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KRMFREEONE
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3/24/11 10:21 A

Update.. i am having my mom walk me down the isle at the end of themonth,, and we are dancing together as well.The closer it gets to the wedding the more excited i am about the idea!!



CALGIRL80
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3/23/11 4:15 P

Both of my parents have passed adn I am not close with my family, so I have asked a good friend who is a big brother/father figure to walk me down the alise. Ultimately, you must do what is comfortable for you. Most people at your wedding will know the circumstances, and if they don't, is it that big a deal.



CECHANDLER
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3/13/11 1:29 A

My father passed away 6 years ago, so I'm having my eldest brother walk me down the aisle.



CECHANDLER
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3/13/11 1:28 A

My father passed away 6 years ago, so I'm having my eldest brother walk me down the aisle.



9EACHES87
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3/6/11 7:21 A

I was just wondering who is having someone walk them down the isle? I dont know my dad as he left when i was about 1 yr old and i have had no luck in finding him. I have known my step dad since i was about 1yr and a bit old but we do not get along and no longer talk to him as i will never forgive him for what he has done. So i decided to ask my 2 brothers to walk me down the isle one on each arm and they said they where happy too. as a joke one of my brothers had to turn around and say does that mean i have to wear a suit! lol.



COBRACOMMANDER
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2/27/11 9:11 A

Update?



MAMAN12
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2/23/11 6:00 P

When I got married almost 45 yrs ago, since my father was not well enough to be at the wedding, I had one of my brother walking me down the isle, and when our daughter got married , because my her father was walking her down the isle and I did not want to walk alone, the same brother walked the isle with me , which was very nice of him to accept again..\stella



BABIIDOLLXOX
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2/23/11 7:39 A

I had the same question accept my father is still alive but can't walk.. So what I decided to do is ask my mother to walk me down the aisle and meet my father at the alter to give me away..

But do what feels best to you!!



HONORINGGOD
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2/20/11 9:19 P

what ever honors your dad ,got any ideas .have something left from him maybe with your mom ????? I pray you fing the right thing for you ,congrats!!!! emoticon emoticon



SMASH637
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2/20/11 1:58 P

These days, there are so many wedding "traditions" out there, that there is no right or wrong way to do things. If you'd like your mother to walk you down the aisle and dance with you at the reception, then by all means do so. I'm sure she'll be honored that you asked. :)



TAINTEDGIRL
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2/13/11 6:12 P

Im sorry too for what you are going through. My dad has never been in my life and my mother and I do not have a relationship at all anymore. However, My grandfather has ALWAYS been there and he will be walking and marrying my fiance and I. DO NOT WORRY ABOUT HOW ANYTHING LOOKS. You want the person that has been there your whole life to walk you down that isle. Whether that be Man, Woman, Sister, Brother, Close Friend, Grandparent. ETC! I hope your day is wonderful and am sure that even though your dad cant be there in person he will be there in spirit.



TAINTEDGIRL
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2/13/11 5:53 P

Im sorry too for what you are going through. My dad has never been in my life and my mother and I do not have a relationship at all anymore. However, My grandfather has ALWAYS been there and he will be walking and marrying my fiance and I. DO NOT WORRY ABOUT HOW ANYTHING LOOKS. You want the person that has been there your whole life to walk you down that isle. Whether that be Man, Woman, Sister, Brother, Close Friend, Grandparent. ETC! I hope your day is wonderful and am sure that even though your dad cant be there in person he will be there in spirit.



FENWAYGIRL18
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2/12/11 1:18 A

Listen to your heart, it will tell u what to do! emoticon



CJAWAY
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2/10/11 5:56 P

Since it is you and your fiance's special day, do what feels best to both of you. His father, your mother, an uncle/aunt/grandparent. Your brother.



BABIES46143
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2/10/11 3:20 P

If you are close to your fiance's dad I would have him walk down the isle with you. I know my fiance mother passed away and my mom asked if she could do the mother son dance with him. Which I thought was very nice.



NFOSTER80
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2/8/11 9:48 A

have your mom walk you down and put a picture of your father at the wedding party table at the reception so he is with you for your big day



JENNIE122874
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2/7/11 1:47 P

In my 1st marriage, my 2 aunts (who were like my mother) walked me 1/2 way down the isle and then I met my mother and she walked me down to the alter.

In this wedding, my 2 daughters will be walking me down the isle. You have to just think of someone special to you and let them bring you down the isle.



CHUBBYLARSON
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2/6/11 10:32 P

I was to a wedding about a year ago. The bride never knew her father. All the bridesmaids walked half way down the isle alone, and each groomsmen met his partner there and walked her the rest of the way. The groom met the bride halfway also and walked her the rest of the way. It was very different and very beautiful. When it was asked "who gives this woman?" her mother stood at her seat and said "I do"....It was further lovely because it was a dual-religion ceremony (catholic and jewish). VERY touching. How you get to the alter is not the important part, it's the honesty of what happens AT the alter that's important.....good luck to you!



