WELCOME! You've come to the right place. Yes, I'm sure he would want you to continue to get as healthy as possible, and to honor his memory, I'm sure you will do it. For his memory, for your daughter AND FOR YOU! I can't even begin to imagine the pain of losing a child. Any words I would try to say are surely inadequate. Please know that my heart breaks for you and I will keep you in my prayers. The people on Spark People are very caring and supportive. I'm sure if you join a few teams of people with something in common with yourself, you will find many great supportive friends here. Please allow me to be one--even though we may not have a lot in common (my children are grown, I'm much older than you and I have a lot more than 50 lbs. to lose--even though I've already lost 103 lbs.). I'd like to be one of your Spark friends, cheering you on as we travel this journey together toward a healthy lifestyle. I find it's helpful to look at losing just 5 lbs. at a time, or 5 or 10% of my body weight at a time, rather than looking at the whole amount at once (that's depressing to me). Remember that it's not JUST about losing weight--it's about getting healthy and creating habits you can live with for the rest of your life. So taking it one baby step at a time will yield great results.
I treat SP as a job--I log on daily, track my food and exercise each day and try to earn at least 50 points a day before I log off. Those points can be earned by reading articles, watching videos, interacting with Spark friends, etc. It all works together to teach me how to get healthy and stay that way. I look forward to getting to knowing you. Remember, together we CAN do this.