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LADYSTARWIND SparkPoints: (79,343)
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8/2/13 1:16 A

I realize you are going through a very difficult time getting your health back...and that from your success at Medical school/internship/residency you also have a lot to offer to others......

Have you ever considered asking to work with the Medical Team who are getting you your treatments to form a Support Group for other patients dealing with your issues? Sometimes reaching outside ourselves, our 'comfort' zone, and giving what we can--even if it seems like it isn't much-- is very healing...and may mean more than we realize to others. It might connect you with those who can truly understand your situation as well. If you are not well enough to be there for each other in it by phone, or computer. It is the "being there" which is most important.
All the best to you,

Edited by: LADYSTARWIND at: 8/2/2013 (01:18)
KOMTRIA Posts: 1,063
8/1/13 9:07 P

I am so glad you found treatments. To feel lousy all the time and not be able to treat it would make it unbearable. Good for you for finding Sparkpeople. One thing you see here is the variety of places people are on their way to better health. The thing is the journey, not where we start or even end but to be in motion, in the right direction. Read as many of the success stories has you can. People really do make incredible progress. You will to.

E1SPAG SparkPoints: (32,694)
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8/1/13 8:53 P

Christina, welcome to Spark People and so sorry to hear about your struggles. How about volunteering just to get busy. I like the coffee shop idea and the library reading club too. Better yet, how about a light yoga class and some walking? Exercise does wonders for depression. Please feel free to send a message on my spark page. It is true, there are so many supportive people here - you just need to reach out! Good luck, Ellen

7/31/13 9:32 A

I am sorry to hear of your struggles with illness. It sounds like you really got a tough break, but through incredible fortitude were able to make it through school and beyond.

I've had medical issues my entire life. Heart condition, leg braces, phosphorous deficiency, so on. I also struggle with depression and panic disorder. I only share this because I know what it's like to be all alone, to want to reach out to connect and not be able to to; to feel physically crappy and to see no end in sight.

People are strong. You are proof of that. But people are also to a certain extent dependent on others. We are affectionate beings. We need support.

I am glad you came here, and I hope you find a lot of support. Do you see anyone for your depression?

SLIMMERKIWI had some great suggestions.

Best of luck, and feel free to contact me if you need a buddy. :)

MCFHARPIST SparkPoints: (56,424)
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7/31/13 3:35 A

I second everyone's suggestions. Make your home here at Sparkpeople. The warmth and caring found here will help carry you to a better place in your life.

HAPPYMENOW58 Posts: 2,264
7/30/13 4:33 P

Hello Christina,

I am so sorry for all the things you have gone through....You have really had a lot of rotten luck.....I think all of the suggestions have been good ones....Keep reading, sparking, blogging, and trying.....You are getting on a good track, don't give up! I would also suggest church functions, joining a YMCA.....and taking a class like Zumba....I have met a lot of nice people at Zumba.....I also think Book Clubs are a great way to socialize...Your local library may offer a community Book Club.......They often talk more about their personal lives...and don't discuss the book! Best wishes on your quest for good health....You can Email me for support/checkins if you wish...I would be glad to offer emotional support.

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7/29/13 6:35 A


Welcome to Spark People ! You've certainly have had to deal with a lot of adversity these last few years because of your illness. I know things may seem overwhelming right now, but you really have come a very long way. As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for all the positive things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. No one is perfect.

One thing I'm going to encourage you to do is friend INDYGIRL. if anyone knows what it's like to face adversity, it's her. At her highest weight, she weighed over 460+ pounds. two years later, she's lost half that weight.

Remember, you are NOT alone !! If you want to get to know people, start posting on the forums. Post questions. Reply to questions. that's how you'll meet people. it's a good way to start you socializing again.

Don't worry !! take baby steps literally and figuratively.

SLIMMERKIWI Posts: 25,942
7/29/13 3:47 A

Hi KRISTINA2525 - it sounds like you have been a very high achiever even in the face of ill health. Unfortunately, sometimes the ill health has a habit of biting us in the butt when we least need it (not that we EVER need it!)

I hope that you are receiving Therapy for Grief and Depression. I have had it in the past,, and have recently gone due to a downward spiral after my husband's unexpected and very sudden death at Xmas time.

Have you had bloods done to see if you are lacking anything .... B12, Vitamin D., etc?

I had become severely depressed after a bad car accident. I had always enjoyed being around people, too. Because of physical pain and depression, I shut off from heaps of people. I felt that they mostly didn't give too hoots about me. Because of this my Psychologist gave me a prescription:

Once a week I had to go to a Cafe for a coffee. It was preferably to be the same Cafe because then the staff would get to know me and would strike up a different type of greeting/conversation that they do with any Joe Blog walking in off the street. I used to watch the various people coming and going, and then realized that there were other regulars having a coffee or lunch in there, too, and it made it easier to strike up a conversation with them. It really DID work wonders:-) It needn't be a Cafe - a Library or a Park would also be good, altho' you don't have to interact with people at those places. Still, it gets you out and takes the focus off yourself.

You can also always turn to SP - as this is an international site there is generally someone around 24/7.

I went to have a peek at your SparkPage but notice that you don't have one. IF you would like to create one and have it open, others will be able to drop by and leave encouraging messages as well as the occasional goodie. They are always nice to receive, and I know they often make my day. It is a great way to make some really good friends, too!

I don't know if you belong to any teams to do with your conditions, but they are a good place to get support from others suffering from the same or similar issues. If you don't belong to one for Depression, you are more than welcome to have a look at the Dealing with Depression team, using the link in my signature. It has over 1 million members and they are very supportive.

I wish you well in finding the answers to your issues, and for a safe, happy and healthy outcome!

Kris xxx

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7/29/13 12:21 A

I'm so sorry. I have found lots of wonderful, supportive people here on SparkPeople. Honestly, sometimes it's what keeps me going during the day. I wish you all the best. Please contact me if you ever need a "friend." :)

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7/29/13 12:17 A

I have missed most of my entire life by being ill. Though I had undiagnosed Lyme disease making me quite ill, I got through college, medical school, internship, residency and fellowship. Then started the lost years. And now my old friends are retiring and I haven't even gotten started.

Recently I found out that at the same time I was finally getting treatment for Lyme disease, I was living in a rental house full of black mold. I lived there for 10 yrs, laying in bed every day, not understanding why I wasn't getting well. Now I finally know.

I have moved to Dallas for treatment. I know virtually nobody and have gotten so ill from the treatment that I can hardly stand to go on.

Previously, I gained weight because of a chronic pain problem that got better when I ate. I gained up to 290 pounds, even though I had been an athlete prior to illness. I had the duode

I had the duodenal switch procedure and lost weight down to 135 pounds. I need plastic surgery but can't afford it. I probably don't get proper nutrition due to my malabsorption.

I must get well within 5 years and get back to work or I will become homeless. My disability ends in 5 years.

I do much better when I am around people. I know virtually nobody and am too ill to go out and meet people.

I guess that about sums it up.

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