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6/6/13 11:49 A

One of the things that works for me is to put the NUMBER right out of my mind and just say to myself "I want to stay on a really healthy path for a month." That way your focus is off the number because the truth is that, if you stay on a healthy path, the number isn't the most important thing. It's how you feel about yourself and your successes that really matters.
You have started and that in itself is a wonderful thing! emoticon

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6/5/13 10:48 P

Definitely had those feelings before. They are scary, but I tend to ignore them because my life story has disproved those fears time and time again. I am a yo-yo girl. I have lost great amounts of weight many times, so I know I can do it. I know logically it is possible. I've also gained weight back many times. Keeping it off seems to be the tricky hard part. Focus on your positives and every time you have a thought like that, think (like really force yourself) of 1 reason why you can be successful in getting healthy. Good luck, you can do this emoticon !

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6/5/13 5:41 P

You can do it!

Those baby steps will add up.

You will find lots of great resources on sparks-the recipes, the articles, the tracker. And you will find lots of great member blogs to keep you motivated-many who started out like you.

Check out BUNNYKICKS blogs. They are motivating and inspiring. emoticon

Good luck!

Edited by: CLARK971 at: 6/5/2013 (18:05)
MEGAPEEJ Posts: 732
6/5/13 5:03 P

Isn't it funny how you just know "this time I'M DOING IT"?

When I first started, I didn't even know what goal weight to set, because I didn't know what was right for me. I had been a healthy weight before, but I had never been healthy, had never exercised (outside of mandated phys ed in school), and didn't know what I weighed before I gained all my weight. I picked a weight just inside the "normal" BMI and figured I would start there. I have since readjusted that goal on realizing that it was attainable, and I was going to reach it! As my body started to change, it was more realistic to picture myself at a healthy weight.

As mentioned before me, it's all about baby steps. You can't lose 100 lbs without losing 1 pound. If we try to do too much it becomes overwhelming, but making little decisions and setting little goals makes it so much more doable.


ICEDEMETER Posts: 1,332
6/1/13 8:09 P

I started this journey with a completely different mindset: not thinking at all about losing weight. I have some health issues, and it was noted that I was seriously deficient in iron and folate, so I started tracking everything I ate, ignored the calories, and concentrated on those nutrients.

I am a dedicated "foodie", so decided that learning to cook would be a good plan, so that I could get those nutrients in the most delicious ways possible. I knew that the best tasting foods I have ever had started with the freshest ingredients, so that's what I have been learning to cook with.

During the first month or so of doing this, I incidentally dropped a little over 10lbs. When I looked back over my tracker, I discovered that my daily calories had been dropping without any effort at all, just because the foods I was eating had more nutrition in less calorie-dense form.

My journey is towards a permanent, healthy, happy lifestyle and not towards a certain weight. I have continued experimenting with cooking, with wonderfully fresh foods, and have been steadily dropping pounds. I am currently at the lowest weight that I've been in over 30 years, and have no idea at what size I'll end up (I'm 5' 8"), or when that will happen. I seem to have naturally dropped in to what would be maintenance calorie range for ending up at 150lbs, so have a vague idea that I may end up there at some point in the next couple of years. I don't have a clue what I might look like at that weight, but don't really care --- I am absolutely positive that I'll FEEL great and will still be enjoying the changes, and that's what's important to me.

I am concentrating on the journey, making sure that all of the changes are ones that make me happy, and plan on continuing the experiment forever.

You might find it a lot easier to contemplate enjoying the journey and enjoying the changes, without worrying about where and when the end-point might be.

Good luck, and have fun with it!

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
6/1/13 7:01 P

I started in January at 90-100# overweight. I couldn't really face that number; it WAS overwhelming to image trying to lose ONE HUNDRED pounds... so instead, I made my first and only goal simply to "get under 200#" - which, requires a 46# loss, still "a lot" but i felt like that was something I could realistically achieve in 6-12 months, and a goal I could realistically LIVE WITH if it turned out that was all i was ever able to lose. I refused to try and look beyond it. Even my ticker that appears in my posts, was set up as "pounds lost" with the end goal of 46.

Five months later, I'm on the cusp of meeting that goal. The change in how I feel, physically and emotionally, is beyond what I could have ever imagined. And only NOW am I ready to look my Stage 2 Goal in the eye (which is - "reduce BMI from category-obese to category-overweight"). That's only another 15-20 pounds. I CAN DEAL WITH THAT. I have adjusted my ticker, it now shows the end goal of 185#.

And only once I reach "BMI=overweight" (185#) will i really start thinking about just what will be a realistic end goal for me. I'll change my ticker at that time. Right now, I just keep to a vague non-specific goal of someday reaching "BMI=normal."

Step by step! That's the plus of doing it gradually (1-2#/week); it gives you lots of time to gradually get used to the changes, and gradually brings those distant goals into focus. You can't imagine yourself "thin" now... but just you wait. Lose 20, then 40, then 60... and before you know it you're more than halfway there, going "well that wasn't so bad... what was I so afraid of?"

That "feels different this time" feeling - GRAB ON TO THAT. Every so often things just seem to "click" and that is the time to really run with it!

Edited by: BUNNYKICKS at: 6/1/2013 (19:05)
5/31/13 9:42 P

You can do it!

I agree with everyone on here. Don't think of it as losing 100 pounds (I'm in that boat too). I would try setting mini-goals, such as losing 5 or 10 pounds, adding water into your 'diet', adding exercise, adding fruits/vegs into your diet, etc. It's easier to do small changes than focus on one big one.

