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1/26/13 8:16 P

All great advice. The best thing you are doing for her right now is being a role model. NOW GET YOUR HUSBAND ON BOARD. If not for him, for his daughter. Get the junk food out of the house and educate everyone in the house how to stay healthy and fit. Make good tasting but healthy food and they will come. ;-)

1/26/13 8:21 A

We have started talking to our girls about healthy choices. This morning, my 4 year old asked me "Would a bologna & mayo sandwich be a healthy breakfast choice?". We decided that toast with (light) peanut butter on one slice and jam on the other would make a healthier sandwich for breakfast. So that is definitely progress.
I have swapped out things, like light mayo and dressing for the regular, and Wonder Invisibles bread who without them noticing.
I think the "I want a snack, I want a snack" thing is often that they are bored. So we tell them, I think you are bored, go and do something (give them a suggestion), and if you are still hungry in a few minutes we will give you a snack. We are trying to teach them eating is not a hobby that you do because you are bored.

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1/22/13 4:52 P

my oldest is super picky. But he will eat zucchini bread if I make it. Other things are pumpkin muffins, blueberry muffins, banana bread. With some of these, they may seem like a great treat, but are healthier.
I have switched out all my flour for WHITE WHOLE WHEAT flour by King Arthur. Swap out all Oil and use unsweetened applesauce instead. Swap out any sour cream for plain greek yogurt (even used in a cheesecake recipe). I make homemade pancakes and add pumpkin to that as well. I have also done purreed sweet potato in them.
If she likes mashed potatos put in 2/3 potatos, and about 1/3 cauliflower boil and cook, drain and mash like normal.
Sometimes even for myself I just have to MAKE the food a different way. I like more veggies when I use a little olive oil, and garlic herb seasoning and season salt and spray a piece of foil with cooking spray and GRILL THEM on the foil. Some people like light cheese on their broccolli instead of plain, or dip in ranch dressing. Be happy she is getting it in.
My youngest LOVES green apple slices dipped in natural peanut butter. Or banana slices with peanut butter and a few raisins on top. (he's easier to try things)
my kids have now switched to the flavored water (clear) instead of juice or milk.

Good luck. I KNOW It's HARD!!!


TUBJUMPER Posts: 1,181
1/18/13 9:43 P

LOL my oldest DD is the same way with corn. First only off the cobb and now only on the cobb. She is overweight and the doctor told her to lose 20 lbs a couple years ago. She eats only broccoli, BABY carrots, and corn if I make her. She only eats apples, sour green ones usually. She won't eat a banana, orange, nothing!!! When she was younger we would make her try a bite of everything to see if she liked it. It did not go well!!! Today I made her try a tinnie-tiny-tiny piece of pineapple and it took me 2 minutes to make her.

I make dinner and if she don't eat she goes hungry or if hubby is home she gets PB & J.

You could find something active she likes to do. Mine tried weight training in school and likes it. She hates the running but likes everything else. It helps to get them moving. S.P. Teens (?) say not to put them on a "diet" but to get them moving. I do watch my kids sweets, sodas (rarely get any), etc. and now she is policing herself mostly on serving sizes.

If you don't bring the junk food in they can't eat it. Hide the stuff for you DH so your daughter can't see it. Out of site out of mind.

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1/18/13 7:27 A

since she is picky, it makes it harder. its great you want her to get healthy. : )
you don't want her to go to her friends house and binge, because everything is off limits at home.

have you talked to her doctor? they could give you an idea of what a serving size should be for her.

at 8, my kids were eating breakfast, morning school snack, lunch, after school snack, dinner and evening snack.

i dont force my kids to eat. you can offer chocies, but dont make her eat. she wont starve. i tell my kids you can choose to eat the options i gave you or choose not eat, but it is your choice. sometimes the alternative choice is a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and a piece of fruit.

as an adult, i made gradual changes to my diet when i joined sparks. could you start slowly and make small changes? instead of chips, make some microwave popcorn with just a little bit of butter? instead of cheetos, maybe some trail mix-some gold fish, pretzels, a little bit of peanuts, raisins, and maybe some mini chocolate chips? measure out the portions.

make your own popsicles out of plain yogurt and fruit. I freeze gogurts for my kids. Probably not the most healty frozen snack, but i figured they were better than some of the ice cream options.

maybe have her help you make a smoothie or some healthy muffins? (at 12, my daughter still likes very few veggies-but i keep trying. she finally eats salad)

be careful of juices-they have a lot of extra calories

maybe limit tv watching and video game playing.

the lunches at my kids school dont seem so great. i know that they are trying to make them healthier, but a lot of kids at my kids school just throw away things like carrot sticks. if you eat out, check the nutrition on kids meals. sometimes those aren't so great either.

good luck!

