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KATESQUEST SparkPoints: (11,830)
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6/20/13 3:41 P

Thanks for the feedback, advice and encouragement! I am having a meeting with a trainer in about an hour and a half. I met with another trainer earlier in the week, really liked him, but he does not have a once a week opening for me! So, I am meeting with another trainer today to see if we are a good fit. Will let you know how it goes!

PARKSCANADA Posts: 4,802
6/20/13 12:25 P

Like any professional - doctor, dentist, hairdresser - it takes time to find the right one for you. If the first trainer you go to doesn't fit you than try another one on until you do find the person who meshes with you the best.
I have a story about a trainer I test drove. My daughter and I were at the gym trying out a new trainer. He wanted me to do some jumps through a ladder and I told him I couldn't do it. I got the whole it's only in your mind thing and to not defeat myself before I had even tried. But, perimenopausal, 50 years old, 5 kids and overweight....the old bladder just isn't up to jumping. I tried to get out of it without explaining in too much detail, but the poor boy was very insistent. Thank you 16 year old daughter who finally said "Leave her alone, she can't do it or she'll pee her pants." I'm pretty sure that young man will never forget that some older gals will pee their pants if you give them an exercise where they have to jump lol. Good luck on your search for a personal trainer. Be picky, be persistant and you'll find the right one.

MZZZFROG SparkPoints: (18,258)
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6/20/13 10:09 A

I have been thinking about finding a trainer as well and one of the main things I'm concerned about is that in my past experience with trainers they all seemed very extreme and rigid in their thoughts about the best way for me to lose weight. I'm 51 and having lived with this body all my life I know a few things about what works for me and what doesn't.

I'm looking for instruction in exercise technique because I think that is an area where I don't know enough about what my body can realistically do. I wish I knew of a good way to find a trainer who could help me learn what I need to add to my knowledge base.

Last year I worked with a trainer who seemed reasonable at first but became more militant about me following his diet plan as time progressed. The constant discussion about my diet made me come to dread those sessions (I wasn't even trying to lose weight at the time). I did learn a lot about pushing myself physically and I'd love to get more of that from a trainer without them trying to get involved in my diet decisions. There must be a better way to find a good trainer who will respect the knowledge I have about myself while working to fill in the gaps to make me more effective in reaching my health and weight loss goals. Any tips are welcome!

PATHFINDER52 Posts: 752
6/19/13 12:55 P

Hey Kate --
Good for you, making beneficial changes at ANY age!!

I'm an RN too, so I understand where some of that reluctance to "follow orders" may come from! I would offer you three things that MAY help you in your work-out agenda --

1. See the trainer as just that -- a trainer, coach, counselor, teacher NOT God and NOT the SS -- and use all that you can from this knowledgeable (young) person. But remember YOU know your own body better than anyone can, trust what you know about your body so you don't injur yourself while following orders!

2. Remember that at least 75% of creating change (even positive change) in our lives is mental/emotional so when your body says "NO, I just can't do any more!!" you will need to ask yourself if that is TRUE or if it is merely an old belief about yourself, based on past performance (which has gotten you to the body you now have, and want to change). Changing our belief systems -- from I can't to I CAN -- is a big part of creating the change we want!

3. In the midst of practicing "accountability" which could mean anything from keeping track of your nutrition consumption, work-outs, etc. to actually hitting targets that the trainer sets for or with you, remember to tell yourself, THIS IS MY GIFT TO MYSELF! And, be sure to build in rewards for not only accomplishing those goals (outcomes) but for simply doing the work (process).

Best of luck as you pursue what is important to you!
Looking forward to learning of your success.


KATESQUEST SparkPoints: (11,830)
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6/19/13 11:19 A

Hi, I'm Kate & I am a 52 yo RN who started lifestyle changes on June 1st (You can read more about it at my Sparkpage) if you wish. I am about to start working with a personal trainer-- (Wow! They are so young!) My question probably does not relate to their age as much as the idea of obedience.

During my life, obedience to God or man has not been one of my strengths. I would not have made it our of basic training if I had ever enlisted in the military. I have tended to resist and rebel against authority. The trainer said keeping me accountable will be one of his most important jobs. Oh! Really? Hmmmmm.

Does anyone have any good tips on how to re-frame one's thinking about learning to be obedient and accountable to another human being-- particularity one that is so young!? I don't want my old nature to sabotage my progress!



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