What I did when I started was I didn't even focus on weight loss. I focused more on the small changes-tracking my food to see where I was going wrong, adding a couple days of exercise, finding recipes so I could eat healthier, etc. I have a low thyroid so I still don't bother even focusing on weight loss (although I am trying to lose). My big thing right now is to eat better and feel comfortable in my own skin.

Remember, the scale isn't the best indication to see if you are losing weight; it helps a little but if you are gaining muscle, it can be a deterrent. Go by the way your clothes feel.

Try the small changes first (I can't recommend tracking your food enough-that does help big time!) and you will feel a difference. Some people can go all-out and do this and do fine; others have to do it slowly. You will find something that works for you! :)

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5/31/13 2:04 P

It felt so impossible to me that I never really tried. The only thing that wound up with me losing weight was simply making the changes I thought I needed to make to be healthy: I cut out almost all junk food and added sugars and started exercising. After a few days or a week I decided I had also been eating too much at regular meals and reduced portion sizes. A few weeks after that I weighed myself and had lost five pounds or whatever it was and I just kept going from there. I didn't have a motivation to lose weight as such for quite a while, but the scale didn't care. It kept going down anyway.

I think it helps a lot, when you are intimidated by the size of the task, to focus instead on the process itself. If you just make the changes you need to make for a healthy life, then odds are the results will follow. But forget about the future (and the past). Just focus on what you can do for yourself today.

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5/31/13 12:45 P

Yes I've totally felt that way before, I've felt hopeless about weight loss too, like it's never going to happen for me. But, over time and making the right choices, however small, my vision for success grows more and more. You've done the right thing by holding out your hand. Keep holding out your hand to people and they will keep helping u up on your feet. You don't have to do this alone!

This time on my journey, I'm starting small and building momentum.

Here's some things I do / have done:

Journal daily


Write a gratitude list.

Write things I like about myself.

I read outloud in a mirror positive affirmations

I help others who are new or struggling.

I envision myself at a healthy weight

I keep a list of goals, daily, weekly, monthly, accompanied with rewards for completing goals. For weekly goal accomplishments, I get pedicure/manicure/eyebrow threading. For every 5 pounds lost, I cash in on something worth $50 (just got new Bose headphone earbuds for losing 10 pounds...and once for a 5 pound loss, i got a full body massage) . For long term goal, I'm taking a huge vacation. These rewards are all things that I love doing, but ordinarily wouldn't do them, so I've made them rewards for goal accomplishment.

I attend overeaters anonymous meetings (excellent social and spiritual suport for me, which for me is an absolutely necessary piece to the healthy lifestyle puzzle)

I view one success story on spark a day.

I watch motivational videos or read motivational articles.

There's so many things I do to keep my motivation going, i'm forgetting some of them, I'm sure. But I didn't start out this way. I did a lot of reading and asked a lot of people about how to gain motivation. I slowly grabbed onto each tool of success one tool at a time, one day at a time.

Keep coming back!

Edited by: LAURA_LYNN at: 5/31/2013 (12:57)
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5/31/13 11:55 A


I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. change takes time. thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

Start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frusrated. Set some simple goals. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not exercising, don't start with an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals then you set new ones.

And that's how good health starts, it's not "all or nothing". It all about setting some simple goals we CAN stick with. Also, if you need inspiration, I highly recommend that you friend member INDYGIRL. Think your journey is daunting ? At her highest weight, she was 460+ pounds. Two years later, she's lost half that weight. Nothing is impossible if a person sets their mind to something.

Be kind to yourself as you would to others. NO ONE ever became a healthy eater overnight. Change takes time.

FITGLAMGIRL Posts: 2,045
5/30/13 11:05 P

Yes this journey can be so overwhelming. I think it's best to take it in small doses. When you look at a large chunk it can seem impossible. When I first started I took 5 pounds at a time. Once I lost 5 pounds then I concentrated on the next 5 and the next and so on. Once you get 20, 25, 30 off it won't seem so impossible.

One step at a time and remember this will take time. You didn't put it on over night, so it won't be coming off over night. Get a fitness plan in place and a meal program in place and work your plan.

You can do this! Good luck!

5/30/13 11:02 P

oh my gosh i just read my own story in your post! I just try to make the small changes add more water make better food choices and keep up with my exercise. You are so right to say 100lbs is scary because it is but look at it this way you have to build the stairs down to that goal cuz if you just jump off the cliff all you'll do is fall! You can do it and sparkpeople will be here to support you while ya do!!

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5/30/13 9:53 P

Hi----When I started I felt the same way and have more than 100 to lose. Yes I felt like you do but I take it 10 pounds at a time or you will defeat yourself. Do the best you can do and that is all you can do. At first it is hard to give up things you like. Coke was hard for me. I drink a lot of water. If there is any way to help you keep in touch. Some one small do not understand it as much. Thanks and God Bless You. Joan

5/30/13 8:59 P

Hey all, I just really need some comforting right now. I just started trying to loose weight again, I've tried before done it for a few days or a week and then stopped. Something just feels different this time, so I feel like I will stick to it. I am just so scared, I have a lot to loose (over 100 pounds) and if I look at pictures of people who are my target weight (150 and I'm 5'7) I think "I could never be that thin." I guess I just can't imagine being thin because I never have been before. It scares me, because if I can't imagine it even, how will it snap into reality. Has anyone felt this, or experienced this fear that you could never loose all the weight? It just feels crazy impossible!

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