Edited by: CLARK971 at: 1/18/2013 (08:12)
ATTACCA Posts: 46
1/17/13 11:35 A

A child has very little control over anything in their lives. The one area many seem to find that they can grab some? Food. It's a control issue. The way to deal with it is to only offer the healthy foods you want to offer. If she doesn't eat it, she doesn't eat. But there's nothing else to eat. If she gets hungry later, offer her the leftovers she didn't eat at her meal. This won't solve her need to control something though, but it'll reinforce that this won't be an area she can control either. You're the parent. As mentioned by others, take the "unhealthy alternatives" out of the house. Keep only healthy things in the house.

My advice? Get her involved in the cooking of the meal. Have family cooking time. But make it fun. Go to the grocery store together and let her pick some of the things in the meal, like the vegetable or side dish, or some of the spices. With guidelines that it be healthy though. This gives her that feeling of "control". She gets to pick something. Even if it's something little. Then, have her help you cook it. Give her certain tasks to do while preparing and cooking the meal. Give the cooking a "fun theme", like pretending that you and her are in a "cooking competition" and to win, you have to make the most yummy and CREATIVE/UNIQUE meal. Get her involved in the brainstorming and idea process, as well as the cooking process. Just, as the parent, guide her in the healthy direction with "guidelines". When she gets to choose things and help cook, she gets to achieve that element of control, and may be more likely to try new things because of it.

Edited by: ATTACCA at: 1/17/2013 (11:40)
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1/17/13 11:11 A

My stepdaughter just turned 9, and for the last three years that I've known her, she has been excessively picky with what she eats. Cheeseburgers- ketchup only, sausage pizza, and Dr. Pepper were her staples. She also went to bed with a cup of chocolate milk instead of a glass of water. I put my foot down on the chocolate milk, but I did it slowly. It has been over a year since we've even bought a jug of chocolate milk. Over the last five months or so, she has slowly been trying new things. It started with me offering her a bite of my food every time we went out to eat. Sometimes she likes it, and some times she doesn't, but she learned that the only way to know if something tastes good to her is to take a bite. Now she is more willing to try new things. I even let her help me make dinner. "Do you think we should have chicken or fish tonight?" She likes fish now, even though her daddy hates it.

I don't have as much say in what she can and cannot do because I am only her stepmom, but I feel like at this age, being a picky eater is a phase. My younger brother and sister were similar at that age. Give her a say in what she eats so she feels independent, but limit her options to healthy ones.

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1/17/13 12:18 A

I agree with everyone. If she doesn't eat what you give her then let her go hungry, she will eat sooner or later. Granted my daughter is only 5 but from the get go it was you either eat this or nothing. My eating habits have sucked but I'm changing for her. School lunches are hard because she has allergies but she gets one treat in it. I'm surprised she's not over weight actually for how much she eats. She also is constantly askin for a snack but I make her have healthy stuff or try to.

Just keep at it!

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1/16/13 9:41 P

Kids eat what we feed them. By age 8, you no longer have total control when they are at school or a friend's house, but at home she can only eat the food you buy her. I may sound harsh, but I offer my kids what I cook. They can eat it or not, end of story. I would also recommend always having healthy, pre-portioned snacks available, and no junk-food in the house. We have special nights occasionally where we get junk food and watch movies. At the end of the night, the left-overs are thrown away.

Healthy snack ideas:
whole-wheat chips and salsa
home-made muffins
fruit cups (in juice, not syrup)
baby carrots and light ranch dressing
thin-crust pizza

ZEDMAY Posts: 41
1/16/13 12:53 P

I agree with the other posters: you need to get the junk food out of the house. She can't eat what isn't there. I'm sure your husband would be willing to make this sacrifice for the health of his child. Our family doctor always says that kids won't starve themselves, so don't worry if your daughter eats very little for a while after you remove junk food from the house.

As for getting her to eat more healthy food, at 8, she is old enough to help prepare meals, so get her involved in the kitchen. I have read many times that children are more willing to eat something new if they have helped prepare it. This approach certainly works with my son. Involve her in the whole process. Have her help with meal planning and grocery shopping. At the store, ask her to choose one new fruit or vegetable to try.

