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6/9/13 1:24 P

First off emoticon if I could do it right out of high school, like 7 months after graduation, and 19 yrs old. You can do it now. Haters will hate. I am still with the father of my first child, we have been married for 11 yrs and have 2 other children. Things were tough for us and still are at times. You sound like one of the most prepare people I know. Having a child does change your life, but it is n the best way possible. Enjoy your pregnancy, and your new family.

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BARBINHA Posts: 25
6/7/13 7:24 P

Congratulations!!! Babies are always a blessing from above!!

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,334
6/7/13 10:54 A

If you feel the time is right for you to have a child then that is the most important thing. It is okay to enjoy this time and think about the positive moments ahead while you are pregnant.

I don't get the point of telling you that you aren't prepared. What do you need to do that other first time parents aren't figuring out too? You can't prepare for everything that might happen. You can't know yet what particular challenges your baby might bring to you that might be different from someone else's baby.
I was not "ready" to have a baby up until the moment my dd was born and she was in my arms. Having a child changes your life but that isn't bad. My dd has not been an easy child in so many areas but somehow we have managed and she is now 13 years old. I love her and wouldn't change having her in my life.

CORKY982 Posts: 121
6/7/13 7:39 A

Thank you both!

I'm starting to really take inventory of my life, and the people who are negative.. well there just seems to be less of a place for them already. Don't get me wrong. I'm terrified about what is about to happen to my body lol. But I'm already starting to feel a closeness and attachment to what is growing inside me, and it's only been a few weeks :)

JENSTRESS Posts: 5,403
6/6/13 9:47 A


What a joy you will be experiencing! Pregnancy, even if you HATE it, you will love it. I felt terrible through a lot of my pregnancy, but every time I felt her move, it was the best feeling ever!!!

Enjoy every moment, and try to make the healthiest food choices possible! You might not be truly eating for two, but you nourish that baby with your choices!!! (plus, the weight will come off easier after if you are in the habit now!!)

It sounds to me like you are more ready than so many other people who have children. It WILL change your life, but seeing it change in your teens through your mom will really help you.

Congrats again, enjoy every second!!!

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6/5/13 4:33 P

No way, don't listen to the haters. I was in the position you are in when I was 21 years old. I announced my pregnancy to everyone at my 22nd birthday dinner. The baby's father (now my husband) and I weren't even 'together' at the time (although we've now been together 8 years) so you can imagine how that went! LOL But seriously, just a few generations ago it was common for us to start families even younger than that. Only YOU know what is in your heart. Be excited and don't let anyone take this once in a lifetime (the first-time) experience away from you.

CORKY982 Posts: 121
6/5/13 3:46 P

This is a vent.

I am 27 years old. In a stable relationship for 3.5 years. I own a house, I have a good job.. granted I JUST switched and have only been here for 3weeks now haha, but still. A good job. I own a car. My student loans are paid off. I'm a smart person. And I helped raise my sister when I was 16, because my mother had suddenly become a single mother with a newborn.

NO ONE is supportive. They tell me that I'm not prepared, not ready, can't handle this. And that they are saying this out of love and telling me that I'm not mentally prepared and all I can think of is cuddling a cute baby, and I'm not considering the ways my life will change. I KNOW my life will change. I have seen it first hand as a 16 year old, how my mother's life changed. And how mine changed by helping to raise it. I'm not going into this completely blind.

I just need some support, you know? Someone to congratulate me, want to talk baby with me, not shrug everything off as "morning sickness.. what did you expect? Butterflies?"

AGH. End rant. Just looking for some supportive friends to help me out through my first pregnancy.

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