx

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1/31/14 10:03 P

I have lost a ton of weight and totally transformed my body. Yes I am very proud and happy about it, and still working for the last few pounds to come off. Everywhere I go though people are always talking about it and it makes me very uncomfortable. "OMG is that Gabe? He looks so good! What's your secret? How much do you weigh? What size clothes do you wear? What do you eat? You're so skinny!" it goes on and on. I know you might be thinking "I'd love to hear that" and I thought I would too, but it has me feeling uncomfortable when people talk about me and how different I look.

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