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MRSMASCH SparkPoints: (428)
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3/27/13 8:25 A

Thank you I did emoticon

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3/27/13 8:20 A

like my motivational page on facebook .... motivation for every girls fitness goal

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3/26/13 7:05 P

I have a few stretch marks and a little bit of sagging skin around the belly area - when I pull in my abs, lean forward and look down, what I see hanging there is not good for my self-esteem. But both the skin and the marks have been improving and are continuing to improve. Building up a stronger core seems to help. And I don't really mind having a few battle scars as reminders of the size I used to be - they make me thankful to be at the size I am now, and they help to keep me on the straight and narrow, and they aren't visible to people who only see me with clothes on, which is most people, most of the time.

COANNIE SparkPoints: (9,512)
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3/26/13 6:10 P

These are awesome replies! The stomach thing- I have had two babies and years of not working out and over-eating. When I reach my goal weight, I won't have the flat flawless stomach I had at 21- but I will have a strong core, a digestive system that is working to it's fullest, and the knowledge that my body is healthy. That is more important than weight and looks.

ROYADEDEAUX SparkPoints: (35,604)
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3/26/13 3:19 P

One of the best things I ever did for myself was write down a list of every silly, serious, crazy reason I could think of for why I wanted to lose weight. Some of those reasons were... to look good in my wedding dress, to complete a 5k, to hear people give me compliments, to have better sex, to make clothes shopping less stressful.. I think I wrote down maybe 30 reasons. I used these reasons later to make a vision collage, and every once in a while I go back and do it again. The person who wrote before me is right - weight loss itself is not a Reason Why. you need to figure out the Why and let those reasons help motivate you.

ZORBS13 SparkPoints: (194,287)
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3/26/13 11:38 A

Motivation isn't about results.

WHY do you want to lose weight? That is what should be motivating you..weight loss is a result, not a reason for motivation.

example: let's say you want to get healthier to try to avoid cancer that runs in your family. You don't lose any weight, but you do feel better and have changed your eating habits for the better. The reason why you want to get healthier, (avoid cancer) hasn't want to review your reasons for WHY regularly to stay motivated, not wait for results.

Edited by: ZORBS13 at: 3/26/2013 (12:05)
ERICADURR Posts: 243
3/26/13 11:32 A

We are here to support each other, but not to blindly encourage things that may not be possible. There's nothing wrong with having some loose skin on your stomach, but there IS something wrong with telling someone she's sure to obtain the stomach of a tight little 20 year old who's never struggled with weight gain/loss when that may not be in the cards. (God knows that even at my skinniest, I have a double chin and it's something I have to accept.)

Do not get discouraged--I suggest looking at the "food grouping" and "recipe box" options Spark People offers, in which you can enter EXACTLY what is in your recipe, figure out serving size, and put them into your calorie counter. It's a bit more work, but I personally love it because it leaves absolutely no room for doubt with regard to counting my calories.

Also, you need to remember it took a while to get into your current state. It's going to take a while to undo what you've done--it didn't happen overnight, nor will results! You may benefit from creating smaller goals rather than the ultimate one--maybe start with 10 pounds, or get your body fat tested and aim for 2-3% lower body fat in a couple of months. Make a distance goal for running, or a strength goal as to how much you want to bench press or curl. It's all about those little goals that remind you of the big picture and how far you've come! I know it's a lot easier for me to continue when I feel great about achieving a goal I set for myself, no matter how small it is. :)

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (197,121)
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3/26/13 11:25 A


As the Coaches all say,"Trust the process". Remember, there are changes happening to your body that you can't see on a scale. Depending on how long you've been trying to engage in a healthier lifestyle, think of the things that have changed that you might not have noticed.

I don't know how long you've been a member or how long you've been trying to lose. But let's say it's been one month. What could change in one month of trying to eat right and exercise ? Do you notice your clothes fitting better ? Do you seem to have a bit more energy ? Can you carry more bags of groceries today than you could a month ago ? Can you run or walk a mile faster today than you could a month ago ? Can you lift more weight ? Can you do more push ups ? How's your blood pressure ? Do you know that if your blood pressure has gone down in the last month, your doctor would be thrilled. Lowering your blood pressure is a huge sign of success.

So, don't beat yourself up because you're not losing weight as fast as you think you should. Weight loss is a slow steady process that takes time. You didn't gain the weight overnight, it's not coming off overnight.

Also, the members weren't trying to hurt you in anyway. it's true, you may never have a flat stomach without the help of cosmetic surgery. Take me for example. I lost over 50+ pounds several years ago. I have incredibly strong abs. I even have a bit of a six pack. BUT I also have sagging skin from my weight loss. My skin didn't pop back. Unless I have cosmetic surgery, I'll always have that sagging skin. What I've learned from my own weight loss journey is this,"What I can do with my body is more important than how it looks". I'm not perfect. I never will be. And I'm okay with that.

Because once again, sagging skin is a small price to pay for my improved good health. I'm going to live a longer more productive life. Maybe some day I'll have a tummy tuck, but right now... it doesn't matter. Having sagging skin doesn't determine who I am as a person.

I am MORE than a number on the scale ! So are you !

BELLALILYLUV SparkPoints: (2,115)
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3/26/13 11:20 A

I understand about tracking food. If its pre packaged you can enter the information. If its something i just cant find that we make at home I try to brake it down in to what is in it the best I can. I hope that helps a bit.

As far as staying motivated. If im not loseing according to the scale I find it hard to keep going to the gym. emoticon So im not to much help there.

MRSMASCH SparkPoints: (428)
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3/26/13 11:11 A

It is real difficult to remain motivated when no one helps me and I don't see my fat going away. It is hard to eat right and exercise when I feel like I am not ever going to accomplish my goal. A few people on here said I may never get a nicer stomach unless I get a tummy tuck. That is so messed up. I thought we were here to support each other.

Also, tracking calories is difficult. A lot of things I eat aren't listed and I have no idea how to get the caloric intake of such foods.


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