Me too! In South Africa where I live, many of the African cultures apologise profusely if ANYTHING bad happens and someone witnesses or hears about it. I grew up with 'Au sorry, sorry sorry!' when you stub your toe, when you bite your tongue when lightning strikes you, when your dad dies, etc. It is a beautiful culture, and has always made me feel better. It is one of the things I love about living here.
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9/17/13 5:49 P
I do apolpgize even if its not my fault. ..but I only do it to get pass the moment and move on. I have learned that some people NEED to believe that everything is someone else's fault and to deal w/ them (and sometimes you have to) I just take the blame
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387 9/17/13 2:17 P
Kind of along these same lines-does anyone else have a friend like mine who says "sorry" to everything? I think of "sorry" as a term to be used when you apologize for something you are responsible for, or to express sympathy. (As in "I'm sorry for your loss") But my friend uses it all the time & frankly, it's getting annoying. I know she does it because she feels the need to be overly empathetic to make up for the lack of sympathy she receives from people in her family, but to me it starts to come across as disingenuine-which I know isn't her intent. For example yesterday, I told her about a friend (that she never met) who got sick the other night after we had dinner because of some hot peppers she ate. She told me she was sorry my friend was sick. I know, I sound petty & mean, but does anyone out there know what I'm getting at?
I don't think I apologize when I have not done something. I think I lean toward under-apologizing. I do apologize when I realize something I've done or said has bothered or hurt someone but I may not always recognize that that has happened.
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