At the table, let her choose what she wants to eat and how much of it she wants to eat without pressure. Take the power struggles out of the equation, and you can avoid many tantrums and battles of will. As the parent, it is your job to provide healthy food choices and to model a healthy lifestyle, but it is her choice about which of those healthy foods she puts in her body. Another option, which works with my son, is that we tell him he has to try one bite of a new food before he is allowed to say he doesn't like it. But we don't push him to eat more if he tries it and rejects it. We also avoid offering junk food and dessert as bribes to get him to eat healthy things.

Good luck! Hopefully your daughter will be open to new foods soon.

SWEDIEPIE Posts: 338
1/14/13 6:06 P

If your husband is the one bringing the junk into the house, put your foot down and don't allow it. Tell him to have his junk when he's not in the house. Just like a smoker leaves a non-smoking home and goes outside.

I've brought all three of my kids onboard with cleaner eating over the last couple of years, and we still have some work to do, but generally they eat what I cook and there aren't exceptions. We talk all the time about healthy choices- it's part of our existence in our house and we make it a priority.

These kids have to live in the bodies that we are feeding.

GLITTERFAIRY77 Posts: 8,023
1/14/13 11:32 A

I am mistaken, thinking about it...LOL! I DO have the problem with my son, but he doesn't throw full blown tantrums about it like my daughter did! I learned what to do with my son from dealing with my daughter. ;)

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1/14/13 11:20 A

Thanks for the advice!!

GLITTERFAIRY77 Posts: 8,023
1/11/13 1:21 P

It's time you put your foot down. Who is the parent? I don't care if she has a full blown tantrum because you won't buy her what she thinks she wants. She isn't buying it. She doesn't pay the bills. I'm not telling you to do anything that I haven't done myself. My daughter has struggled with her weight, too, and she's 10.5. It was my fault. I used to buy her the convenience foods. She was also a picky eater. She also TRIED to throw tantrums, and has even refused to eat. Trust me, though. Eventually, your daughter will get hungry enough to eat what you put in front of her.
I never had the problem with my son. daughter eats whole grain bread. She eats vegetables. She eats spinach. She eats turkey burgers. She loves all kinds of beans. She likes oatmeal. She drinks skim milk. She realizes that treats are just that-treats. Not all the time foods. She still loves chocolate, but even though she knows there is some in the house, she hasn't even gone for it. She'll choose the cinnamon (no sugar added) applesauce or organic fruit and cereal bars over the chocolate.
It may take some fighting on her part, but if you show you mean business, she'll eventually yield and crave the healthy over the crap.

BTW. My daughter is 133lbs and 5'1. She was 140lbs at 4'10.

Edit: Have SET times for snacks. No means no, and if she doesn't eat what you offer, she's not hungry. That's my rule. if they don't want what there is, they can have a cup of water. That's it. No ifs, ands, or buts. Get your husband to back you up on this. You won't be starving her. She'll be starving herself. You're offering food. She's refusing to eat.

Edited by: GLITTERFAIRY77 at: 1/11/2013 (13:23)
KRUPKINA26 Posts: 125
1/10/13 11:25 A

Honeslty, the best thing you could do is get rid of the junk in the house. And stock up on healthy snacks. You say the junk in in the house because of your husband. You guys need to sit down as a family and have a discussion about health and come up with food you can all be happy with. Switch out lean ground beef in recipes, use chicken breast, ground turkey breast, add in as many veggies as you can that can be "hidden"

Also, just like with a takes up to 15 times introducing a new food for a toddler to try it. You might have to just keep offering the healthy food until she tries it. As for snacks....try light cheese sticks, celery with PB, 1/2 english muffin with 1tbs PB, Strawberries with a bit of whip cream, cottage cheese and pineapple (my dd loves that one), yogurt (the yoplait ones taste like a dessert)

Good luck

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1/10/13 9:27 A

Hi Everyone,

My daughter is 8, and like I was growing up... heavier than she should be for her age. She only eats junk!!! She had a fit yesterday at the dinner table because I told her to try one roasted potato. ONE little "square french fry"!!!!!! She's wearing a size larger than she should be and I'm getting worried because she always wants to eat.

"Can I have a snack? Can I have a snack? Can I have a snack? But, they are not healthy snacks. I always have junk around the house for my husband...and she wants it all. She doesn't like fruits (except for bananas), she doesn't like vegetables (except for corn on the cob) NOT loose corn kernels, must be on the cob!!!

She is super picky and I am super frustrated. She is watching me eat better and lose weight, but I don't know if it is sinking in with her.
I am trying to make sure she is as active as possible, but other than forcing healthier food down her throat (which is not happening) I don't know what to do.
Starve her until she eats better?!?!?!?!?!? I want to try to help her, I just don't know how without a lot of yelling and crying.

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