Thanks for the update. I don't think anyone was trying to be negative out of malice, just concern. And it makes sense you are craving sugar. Your body was used to processing all of those simple carbs from alcohol. Try to focus on fruit and whole grains to help you get through it. It will get better. Congrats on your positive changes. I'm sure you will continue to feel better and better.
I decided I should give an update. The past 3 weekends have been a success! One glass of wine per weekend for the first two, and a few beers while watching the game this weekend that just past.
I appreciate everyone's help and support, although I do feel some people had more negative responses than positive reinforcement, it has helped me to slow down and take the drinking excessively more seriously.
From a 29 year old that likes to party and go clubbing...and has numerous friends who either are very good at pacing themselves or aren't at all and become a huge concern by the next morning; some blunt advice:
At 25 years old you're getting too old to act like this.
I got a friend who is 31, likes to pretend she's 18 get's too drunk, too surly and primiscuous and in the end she just looks pathetic and much older than her years. Thankfully she has us who can do our best to keep her from acting even more foolish.
Pace yourself and try to consider drinking (wine especially) in a more sophisticated fashion and have fun with less, and if your friends won't go along with that...then they are the ones with a problem.
When I was 25, I started toning down my wild ways as well. I cut back on the drinking (and other stuff). As with everything in life, pretty much everything is okay...in moderation. I allow myself to drink when I want to, but not to the point of excess. If it makes you sick...you've reached excess.
So, just start recording how many calories you're taking in with the "booze." You might be shocked at how much it is truly derailing you. At the same time, be happy, live your life, have fun!
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I know you are young but this has to stop before something else happens. I used to do it too & then I got a job, got married & had a family. Try one drink & then a glass of water before the next drink. This should help some. You are a beautiful girl & I hope this is just a phase. Soon you will have much more to do than drink a lot. It's OK to unwind but remember that's what it is & not to drink till you pass out. Hope this is not too preachy!
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One of my best friends is an alcoholic, just over 1 year sober.
It's not about the calories, it's your attitude that binge drinking 2 bottles of wine at a time is OK. I partied a lot in my 20s too and spent my fair share of nights sleeping in the bathtub, but I always knew when to stop.
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BEECHKA - I am not going to comment on your drinking where it comes to your weight because you realize it is a LOT of calories. I will however comment on drinking - as in binge drinking, BUT I don't want you to think I am being overly critical or judgmental, because I am not - I am merely very concerned.
My late husband was a binge drinker. Initially it was just week-ends, and on a par with the amount you were drinking, but in beer. In time it got to be a little bit more, and then a little more frequent, altho' he was still a binge-drinker. Then he went to wine. Apart from the social effect his drinking had on him - after many years of drinking but NOT at work, he started to drink at work, and then eventually lost his job in his mid-50's. He also had many car accidents as a direct result of alcohol - and many other accidents - like falling down steps etc. He landed in hospital many times because of them. He also developed a lot of other health issues which would land him in hospital. Now the alcohol/health issues didn't start to affect him until he was in his 40's. He had always been VERY active and fit, but that doesn't count for diddly squat where it comes to alcohol and smoking (he was also a heavy smoker!) His alcohol consumption ended up with him having black-outs - not passing out per se, but not remembering what he did or said - and he could get quite abusive, unfortunately to me. The only way he would believe it was because I taped one of his episodes and played it back to him when he was sober, AND it was an appropriate time. When he heard himself and the diatribe coming out of his mouth he was so stunned and embarrassed. He had no idea!
Anyway, his lifestyle ended up costing him his life. He had had 3 prior heart attacks and many other health issues which alcohol considerably aggravated. The 4th heart attack finally took his life - just before Xmas, at the age of 59.
When he was younger he was always blase about his drinking, and used the excuses "I'm just having a good time!" OR, "I'm relaxing" OR "Everyone does it!" Then in time it became "I do it because I feel good" or "I had a bad day", and there would be many other comments. Then it finally became "I do it because I can't stop!" He admitted to being an alcoholic and received help for it, but that help - various medications and therapy - didn't help! Alcohol had gotten too strong a grip on him. It also cost him a HUGE amount of money. We worked out a few years ago that with his drinking and smoking over a period of 23 years, we could have paid cash for our brand new house instead of having to get a mortgage for most of it. Think what you could do with the money you saved by not drinking. Believe me, I USED to drink, but stopped 37 years ago, and I KNOW that you can have a real good time without it, even when others are drinking. I also remember the strong hangovers lasting a couple days. I have seen many people (girls/women) suffer the consequences of alcohol, too - even just a LITTLE bit too much - unwanted pregnancies and STD's, and sometimes it was just someone that they had just met. Without the alcohol they weren't promiscuous.
Focus on the dancing! Back in the day, when i went clubbing (my gosh seems a lifetime ago, well, i guess it really is lol), we were such broke girls we never could afford the drinks in the clubs and bars, we'd buy one drink apiece (pear cider, lots of volume especially when served over ice), just to keep the wait staff off our backs, and nurse it as long as possible, while dancing and partying the night away.
Now, this approach might or might not work for you. If you are used to "binge drinking" then you might find locations such as "bars and clubs" to be a trigger for drinking, and stopping at just one might not be a realistic option. In which case, as others have suggested, you might wish to take a hard look at just how "fun" this lifestyle is compared to what it is costing you.
I think you need to reread your post and be brutally honest with yourself.