CHRISAHAHN
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1/29/11 11:48 P

I had an older friend walk me down the isle. He was an old boss of mine that I kept in touch with.



ARIZONAHIKER
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1/28/11 3:39 P

It is your wedding and you do what makes you happy. My ex died 5 years ago. My daughter is having her step-dad and uncle (her dad's brother) walk her down the asile.

She wants to have a mother-daughter dance instead. Where I will be bawling my head off.





CHERISHELEPHANT
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1/28/11 9:49 A

I agree with what everyone has said! I have been thinking of having both my parents walk me down the isle :)



INDEPENDENCE1
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1/27/11 10:54 A

Hi I'm actually married for some time.I was just peeking through as my sister is getting married this year and i'm in it. My father died when i was only 9 and wasn't sure what i was going to do at first. In the end I also had my mom walk me down the aisle. As kids we would even give her a card for fathers day as well even though i miss him til this day. But its up to you, i don't think you have to sit out the dance. I didn't. I danced with my mom.It was beautiful. Just a thought. Hope it helps.



CRISWITHNOH
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1/16/11 4:56 P

Like the others have said, this is your wedding so you can do whatever you want. I'm (hopefully) getting married in August and my dad just recently passed away in November. I plan on asking my mom to walk me down the aisle. I will leave a seat open for my dad and in his place I'll put a picture of him holding me as a baby. I probably will skip the father/daughter dance but my fiance still wants to do a mother/son dance, which is fine. Good luck!



ELLE1611
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1/16/11 3:29 P

I think it would be great for your mom to talk you down the aisle!!! The tradition is that this person is "giving you away" so who better than your mom! I think it would be wonderful and she would probably be really touch! Good luck!



SCTK519
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1/16/11 2:18 P

My friend's father is out of the picture and she is having her Mom walk her down the aisle. A brother or someone else close to you could do it as well if you didn't want to go it alone.



ALYSSARAVENSMOM
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1/14/11 10:05 P

I lost my father as well when I was 15. I understand what you are going through. My mother asked me if I would allow my step father to walk me down, which pissed me off. He was a drunk and I couldn't stand living with him, I called the cops on him before, so I was offended she asked. I told her no and aske her to walk me down the isle. What did she say? "No." I am proudly going to walk down the isle and give myself away. i have thought about having Josh meet me half way, but I don't know. We will get through this :) our fathers will be with us in spirit. If you really want someone, do you have an uncle, bother, grandfather, friend?



CHRISSI_MK
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1/14/11 2:46 P

I don't think it's necessary to have anyone walk you down the aisle but if it's something you really want than it could be anyone who is close to you. I know of people who asked an uncle and one person had their mother.

It's your wedding so you have to do what's right for you.

I won't be having anyone walk with me.



PRINCESSMANDIE
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1/12/11 9:24 A

I'm very sorry for those who have lost their fathers. That has to be so hard, especially during a woman's best day of her life.

I had decided that if for some reason my father couldn't walk me down the aisle I would have his 3 younger brothers do it. Two of my uncles don't have daughters and I know they would enjoy walking me down the aisle as stand-in's.

Another option would be either my sons or my brother. The posibilities are endless. What about a grandfather, his father, a male friend who has been there for you through thick and thin or even a great friend of your fathers? Good luck and let us know what you decide.



ENVYUS
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1/12/11 12:26 A

I have had the same dilemma. I ,however, did ask my mom. She was very happy,but she would be happier to watch me come down the aisle! I have decided to choose my oldest brother,who has always taken on the fatherly role. My mom and other brother will be waiting at the end of the aisle to give me away.



COBRACOMMANDER
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12/8/10 9:32 A

Update?



LESLIES784
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11/30/10 1:18 P

I also lost my father young and am getting married June 2011. I'm probably going to have my uncle, who was very close to my dad, walk me down the aisle, then have my mom lift my veil, as she is my close parent. I don't think it's weird at all. I know it'd mean the world to my uncle to step in and walk me down the aisle, but if I didn't have him, I'd have my mom do it all the way! After all, she played mom and dad for the past 16 years!



BECKY425
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11/7/10 6:00 P

I think your mom would be honored to walk you down the aisle. Your mom can also dance the father - daughter dance too with you. It's your day - you make up the rules.



DONNA1432
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11/5/10 12:18 P

I think its honroble for you to have your mom ask, i know for me once we had our mother/daughter dance it teared the whole place up .... Your mom would be very honored im sure!



MOMMAGPLUS11
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11/5/10 9:35 A

It's perfectly wonderful to ask your mother, grandmother, a close aunt, even your future father-in-law or someone in your new family's that you are particularly close too.



