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10/24/12 9:00 A

Very outspoken

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10/24/12 8:56 A

it depends on m y mood and situation!

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10/24/12 8:11 A

both depending on the situation

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10/24/12 8:02 A

Quite most of the time.

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10/24/12 7:16 A

Outspoken. Very outspoken! :)

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10/24/12 6:23 A

Yes, depends on the situation

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10/24/12 5:51 A

depends on situation but am learning to speak up diplomatically. emoticon

Edited by: A_SPARKLING at: 10/24/2012 (05:54)

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10/24/12 5:40 A

A bit of both.

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10/24/12 4:37 A

it depends

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10/24/12 4:33 A

Depends on the situation, but usually outspoken

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10/24/12 4:27 A

I tend to be outspoken, but always try to be tactful and kind as well. If people trust you to tell the truth, instead of lying just to please them, ultimately it makes you a better friend and easier to deal with.

To the OP - your SIL was way out of line. Why not marshall your facts, get some good information sources - from Spark for example - and email the links to her.

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10/24/12 4:23 A

It depends.

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10/24/12 1:01 A

I'm generally outspoken, but I've learned the older I've gotten that silence is required often especially when saying something just isn't worth my aggravation or trying to teach someone something when they didn't ask in the first place. And your sister in law sounds outspoken, because if you didn't ask her opinion she could have kept that comment to herself, well meaning or not :o) Keep doing what your doing if it's working for you and if not you know what to do from being here on sparkpeople. Have a great week :o) emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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10/24/12 12:14 A

i use to be silent , but if i don't start opening my mouth i'm going to stroke out!

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10/23/12 9:35 P


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10/23/12 8:52 P


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10/23/12 8:51 P

It really depends who says what, and how... But in general, I'm pretty explosive, and always have been.

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10/23/12 8:47 P


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10/23/12 7:26 P

Getting better about voicing my thoughts...but mostly silent.

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10/23/12 7:22 P

depends on the situation.

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10/23/12 4:07 P

i pick my battles wisely.

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10/23/12 1:21 P

I'm outspoken but I pick my battles wisely...

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10/23/12 1:15 P

Depends on situation

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10/23/12 12:19 P

these are all nice replies. I think after I lose weight, I'm going to make it a point to say, "hey look, I've lost weight and I ate at midnight, how bout that?"

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10/23/12 10:38 A

Outspoken, carefully mostly.

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10/23/12 10:28 A

definitely outspoken

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10/23/12 10:28 A

It depends entirely on who I am talking to, if it someone I know and love I speak up, if it is an acquaintance I hold my tongue

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10/23/12 9:32 A

Depends? for trivial stuff silent- regarding my son MAMA BEAR- work gossip silent

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10/23/12 9:29 A

I speak my mind, when I feel the need. Mainly, I keep to myself. Unless, I am with my closest friends.

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10/23/12 9:24 A

It depends a lot on my relationship with the person and whether it's an important issue. If it's something serious and I'm sure of my facts, I would say something. If it's more a diffeence of opinion over something that really doesn't matter, I'd probably keep quiet.

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10/23/12 9:22 A

They call me the Diplomat!

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10/23/12 4:42 A

I pick my battles. If she is always saying stuff like that I would not tell her she is wrong. But I would tell her I am doing fine. It is my/our choice to eat later.

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10/23/12 3:41 A

a bit of both


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10/23/12 2:22 A

Silent; I figure it's better one fool than two.

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10/22/12 11:38 P

depends, but usually I keep my comments to myself

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10/22/12 11:37 P


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10/22/12 10:56 P


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10/22/12 10:06 P

I would HAVE to say something to her...What a rude woman!

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10/22/12 4:19 P

I am in the middle. I would have told my SIL that she can worry about herself and not worry about me. I then would tell her studies show you can eat at that time if you want, that it's all about calories in and calories out, and portion control, and then thank her for her concern. She may not have meant to insult you, but she needs to know it is wrong to speak up like that.

I will have to say there are two types of personalities I dislike that is outspoken and too quiet. I like the ones who will speak up but when appropriate, and shy doesn't bother me, but door mat quiet does bother me.

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10/22/12 3:50 P

as I was reading the responses to my post, a joke just crossed my mind!

What is the difference between in-laws and out-laws?

Answer: Out-laws are WANTED!!

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10/22/12 2:45 P

I kind of evaluate the person or a group, to weather or not they are worth my response..

Edited by: TRANQULITY7 at: 10/22/2012 (14:46)

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10/22/12 2:44 P

Depends -

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10/22/12 2:42 P

I'd just walk off and let her think what she wants. You have to decide what is worth sharing your feelings about and how important those people are in your life.

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10/22/12 2:41 P

I am very outspoken. My sister talks softly, well she also lets everyone walk all over her. Me, I tell you where to go, and how fast I expect you to get gone!.

When I came home from my so-called vacation, my sister knew I was upset. She said, I got into Anna, her friends car, anbd I could just have cried, I knew you were getting ready to leave. She said, have the Housing people called you yet or do you contact them. I told her I could leave anytime. She just looked at me. I said, I can go to the Y..................

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10/22/12 2:27 P

It depends on what it is and who says it.

If it was one comment about what time we ate dinner I'd just roll my eyes and not say much.

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10/22/12 2:11 P

I tend to be a peaceful type.. if the issue isn't significant I don't generally chime in too much.. but I do quietly correct misstatements that I can prove are misstatements, IF it matters! And I will not be silent on issues of moral conviction or if my silence would lead people to believe I agree with bigotry or hatred.

Sigh. I've lost a few friends over responding to absolutely absurd or egregiously incorrect emails. Guess they weren't really friends!

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10/22/12 2:03 P

Wow, that seems like kind of a catty thing for your S-I-L to say.

It really depends on the people, I have a similar issue with my mother-in-law to be. She spouts off pseudo-intellectual nonsense, and thinks because I'm younger, I couldn't possibly know what I'm talking about. She's a lost cause; and it actually wears on all of the people around her (not that she notices).

However, I do have people who it's worth my time to explain that what they said might be incorrect and why.

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10/22/12 1:55 P


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10/22/12 1:54 P

do you guys correct people when you know they are wrong, or do you just figure, "oh, what the heck, they're gonna believe what they want to believe anyway?"

example: my sister-in-law visits us last night around 7pm and we hadn't eaten yet. She says, "oh Amy, you know you're never gonna lose weight if you wait til midnight to eat!" I started to say that NO you are wrong, but I held my tongue, cause I figured it wouldn't do any good anyway.

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