Your claim. "I am a very healthy girl. ... I exercise daily and eat very healthy!"
But you write: "I do binge drink (2 btls of wine is no problem for this girl) once a week. ...when I do this my eating and exercise gets derailed for days! "
So when are you healthy? When you are binge drinking? When you are NOT eating and exercising right for days because you are recovering?
There are 7 days in a week. I count 3 or 4 lost to binge drinking and it's aftermath. That is NOT healthy.
You really need to stop this behavior. It has nothing to do with weight. Your tolerance for alcohol is actually at a really high level and should be worrisome for you. Even if you only drink once a week, if you cannot control it once you start or it interferes with your life (which it is), you may have a problem. If you cannot stop this unhealthy behavior on your own, please seek professional help.
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I'm going to guess that part of the issue is that your friends drink heavily too on these nights out, and you tend to have a drink shoved in your hand every time yours is empty - I know that drill, I experienced it in my early 20s as well. Here's how I got around it - DRINK SLOWER. No one's going to notice if you're on your first glass of wine or your fifth if there's a half-full drink in your hand, and the half-full drink means no one's going to bother you with the "why aren't you drinking?" question. Another trick I used was picking a mixed drink for the night (I personally like vodka seltzers, since they're pretty low calorie), and then, after the first one, quietly asking the bartender to switch me to seltzer only (which is zero calories). It took the attention off of the fact that I was drinking less than my friends, and really, no one noticed that I wasn't as drunk as they were at the end of the night (half the time, I'd have friends complimenting me on how well I held my liquor the next day, when I'd only had one or two actual drinks, because they constantly saw me with a drink in my hand and never realized it was the same drink over and over again, or that it was seltzer).
Ultimately, you need to become comfortable setting your own boundaries and telling people "no" outright when they offer you that second, third, fourth, fifth drink, but some little tricks to stay off the radar of the "omigosh you MUST have a drink" people are helpful while you're working on finding that inner backbone.
I think if you closely read your own post, you know, no one needs to tell you what frequent drinking binges leads to. A few extra pounds is the least that could pile up over time. Listen to yourself and cut it down to a glass or two once in a while.
I've spent my whole life holding an empty coffee (or fillled with coffee) cup at gatherings, including bars, so no one would ask me if I wanted a drink. Anyone who pushes the issue and encourages another to drink is not the kind of person I'd want to hang with personally. I am so grateful to have such good friends and family who always seem to know; a cup in the hand means, don't ask! The responsibility to say, no, is mine. Having good freinds who "get it" is icing on the cake. Good luck and good health!
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If I were in your shoes, I would ask myself: how does binge drinking contribute to anything good in my life? If you can put away 2 bottles now, what will you be consuming five/ten yrs from now? Trust me - what you can seem to get away with w/ little repercussion at 25, you will not be able to do at 35...or 40, etc. That much drinking will take a physical toll on your insides as well as your looks. To say nothing of other poor decisions that can emanate from such quantities of consumption - least of which may have to do w/ food choices.
When I started my journey here on Sparks, I loved my nightly wine. I was noticing that if I had even slightly too much wine, it led to bad food choices and then, often, more wine, then maybe more bad food choices! To say nothing of how much harder it was to get up at 4:30 to go exercise. Simply put, the wine wasn't helping me - it was hindering me. It certainly was not helping me be at my best. I wondered....would it be hard to give it up? Well, I'm happy to report that it was not! I truly think, for me, it was just getting to be a bad habit, one that fueled more bad habits. I'm so glad I nipped it.
I honestly don't miss it at all and I'd much rather use those extra calories towards real food!
I still will have a cocktail if I feel like it when going out w/ friends but I went from nightly drinking to maybe 6 drinks per year. This, as well as dramatically increasing the veggies, resulted in the easiest and so far most permanent weight loss I've ever had. I feel so blessed to have found what works for me.
I realize you and I are at different life stages (I am double your age) but please, please think about this. With age comes (hopefully) wisdom and you asked for words of wisdom. Maybe my perspective has some wisdom in it for you. By all means enjoy your youth and have fun! But you shouldn't *need* alcohol to do it. There's nothing wrong w/ a glass or two of wine (I am not telling you not to drink), but binge drinking is troubling. If binge drinking is not helping you be at your best, it's time to stop.
You are, in fact, demonstrating wisdom by examining the role alcohol is playing in your life.
Like Nancy said, everything in life comes down to choices. Choose wisely.
Thank you for your comment. I know I need to slow down and moderate my drinking. I think I just needed someone else to kick me in the pants. (also I realized my weight ticker is wine. LOL!)
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It comes down to choices. Alcohol is definitely metabolized by the body in a whole different manner than carbs, protein and fats, so even if you are fairly healthy in the other aspects of your life, drinking too much can cause havoc on your body.
As with anything in life, it comes down to moderation. Having a glass of wine here and there is fine for many people, but 2 bottles, well that is quite a lot of calories. I think you can still party and still have fun even with less wine, but it comes down to what you really want.
I am 25. And I like to party. I do binge drink (2 btls of wine is no problem for this girl) once a week. Usually go out dancing, bars, fun! Problem is when I do this my eating and exercise gets derailed for days! I am a very healthy girl. I exercise daily and eat very healthy! But this is really screwing up my normally healthy lifestyle. I know the common sense answer would be to stop drinking so much. But that's hard to do given where I am in life. Any words of wisdom?
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