SILLYBERRY
Posts: 1,321
10/17/10 11:16 P

My mom is walking me down the aisle since my father is no longer with us. I don't think there is anything strange about it at all! :)



VTCHICK78
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9/29/10 8:00 P

My dad died almost 6 years ago, and my only uncle died 8 years ago, and my grandfather has been gone for about 20 years. Friends suggested my FH father, but he died when my FH was like 13 so Im thinking about my mom, or just myself.



SCHAMRICK
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9/24/10 2:21 P

My wife asked my father to walk her down the aisle. I don't have any sisters so it was something he really enjoyed. Then we just left that part out about "Who gives this woman?" And we just did a couple's dance afterward.



HONORINGGOD
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9/20/10 10:43 P

it's your day



TATKINS136
Posts: 32
9/20/10 9:12 P

I am going to walk myself but I want to do a destination wedding. So I don't know if a want anyone else there or not.

But I say do what ever you want. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It's you and your partners day.



NEWANNC
Posts: 1,683
9/19/10 2:34 P

My dad's quite poorly and it's a long drive from London to Nuneaton, where I moved to nearly 3 years ago and where we're getting married.

I have asked my cousin to 'do the honours'. We were both only children, and his dad was like a 2nd dad to me, he passed away when I was 17, so it seemed natural to ask my cousin.

Upshot is do whatever feels right to you.



BANDMAMAPC
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9/17/10 9:43 A

I know that I already replied to this post, but I have been trying to get my cousin to walk me down the aisle and I am starting to give up on him. You see, he is my first cousin and his dad and I were very close. He died on Thanksgiving of 89, the day we got engaged. My dad died in the spring of 97, while I was pregnant with my twins. When I had this idea of asking him, it was more of a sentimental value to me. When I got married, he was so protective that he told my husband if he ever breaks my heart, that he will personally hurt him. So, you kinda understand why I had him as my choice. I spoke to him a week ago and it doesn't sound like he can even though he said he will try. I think I will send him a message that it's ok if he can't. Financially and realistically, he is not in that position to spend money on a plane ticket, a place to stay and some extra money to play with. He is thinking of asking his sister for help. I can't have him do that. Sorry that I took over your original post. emoticon



EBBUNNY
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9/16/10 7:01 A

I lost my father too shortly after I got engaged. Every time I think about walking down the aisle I get all teary-eyed. My solution.... my uncle- his favorite baby brother and my closest uncle is going to walk me down the aisle... he'll also be carrying my Dad with him- for me it's special because my uncle represents my father in a lot of ways... You do what's best for you, and always remember that it's your day. I may get funny looks cause my uncles going to be carrying my dad's ashes- but for ME it's what I want. I wish you the best.



AGGIESARAH07
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9/11/10 11:58 P

I agree! If you are close to your mom and it would be meaningful for both of you, do it! Also, there is nothing wrong with walking yourself down the aisle. No one has to "give" you away, (it is sort of an old fashioned notion) a wedding should really be about bringing families together :)



COBRACOMMANDER
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9/8/10 11:36 P

My wife's father had passed away just before we met so she had her brother walk her down the aisle. Do you have a "father figure" who you feel it would be meaningful to walk you down the aisle? It's whoever is meaningful to you.



ALLEYCAT12380
Posts: 625
9/7/10 3:29 P

I went to a friend of the family's wedding. She had her mom walk her all the way down the isle, her step dad came in at the half way point and walked the 2 of them together. It's whatever you feel comfortable with. As for the dance, People who know you will understand it if you and your mom danced.



EVILENGLISH
Posts: 40
9/7/10 3:37 A

I agree, I think walking down the aisle with your Mom is a good idea. Your other options would be to walk alone or to walk with someone who is like a father figure to you. But if your Mom was in a single-parent situation and raised you all on her own, I think it would be sweet to have her give you away.



MEGSTSEPT2010
Posts: 231
9/6/10 4:04 P

I think it would be right, and lovely to walk with your mom! It's about you, what feels special, right, and important to you. Also, dancing with your mom, if you want to do it, do it! I think that that would be extremely sweet!



MANDIETERRIER1
Posts: 13,499
9/6/10 3:24 P

I think that it would be absolutely right for you to ask your mother to walk you down the aisle.

Everything goes these days, some brides walk by themselves.

Since your mother is still alive, I recommend asking her to do the honor.



BANDMAMAPC
Posts: 861
9/5/10 11:06 A

It's your wedding. Do whatever feels right to you. I have seen many weddings when a mom and daughter walked down the aisle. Don't let anyone dictate your wedding. Good luck!



KRMFREEONE
Posts: 967
9/5/10 1:19 A

Ok so my father passed away when I was really young. So now that I am finally walking down the isle, who should I ask to walk me? Can ask my mother? And can I also have her dance with me during the father daughter dance? I thinks that sounds right and touching,, but it might look strange.. Any ideas?



 
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