As a person with bipolar disorder I want to very clearly state that his behavior is not okay. You are not in any way required to put up with it. My husband has a deal with me. He sticks around as long as I behave myself. If I go off the rails, I have to see a doctor or change my medication situation. It is MY responsibility to make sure that I am not treating my friends and family members disrespectfully.
Your husband has that responsibility too, whether he knows it or not. Don't carry his burden for him. Don't try to love him through it. Love can do a lot of things, but it can't treat bipolar disorder. You need to communicate to him the damage he is creating by not being properly medicated or treated by his physician.
"I took it out on food because when he is like that, whatever I say is turned against me. Not wanting a fight I took it out on food."
You didn't take it out on food. You took it out on *yourself*. He is abusing you, and you said, "Here, let me help. I'll eat all of this crap and prove how truly miserable and worthless I feel." It's no way to live.
Is he on meds for his disease? Are you in a support group or getting counseling? I hope both you and your husband find the help you need. Your home should be your sanctuary, not the source of your distress.
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241 5/24/13 3:38 P
Simplyme, I am sorry you have to deal with that all the time, it's incredibly stressful. I don't have any advice, other than one thing that helps me a lot when I get frustrated with home life is to pop in the earphones and take a good long walk, hitting hills whenever I can to take that stress out. I don't know your belief system, but I load sermons and good feeling stuff like the sparkpeople radio broadcast on my iPod and listen as I walk. It really helps me.
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One over indulgent meal or even one day of less than perfect eating habits WILL NOT make or break your healthy lifestyle. As I tell all new members,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
Don't beat yourself up because you're stress eating. You are in a difficult situation. However, one thing you should consider doing is finding better ways to vent your stress that don't involve food. The next time you feel like running to the frig, consider sitting down and having a cup of tea. Tea is very relaxing and soothing. If you don't want tea, put on your coat and take a walk. walking is not only great cardiovascular exercise, it's a great way to reduce stress too. put on your favorite music. Leave a post on one of the message boards ! If you don't have support at home, we'll support you.
Take deep breathes. Most people don't realize how some deep breathes can also help reduce stress.
try not to worry, but if you know this weekend is going to be stressful, find better ways to vent that stress. If you think you're going to run to the frig, toss out the junk. out of sigtht. out of mind.
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143 5/24/13 1:02 P
Way overdid yesterday. My husband is bipolar, controlling, mean and demanding, really getting on my nerves! I took it out on food because when he is like that, whatever I say is turned against me. Not wanting a fight I took it out on food. I have no where to go to get away from him, he will follow me into another room and keep argueing about any topic whether its government, work, something he heard on talk radio, a TV program, family, or whatever. If I visit a friend or take a walk, this will continue when I get back. So I ate! Even the junk I no longer crave! Today my stomach is flip flopping from over eating. I have no appitite today. Only thing I ate was a handful of dry cereal and a glass of water early this morning to have something on my stomach. Yikes! This a 3 day weekend and we have no plans!
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