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LOVINGAFRICA Posts: 1,067
9/18/13 4:18 A

Me too!
In South Africa where I live, many of the African cultures apologise profusely if ANYTHING bad happens and someone witnesses or hears about it.
I grew up with 'Au sorry, sorry sorry!' when you stub your toe, when you bite your tongue when lightning strikes you, when your dad dies, etc.
It is a beautiful culture, and has always made me feel better. It is one of the things I love about living here.

SHKIRK Posts: 1,168
9/17/13 5:49 P

I do apolpgize even if its not my fault. ..but I only do it to get pass the moment and move on. I have learned that some people NEED to believe that everything is someone else's fault and to deal w/ them (and sometimes you have to) I just take the blame emoticon

BREWERFAN71 SparkPoints: (30,342)
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9/17/13 2:17 P

Kind of along these same lines-does anyone else have a friend like mine who says "sorry" to everything? I think of "sorry" as a term to be used when you apologize for something you are responsible for, or to express sympathy. (As in "I'm sorry for your loss") But my friend uses it all the time & frankly, it's getting annoying. I know she does it because she feels the need to be overly empathetic to make up for the lack of sympathy she receives from people in her family, but to me it starts to come across as disingenuine-which I know isn't her intent. For example yesterday, I told her about a friend (that she never met) who got sick the other night after we had dinner because of some hot peppers she ate. She told me she was sorry my friend was sick. I know, I sound petty & mean, but does anyone out there know what I'm getting at?

EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
9/16/13 6:03 P

In general I only apologize for things that are my fault and I usually keep that pretty brief.

If things are only half or one-quarter half my fault I might apologize once and if others who are also to blame do not add their apologies, I am done with that situation.

In business, however, it is sometimes prudent to take the blame for something that goes amiss as, well, pretty much to me, the customer is always right, even when they aren't.

In all other instances than business I NEVER EVER take any blame for anything I am not to blame for.

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,308
9/16/13 12:06 P

I don't think I apologize when I have not done something. I think I lean toward under-apologizing. I do apologize when I realize something I've done or said has bothered or hurt someone but I may not always recognize that that has happened.



PATTIJOHNSON Posts: 2,075
9/16/13 11:42 A

I'm not one to apologize for things that are not my fault. Three words that make me cringe, however are "I'm sorry, but....."

KKKAREN SparkPoints: (216,765)
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9/16/13 10:47 A

I apologize when I'm at fault. I usually don't when I'm not. I do apologize when I have said something that might have offended someone.

Edited by: KKKAREN at: 9/16/2013 (11:03)
TACDGB Posts: 6,132
9/16/13 10:23 A

sometimes I do that too. My therapist has told me to knock it off. He is right but I do struggle sometimes with that..

MATTHEW0498 SparkPoints: (31,975)
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9/16/13 10:07 A

I am like that but have been trying over the years to stop. I have gotten much better in my 30's and especially in my upper 30's.

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,180
9/16/13 9:27 A

When I keep hearing the blame game, I do it so we can move on.....
even if I don't feel I've done anything wrong.
{...but a lot of times, it's really the other person's fault...}

If you do something wrong, the only real apology is trying to make things right...
thru actions, not words.

CMCOLE Posts: 2,667
9/16/13 9:07 A

yeah, I often apologize for things that are pretty much outside my realm of control, for whatever reason brings it on.

RUKIDDINGME123 SparkPoints: (30,579)
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9/16/13 9:01 A

I too believe it stems from low self esteem and me always thinking everything is my fault. I don't do it any more its amazing what things change with age.

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (101,558)
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9/16/13 8:30 A

I used to but therapy cleared that issue right up!

SIRENSONGS SparkPoints: (57,026)
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9/16/13 7:55 A

I do this ALL the time. Some of it stems from my lack of confidence, I'm sure.

LKS2GAB2 SparkPoints: (37,654)
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9/16/13 7:49 A

I take complete responsibility of what I do, good or bad. If I did not do it or cause it I do not take ownership of it or apologize for it.

NACHTSKAI SparkPoints: (11,921)
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9/16/13 6:33 A

Been there - done that multiple times!

KJFITNESSDUDE Posts: 15,787
9/16/13 6:19 A

Are you the type of person who apologizes frequently even when you did nothing to apologize for?

If I make a mistake or bad judgment I own up to it pretty quickly BUT, I have from time to time apologized for something I didn't do or wasn't the result of my action and/or inaction.

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