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JACKSPRATT2 SparkPoints: (21)
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1/14/13 3:06 P

Great advice. Working out will always be part of the solution!

COXBETH SparkPoints: (6,782)
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1/14/13 2:24 P

If YOU are happy with getting more curves and putting on healthy weight (sounds like you are), then I'd recommend looking into strength training. It would be good for him as exercise and building muscle in areas like your glutes can help give your figure a real boost.

Body builders worry about body recomposition all the time, so they are a great source of information about ways to use food and fitness to alter your body shape (rather than just loose weight). You might try the bodybuilders.com forums for ideas or articles like this one. www.bodybuilding.com/fun/fawnia27.htm

JACKSPRATT2 SparkPoints: (21)
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1/14/13 1:22 P

Good advice. Thanks. I guess I am more the solution-oriented one. That will be an option I will give.

KASEYCOFF Posts: 7,851
1/13/13 4:24 A

Suggestions:

1) Since no one can do something (getting healthier) like this "for" someone else, he should set up an account of his own - so the two of you can work together on Spark. You can then interact with each other and with other members of SP toward the same goals - health!

2) For a moment, put his idea - wanting you to gain weight (!) - away. Focus on you: what do YOU want? To lose weight? To stay the same? To gain some weight? If your "want" doesn't match his, perhaps you need to decide how far you're willing to go to give in to someone else's idea of how you should take care of your body.

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JACKSPRATT2 SparkPoints: (21)
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1/12/13 2:31 P

Thanks for the reply. I am trying to focus on his needs. I am supportive and he is grateful, but he wants me to fill out too.

JACKSPRATT2 SparkPoints: (21)
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1/12/13 2:30 P

Well, I am pretty tiny. I am active and have a fast metabolism. I do think I would feel more "womanly" with some curves. We have two differenct eating habits.....and it shows!

COXBETH SparkPoints: (6,782)
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1/11/13 4:38 P

It would be helpful to know what YOU think about yourself....and maybe an objective number or two like BMI. Maybe you can still meet the goal of both of you getting healthier together at the same time and focus less on the scale - like eating a good balance of protein, carbs, and fats rather than focusing on calories, or whole foods instead of packaged or doing some strength training together to help you both build strength and muscle.

DADOFSPARKGAL Posts: 453
1/11/13 3:43 P

If you are really comfortable and healthy where you are - tell your husband just that. You appreciate his opinion but that he should really focus on his goals and you would love to help him anyway you can.



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1/11/13 3:12 P

I wish I had some wisdom here. I would say to stick to your guns, only cook healthy meals, and so that way you wouldn't be responsible for any unhealthy choices that he may make.

Weight loss is 80% nutrition anyways, so maybe if he starts losing weight by eating healthier, he may realize the benefits of a healthier lifestyle, though it may be hard at first, outweigh the junk.

Best of luck!

MARILYNS66 Posts: 8,845
1/11/13 2:16 P

Welcome - glad you found us

Take a few minutes to make up a sparkpage make it public allowing members to post comments on it to you

Remember to participate as often as possible on all the groups you have joined - lots of encouragement when you do.

You mentioned that your hubby needs to lose weight and he wants you to gain. Question I would ask is are you underweight or is he just liking his wife to have 'more' meat on the bones. If you are at a healthy weight - don't fret it - just help him stay on track with healthy foods and all will go well

If I can be of any help please ask

JACKSPRATT2 SparkPoints: (21)
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1/11/13 1:22 P

Thanks for the reply.

JACKSPRATT2 SparkPoints: (21)
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1/11/13 1:21 P

Thanks for the reply. My hubby thinks I am skin and bones......

BILL60 Posts: 259,076
1/11/13 9:20 A

Welcome to SP, where the going is tough, but the tough are always going. Good luck!!

HEALTHYJEN11 SparkPoints: (33,931)
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1/11/13 9:12 A

Welcome!

ABRANNEWME2014 Posts: 51,125
1/11/13 12:40 A

Hello and welcome to the Sp family...this is an amazing site...you'll love it...why does your hubby want to fatten you up might I ask

JACKSPRATT2 SparkPoints: (21)
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1/10/13 5:40 P

My husband is 350 lbs, interested in losing over 150 lbs, and he is trying to fatten me up. It makes it hard, because we have different needs. Any suggestions?

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