Hi Tracey - I am sorry to hear that you are going through so much. and also your mother's recent diagnosis. I am sure that was a shock for everyone!
One thing that I DO suggest is that you ask your Dr for a referral to a Therapist if you don't have one. They are a brilliant resource when we are faced with a number of chronic health issues. You will be able to verbally unload which in itself can help to lighten the load on your shoulders. They will also be able to give you some really good coping techniques, rather than turning to food, which as you know, is never the answer. All that does is load us up to feel angry with ourselves and even more guilt.
Have you spoken with a Dietitian about your nutrition, to take into account your health? If not, it may be good getting a referral to one, too!
I know that exercise is limited for you, but perhaps you may be able to get in 5 minutes of walking here and there, all in your own home, which might help. Things like putting the groceries away, or putting your laundry away one at a time. I do that because I have skeletal issues which limit what I can do and the amount, and also suffer from fatigue, and this has worked brilliantly for me. I just pace myself and don't overdo it.
I am sending BIG hugs your way, Take care, Kris xxx
4/3/13 11:36 P
Thank you so much. It's so tough right now
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4/3/13 11:20 P
I'm so sorry... Cut yourself some slack and focus on getting through for now. Do eat some good-for-you stuff as you'll need the nutrients. But also cut yourself some slack.
Wishing you peaceful thoughts.
4/3/13 10:34 P
So things went from bad to worse. My mom called this afternoon and she has breast cancer. So I am just beyond my stress point. With my health issues, what's going on with my daughter and now this. Oh this is too much.
4/3/13 11:11 A
Thank you for the great tips I will have to try yoga. I think I can on demand from my cable company. Also need a hobby.
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4/3/13 10:53 A
I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline.
Don't beat yourself up because you turned to food for comfort. That's something every single one of us has done before and will do again. However, there are better ways to manage your stress. Have you ever considered taking yoga ? Yoga isn't just about being more flexible. There are wonderful yoga breathing exercises you could learn that would help you to relax. Studies have shown that learning to meditate can not only help a person reduce stress, but reduce their blood pressure too. So, if you've never tried yoga, you might consider a class.
If you can't afford going to a yoga studio, there are lots of other things you can do to manage your stress. You could sit and have a cup of tea. You can put on music and listen to your favorite tunes. Do you knit ? Knitting, sewing, painting, drawing, hooking a rug, etc... doing a craft of some kind is also an excellent way to relax and reduce stress. Do you have any hobbies ? If not, think about something you'd like to learn. How about a musical instrument ? Playing music is just as relaxing as listening to it.
Exercise is another great way to reduce stress. Can you walk ? If you can walk without any discomfort, try taking a walk when you can.
These are just a few simple things you can do to help reduce stress and keep from turning to food for comfort.
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4/3/13 10:04 A
I hope things get better for you soon. I am a stress eater, and found that it really helps to have my pre-packed bag of veggies all ready to go in the fridge. I can just grab it when I start to see I'm heading I the wrong direction and chomp, chomp, chomp. I allow myself to 'mindlessly eat' veggies.
If chocolate seems to be the answer (when is it not?), slice up an Asian pear and dip it in a combo of PB2 chocolate / peanut butter powder, a little good quality unsweetened cocoa and some cinnamon. You get your fruit in and some yumminess!
When possible, I find it works best for me to work with my foibles as opposed to against them.
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46,222 4/3/13 8:43 A
One thing I have learned is food is just a temporary feel-good experience, but the problem is, it doesn't make our problems go away. Coming to the message boards and asking for help or just to chat. Keeping a journal where you write down what you are experiencing may also help.
Below is a link to Coach Dean's series about emotional eating called "Mind Over Body". It's a 10-step plan to help you deal with things like emotional eating that can easily get you off track. Here's a link:
I am going through some hard times in my life right now and am a BIG emotional eater. I do not want to turn to food and trying real hard not to. Any suggestions on what I can do? Unfortunately I can't really exercise to much due to some health issues, so any ideas would be helpful. Thank you
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